when it's obvious your man is messing you around and hints he wants you and sex with others what do you do?? what i did was loose my temper and tell him she/they can have him but i loved him enough to be his friend. Now he is posting back letters i sent to him saying nothing despite the fact he knows i'm hurting and the letters are the ones i'v written saying he had hurt me and **** on me and basically she/they could have him and his manhood and i'm not competing. He's reminding me of my own words and seems to be taking me at my word. Have i handled it wrong or should i be fighting for him playing it another way.???
2007-08-04 05:03:23 · 22 answers · asked by mymanomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
would you also say it is normal behaviour for him not to ring or write or anything to even explain or ask how i am when he knows what i think and feel and knows i'm hurting. Is this normal mans behaviour or what? Why isn't he ringing do you think, there again i did throw his engagement ring back at him and told him i love you but i'v let you go. what do you think the reason is for him not ringing when he knows i'm very hurt??
2007-08-04 05:06:57 · update #1
why do you want to play his game ? dump his loser butt and move on to someone who wont cheat or play games with you . There are way too many nice men out there that will treat you right to be messing with this loser . tell him to hit the bricks . good luck .
2007-08-04 05:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing games with you. If he cared about you at all he would not treat you like that. Let him go and don't give him a second thought or look. He is a cheater and a player. He thinks he is smart but you are the smart one by leaving him alone. If he calls you, don't answer the phone (if you don't have caller ID, hang up when you find out it is him). Don't write to him at all, don't even answer his letters to you, trash them. He will get the picture in time that you want no part of his games or him. He is a dog, let him go be with the other dogs, you sure don't want any fleas.
2007-08-04 12:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but just forget him and move on. This man will not bring you happiness. If you want a well balanced relationship with a caring person who wants you all to himself which, by the way is normal, then look elsewhere. I have finished with people who I have been very much in love with because I knew that in the long term, it was not right - it's hard but you can do it and you will get ove him. There is no point in wasting your time on him. Don't write to him anymore - use your time to enjoy yourself!
2007-08-04 12:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, i will say this only once
DUMP HIM
Listen, don`t try to work him out, i know it`s hard but put a brick wall up and move on. He will not change. If he loved you he wouldn`t cheat.
YOU WILL get over him. Take it from someone who has been there many times. In 6 months you will wonder what you saw in him. And there really are plenty more fish in the sea-- Millions of `em. Go and have fun looking. He`s a to***r and i`m a liar, cos i said i will say this only once and i`m back again.
2007-08-04 12:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
NO way! You shouldn't fight for someone that is cheating on you. I know that it hurts but if he was willing to take a chance on loosing you then he doesn't deserve you in the first place. You have to want more for yourself and he doesn't sound like he would be the guy of your dreams. Move on and have fun with life, there are way to many fish in the sea for you to be stressin over a looser.
2007-08-04 12:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a large substantially heavy bottomed frying pan and smash him in the balls with it with all the strength you can manage. This will put paid to his cheating ways for a while. Tell him you'll repeat the gesture if he ever even thinks about doing it again. Best of luck. x
2007-08-04 14:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk away, and forget this guy. If he doesn't want to be exclusive with you then get him out of your life. He's not what you want and you won't change him.
He doesn't ring you when he knows you're hurting because he doesn't care. You need to think about yourself, love yourself and get over this guy. There are much better men out there that one double time you.
2007-08-04 12:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by QWERTY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your SO puts you in the position of having to compete for them - don't. Let the other person have that booby prize - when you are in a relationship you should not have to compete for someones love and attention. Be worthy of it yes - compete against other people - um, oh hell no!
2007-08-04 12:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by andijxo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like you say he took you at your word - and why shouldn't he? How was he to know that you said and wrote to him that he could shove it wherevever he wanted with whoever he wanted, and yet you meant you really did care about what he did and wanted to talk about it and keep seeing him? I really can't see why you want to fight for this lowlife, but of course it is up to you. Try to be more honest in the future, and I advise you to pick your men more wisely.
2007-08-04 12:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Normsgirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'play it' at all. This is a cheater. Cheating isn't an act, it's a characteristic. If you don't like life with a cheater, move on. He will never change.
I have seen this too many times to be wrong about it.
2007-08-04 12:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Whynot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋