Since I was small I could only dream of the profession I am in. I'm getting worried because things are going too well. My life isn't supposed to be this way.
I'm afraid the next tragedy in my life is just around the corner and I'm living in a comfort zone and I just don't realize it. I'm scared to death of losing my mother, or something happening to one of my siblings. I already lost an uncle 3 years ago to a tragic accident. I was totally in a comfort zone then too.
I'm starting to grasp for things that cause alot of stress or friction in my life because I'm scared to death of being in that comfort zone again. I stay busy constantly to the point where I never get enough sleep. I'm trying to stay grounded and keep enough problems in my life so I don't suddenly get jarred again with the tragic news. I'd be willing to give it all up just so I can lead a normal life. What is wrong with me, I mean why can't I just be happy with everything I have going?
2007-08-04 04:33:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is called life and we never know whats around the corner but you cant live in fear. I was in a motorcycle accident in 2005 and lost my leg I was on life support for a month I have 2 kids and for a while i was the same way. I was scared something was going to happen to them and i wouldnt be able to do anything for them. You need to turn your outlook around and think positive. The reason things are going good are because of you, You made things this way, relax and cross that bridge when you get to it. If something happens you will deal with it and move on. GOOD LUCK, HANG IN THERE
2007-08-04 04:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by dave a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just be glad with what you have. If your life seems so good, be glad. Don't waste your thoughts or your time worrying about what could happen. Don't ground yourself because that won't change the course of things.
Your uncle didn't die in a tragic accident because you were in a "comfort zone". Accidents just happen. Death just happens. It happens no matter if you're living a great life or if you live in hell. We all lose what we love because we can't control that. Rejoice in what you love and what you have when you have it, and don't be thinking something bad is gonna happen.
If you want something to keep your mind occupied, try this: your life is great, right? Spend some spare time helping other people in worse situations than yours, help injured animals, help care for the planet around you. Volunteer. That really, really helps, because you are contributing to something good while keeping your mind off your fears, and gives you something better to worry about. Yes?
2007-08-04 04:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by intergalactica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing wrong with being in a good comfort zone. Sometimes tragedy comes but it has very little to do with your being in that comfort zone. You may be experiencing some anxienty attacks or chemical imbalance and going to the doctor for some medicines to help you with your sleep deprivation and maybe for some blood workup will help you get back on track. Just not sleeping well can really cause some of the problems. Don't give up on your dream job, too many people can only wish to be doing what they would like to do for the rest of the life. You are there just, accept some help from a doctor.
2007-08-04 04:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by silver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been the same way since I was a kid. It's called "Theory of Convergence". Ya, Imagine, being 9 years old, getting a new toy, and worrying if the car you are in will crash before you get home to play with it, ya- that was me...Or everytime I drive around the corner & approach my house, expect to see smoke coming from it. You just believe something bad has to happen when things are going good. You just expect something bad to happen, so it will take some of the shock value away when it does. I do it too, but I have depression. Maybe you should talk to a therapist about it, it couldn't hurt. Mine was able to make me see why most of those thoughts were silly... and they really don't make uncontrollable tragic events any easier, they just make you miserable when you are supposed to be happy.
2007-08-04 04:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Leia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Also I agree w intergalactica girl-it is prov en to make you feel better when helping others so sign up for some small volunteer work or help a neighbor o someone elderly once in a while that is not your regular habit. This really works as therapy as well- proven to take your mind off your problems for a while and give one a sense of purpose Spiritual side of your life should be developed as well if you feel you can do that-try to take a step in that direction -of your choice and see if something comes good from that. There is more to life than success money and satisfying job, though they are helpful tools they ar e not the do-all-end-all of your life either..
consider counseling for anxiety and perhaps unresolved grief and or PT SD after the tragic death. This can get better with some help and work on your part
P.S:
Don't let anyone approach trying to make you feel your feelings or emotions are silly or wrong You are the one who has those feelings and you have them .period. It is not up to anyone else to judge them. You have a right to seek happiness
If you get better you would be more able to be compassionate and help others in need But if you feel guilty or silly and don't get help you will be unable to contribute to society fully So get help and don't feel bad about it.Good for you and society in general
2007-08-04 04:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel, I feel the same, its called anxiety its not craziness. I have panic attacks and constant fear but I learn to occupy my mind with other things. Though bad things do happen so do the good,and I believe things happen for a reason like your profession that was in your plans so just enjoy the good things while they are here and not focus on whats going to happen. But a talk with a doctor might help with the anxiety or try yoga. Best of luck in your job and focus on the positive! Just wanted to tell you , you are not alone.
2007-08-04 05:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by J S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are just insecure down under the skin. You feel as if you are in a comfort zone when actually no one lives in a comfort zone for very long. Something will always come around and mess it up. Don't feel bad..... you are feeling like a normal person. Good Luck
2007-08-04 04:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Char A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. You got there for a reason for your job and you earned it. As for the family thing don't worry! You're just stressing out over your job. If you really feel bad tell your family members how much they mean to them and tell them all about your job. That way you will relieve your stress by talking about it and get to spend time with your family! You are probably just stressing over the new job so therefore everything is going to stess you out. You'r just overreacting and need to live day by day! take a vacation and when things are getting rough stop close your eyes and take a deep breath and imaging yourself achieving what you want. It sounds corny but if you focus on what you want and DON'T want you will be more likely to succede. Good luck and relax!
2007-08-04 04:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Delia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Timothy K, I know where you're coming from, been there, done that. I think that you could probably use some professional help at this point. It's a horrible feeling, waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. And you're not really living because you're so scared all the time. Please seek out a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist to help you out and to get you thru this time. It won't be forever but just for right now when you need the help.
I wish you well.
2007-08-04 04:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate the good times, they are a gift. Tragedy is part of life and even if you are prepared for it, it will still be horrible. Your playing games with yourself. You may need to talk your problems out with a professional because you are ruining your health. Why worry about things over which you have no control? Find someone to talk to . . .
2007-08-04 04:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋