If you were rich, would you spoil your children....?

Question

Like on that ridiculous Super Sweet 16 show?

Answer 1

Okay let's start by saying this is a television show that has to get ratings and we really dont know if these people really live like this every day. They are gonna play on the outrageous this is what a reality type show does.

As far as spoiling my children , I would like to believe that I already spoil them with the love and affection, understanding.

As far as material things we all would like to have nicer or better things and just becasue your rich and you give your kids things doesn't mean that they have to be spoiled to that degree.

You have to teach kids values and respect, teach them that nothing really is free in life even if it is daddy's or mommy's money now that it could go away at any time.

As long as you give your kids the right values and continue to teach your kids respect, motivation, ambition, and the true value of a dollar, then I don' t see why they can't be spoiled.

It is all about what you do as a parent and how the kids takes that information becasue a poor kid could be that way as well with the money that is avaiable.

We look at cars, huge blow out parties, designer clothes, credit card shopping sprees as the culprit, but we as average families with average daily money look at these things becasue they are bigger and better- do we not buy our kids clothes, do we not try and buy our kids a car at 16, do we not give our kids a party that they love.

I gave my daughter a 16 party. It wasn't as huge as the show by any means was like 50 people or so.. my parents gave her a 98 convertaible mustang, and she got like 350.00 for driving course to get license, and a bunch of other gifts. She is a straight A student, is a well rounded child, with a desire to be a attorney.

Answer 2

Absolutly Not!!
I Believe Kids Should Work For Things... It Not Only Teaches Them To Help Out, But It Teaches Them The Value Of Money... If I Helped Out When I Was Younger, I Got A Few Bucks For It...I Did Get "Spoiled" On Special Occasions, But My Parents Were Also Seperated...

Answer 3

Theres a difference between a child having a lot of things, and being spoiled.

i gladly provide my son with anything his little heart desires, but only if i know his little heart is in the right place. I want him to have riches and wonderful things, but not be owned by them.

People who raise their children to take part in debutant parties and grand sweet sixteens are throwing the parties for themselves, either to not have to listen to a whining 16 year old, or because they have to one-up the last person who threw a sweet 16. It has nothing to do with the child, no matter what they say or do.

Answer 4

You do a child no favours by spoiling them.
I come from a well to do family but do not think my parents spoiled us. If we wanted name brand clothing, say a pair of jeans, my parents would pay for what regular jeans cost and we were expected to make up the difference for the label. We babysat, shovelled walks, delivered flyers to earn the extra money. We never got an allowance, though we did have chores but when we wanted to go somewhere or do something, if it was reasonable, we were given what money we needed.
Presents were for Birthdays and Christmas.
One way my parents did spoil us was with their time and attention. We had a cottage at the lake which was supplied with all sorts of things for us kids. A boat for water skiing, a canoe, a sailboat, bikes, mini-bikes etc. We went on nature walks and collected wildflowers, identified them and made scrap books. We learnt birdwatching, went fishing, we learnt how to downhill ski as a family, and so much more.
We are now all grown but I think we'd be considered happy productive members of our community. If parents want to spoil their children do it with your time. Interact with your kids, that's what they really want.

Answer 5

I've never seen the show, but I do know of parents (rich or not) who often try to "buy off" their kids rather than spend quality time with them.

As for me, I am not rich, but I didn't mind giving my daughter a treat now and then...and now I do the same for my grandson. It doesn't make them spoiled. Love doesn't spoil a child.

For the material things I really couldn't afford, I encouraged my daughter to work when she was 16 as long as her grades didn't slip, and I will encourage her to do the same for my grandson, too. You appreaciate things more when you earn them.

Answer 6

I'd spoil them, but not that much. Those kids on that show are spoiled BEYOND what any kid should have. I can understand a parent wanting to give their kids everything they can, but some of those kids on that show are huge snobs and very very....rotten. I do pity them though. If anything ever happened to mommy and daddy's money, they'd have a rude awakening for sure when they couldn't go shopping and drop 3000 bucks without thinking.

Answer 7

No!
My grandparents were *rich* and they raised me. They taught me the value of money and what it meant to save and spend wisely. When I was 16 they decided that I needed to go to work, if I wanted extra clothes , or other things teens want, then I had to buy them myself.
They also taught me that it isn't always about money and what it can/ can't buy for you.
I learned alot from them and while I in no way ( and probably never will) have the amount of money they did, I still try to instill the same values in my children. I try to teach them to save and what it will mean for their future. I have tried to teach them if they really want something, they need to work for it , not whine for it.
I have never watched that TV show and I don't think I would want to. ( heck just look at people like Paris Hilton and her friends who were spoiled... NOT how I want my kids to be)

Answer 8

prob. My husband makes over $100,000 right now and I do spoil my 2 kids. Though I don't consider being *rich* just stable. I would make sure they were leval though. The kids on the 16 show are all brats and I would never allow that

Answer 9

No, I would not.
Although we are not weatlhy, we live in a very affluent community. We see parents spoiling their children every single day - and for the most part - it's not helpful as they are not accountible or responsible for their actions. They know mom and dad have the money to bail them out of their situation - whether it be legal, blame teachers for their child's bad grades/disrespectful attitudes, crashing their brand new Hummer they got for their 16th birthday, etc. The parents will pay to protect the "family name." It's shameful.
My kids are as appalled by it as my husband and I.

Answer 10

No, just look at those children. And they are our future. I'm afraid for my future, watching that show sometimes. If I were rich, I wouldn't spoil my children. Of course, I don't believe in spoiling children as it is.