Do you think my girlfriend is cheating on me?

Question

About 3 years ago she kissed another guy while we were going out and yes she has lied to me many of times and now lately I have this bad feeling again.. She's been going out a lot more.. She changed her hair.. Started talking to guys more.. She treats me pretty much the same but I just can't shake this feeling. I've asked her about it and yes she denied doing anything of the sort but what do I do?

So what if I can't prove it.. I don't want to make a mistake. I love her and I do want to be with her for the rest of my life but if I can prove she is cheating that's another story. Who's to say she doesn't just delete her texts and calls from guys or whatever? How can I catch her?

Answer 1

Reading your question, I cant tell if she is or isn't...Us females do tend to change our hairstyles and talk to people...
But I'll tell you what, if you have any doubt and this is something your not going to get out of your head, because you have no trust...It may be time to end this relationship...
Think about the decision you make tho, who knows she may not be cheating and you could lose the love of your life...
If you stay with her, you really need to work on the trust thing, this is so important...Talk to her, tell you how you feel and whats bugging you...Do this in a calm tone and do not say...I know your cheating...Do not accuse... talk...You'll get more info that way....Good Luck

Answer 2

Sorry, Honey, but YES I do. My Sisterhood membership card may be taken away from me for telling our secrets, but Here goes: She may indeed love you, but she thinks she NEEDS the attention from others. Giving you up is not an option for her, because she wants You, too. Yes, it's very selfish and self-centered, I admit.

Has it been firmly discussed and agreed that this was a mutually exclusive relationship? Don't assume that it's supposed to be without some active discussion. I know how you guys (don't get bent, now) can get possessive All on your own, with NO input from us. If no, then merely remain Friends (with benefits, if necessary). If yes, then read on....

DO NOT try to follow her, catch her, or trap her. Hold your head up, gather your self-esteem and self-respect, and Very Simply LET HER GO. Don't you deserve more? Don't you expect more? What kind of love is she offering you? In my world, the real thing Relieves stress, not causes stress.

Above all, DO NOT SETTLE. Merely pluck another number. There's a line forming for you already!

mikey3cc

Answer 3

It's obvious that she's cheating but you really can't prove it unless you got good evidence. Women are good at lying and cheating without you knowing. The only thing you can do is raise the attraction high between you two like do things romantic for her or give her more attention. If you don't then she will look for it somewhere else. But if she keeps seeing other guys and kissing them then maybe you should dump her. That's means that she's not ready for a commited relationship. She can't disrepect you if you been faithful to her the whole time. You deserve someone who is honest faithful.

Answer 4

Have her stay at home and spend more time with you. If she isnt treating you much differently, she is likely not cheating or seeing anyone else. That is one thing that most women cannot resist when cheating. She could be gaining more self confidence about herself since she has changed her appearance. However, with her lying to you, she is hiding something. Confront her with every lie and tell her that it makes you wonder, especially with what happened in the past and you do not want to go through that again. Stop her from talking to guys. Tell her you do not like it and if she keeps it up you are going to do the same to see how she likes it. Tell her to respect your feelings on the subject. If she doesnt then you know that her talking to them is more important than your relationship together.

Answer 5

You cannot catch her. Leaving her may be so difficult for you. If you can catch some other one and leave the place then you can forget her. Otherwise the grudge and frustration will kill you like anything! Try to run away from her ! If you can! She is trying to get the maximum from others you are the last one in her merrit list. Go and mingle with others. Keep yourself away from the very thoughts you have about her... don't let her be back... Even if you want she will not come back! (that is the truth-but you can't beleive it now)

Answer 6

I have never in my life been let down with my gut feelings. Seems the one thing that I can always count on. To thine own self be true, listen to your insides and don't forget that the truth of any matter will set you free. It may be painful but it will set you free. Don't stand to be cheated on , I don't care what the situation that is unfair to you . You deserve real true love and honesty after the time spent in this relationship. She may not have hit a home run but on second or third base. Don't sit and watch her do this to you , catch the ball and throw her out.

Answer 7

you need to go with your gut feelings her. she has cheated on you before and they always say once a cheater always a cheater. but you should confront her and talk to her about it. if she has lied to you before then it's going to be hard to tell now because you didn't know before until she told you. it sounds like she bored and wants a change in the relationship. the only ways things are going to workout if you are honest with each other. and it sounds like you still have trust issues with her. if I were you I would get out before it's to late and you get hurt in the end. and just because they delete their texts and calls doesn't mean you can't found out about them. you can check the phone bill and they will have the phone numbers on it. plus you can spy on he or even follow her if you are really that worried that she's cheating on you. when my husband cheated on me I had my friend follow him and take pictures and all to prove that he was cheating on me. plus she also had one of her friends come on to my husband who took the bait and proved that he was cheating. but do what you feel is right. good luck.

Answer 8

If you honestly feel like she's cheating on you, confront her and say; "Look, I really would like to trust you but our past says otherwise. I'm going to ask you one more time and I want an honest answer. Are you cheating on me? Are you ABOUT to cheat on me?"
If she says no, then either she's lying or telling the truth. If you still feel after that, that she's lying, then you should tell her that you can't be in this relationship not because you don't want to but you can't, you can't be in a relationship where you don't trust the other person.

Sorry you have to go through this.

Answer 9

k mike... first of all stop being a dumb ***... you caught that ***** kissing other guys and you have a strong feeling she is cheating on you once again... dont shake that feeling if you feel it go with it because most likely its true you dont deserve to be out played by some dirrty whore. okay, another mistake your making is you love someone who doesnt love you back because let me tell you something if that stank azz bytch loved you she would never kiss another guy . you can never expect people to change so you cant say no i love this fuking hooe i cant leave her because she will change no dont do that in life you can not be with others who will dragg your azz down with them ...there is a ladder in life and you wanna climp up that motha fuker not be dragged down by some scandelous hooe your life would be so much betta if you dumbed her because then you dont have to worry about if she is cheating or not... trust me ppl cheated on me b4 and i was in your position and i didnt go with that feeling but someone told me to and thank God i did because about a month later that baaaaaaaaaastered got hiv and thank goodness i went with that feeling or else i would have got it but i didnt....so for all you kno this woman could be having sex with men and then with you and spreading hiv and you dont want that you want a woman who does you good and loves you back so that is why you have to leave her or go on that show that is called cheaters and they will film her and prove that she is cheating if you really dont trust your feelings

Answer 10

It's not like you shouldn't be able to trust anyone but your self. I personally think that if she ever kissed another guy you should of dropped her right then and there. It's your choice though. Follow your heart & soul. Just make sure that whatever your decision is, that you are o.k. with it.