My boyfriend really winds me up lately......I feel like i am being treated like a mug, whenever i want to see him he always comes up with an escuse not to, like hes working or going to the gym or busy doing something. When we first got together it would be a giving that we would spend the weekends together but now hes either working or got other plans. He says he needs the money, but money never seemed to bother him before. If i ask him to see me he always says hes busy. I'm starting to think hes cheating or avoiding me, i feel like i am trying 100% and hes just not making the effort. What du guys think and how can i mkae him see he is upsetting me? xx
2007-08-04 03:00:42 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Easy Honeybee - dump the bloke and find someone else who will appreciate you!
2007-08-12 02:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ok chances are he's cheating on you. Thats the most likely situation right now. The next most likely is that he's no longer interested in you. For a lot of guys they are really excited when they first meet and girl and want to spend a lot of time with her. Then after a short time he sees whether he really cares about her or not, which is why its not such a good idea to jump right into a relationship before you get to know the person. So ur thoughts are right he's either cheating on you or doesn't like you anymore, in both cases he doesn't want to be in that relationship anymore. Best idea to break it off before you get too hurt by the situation.
2007-08-04 03:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how busy we get there should always be time and room for our love ones. If he treats you like this and you are suspicious then ask him directly face to face. If he is finding it difficult to get on with life's routines around your relationship then he might not be ready to handle it or he is trying to send you a message and he hope you will get it. Every relationship should be based on honesty, trust and being able to communicate your feelings to each other amongst other things. Try to find out what is bothering him and also explain how it makes you feel when he does not have time for you. If he is not cheating on you and he is genuine then please try to understand him and give him a bit of breathing space. Find yourself something interesting to do to occupy your spare time such as tennis, swimming, going out with other friends and finding out if he will prefer being around others too rather than just you and him which means most of the time one thing and can make the relationship boring. Find out about the things he likes and involve yourself in it with his permission. Be his friend and not just his girlfriend too much emotions can smother a relationship.
On the otherhand, if he is disrespecting you and you are giving all you can to make it work but he just doesn't want to know honey, he probably have found someone and does not know how to tell you without hurting your feelings which he has anyway. Sort it out now before it is too late. And remember someone out there needs your love, kindness and attention. Get out while you still can before it's too late.
2007-08-12 00:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by mothergoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do is invite him over for an hour and calmly explain to him that this hurts you. But make sure that you don't over react and start yelling at each other. If he totally gets what your saying and wants to make it better then get out your calender and plan some dates you can go on dates. If he gets all defensive it might be time to end it, when people get defensive they usually have they've done something wrong. Make sure you don't bring up cheating because even if he got the rest of it assuming somebody cheated can turn pretty ugly, especially if the person finds out.
2007-08-04 03:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly he probably doesn't care how it is making you feel. The new has wore off the relationship and he is having his cake and eating it too, at your expense. Ah and thus the ways of the world. Don't act like it matters, reverse the circumstances don't be so available and if he cares he will wonder in turn what is up with you. If he doesn't better to find out now and move on. Don't waste your time and energy on someone who does not appreciate it. Needy is not appealing.
2007-08-04 03:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun that he is making you unhappy. I think you need to ask him if he still wants to be in a relationship with you as he seems to be 'drifting'. Ask him if he wants a break and see what his response is. It might help. Maybe he feels 'crowded' and needs some space or maybe he really does have concerns over money, or he might be seeing someone else, you have to cover all possibilities. If hes not 'the one' or you are not 'his one' it maybe time to go your seperate ways and start a fresh. Good Luck!!
2007-08-12 00:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but i think he is treating you like a mug.
I had an ex-boyfriend who was the same with me. We saw each other everyday because he wanted to see me, then a few months' later he stopped taking me out, He'd tell me to meet him at home with a takeaway, after he'd been out with" the lads "
We then split up and i found out he'd got some other girl pregnant, while he was with me.
Im not saying he is cheating, but it definitely doesn't seem like he into you. But no-one deserves to be treated the ways hes treating you. You need to dump him, before he turns around and dumps you.
2007-08-04 03:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by madusa666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's busy let him be. This can be a test to see whether he's serious about you or not. Have your own life and fun with your friends see whether he makes any effort to contact you or not. Even after he does, don't be all nice to him all of a sudden. Show him that you're upset by playin cool. If he doesn't call that sends a mssg that he's not interested.
2007-08-04 03:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by tastesofheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1.
Do not allow yourself to be treated in this fashion.
Number 2.
Leave him. No explanation. Now.
It may seem childish to go without saying anything but it will get the message directly to him without too much fuss on your part.
Currently now you are awaiting an 'explanation' from him. To be honest you do not need and you probably won't get it - you ARE worth more than this. So leave him and start your life afresh.
2007-08-10 06:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact him, at the moment it seems that you are constantly chasing him and he may need some time out. If he hasn't got the guts to be honest with you, just let him be for a while. Don;t ring, don;t text just wait for him to get in touch with you, if he misses you he will, if he doesn't then just move on. I know it may be hard, but he doesn't seem that interested in you at the moment, it may be something else that he has on his mind, if so he will confide ion you when he is ready.
2007-08-04 03:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Nickynackynoo. It's a hard balance to get with the attention thing - too much and you're smothering too little and you don't care, but you need to leave him alone see if he contacts you and makes any effort - after a couple of weeks it should be obvious if he's still interested or not.
2007-08-09 01:45:30 · answer #11 · answered by MI5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋