My mother in law is looking after her 14 month old twin nieces after her good for nothing criminal brother got chucked in gaol for armed robbery (the mother is a waste of skin junkie).
Anyway, she has had the girls for 6 months & my problem is this: I can't seem to do anything right! I am not allowed to take them outside for a walk as it is too cold (she took them for a walk right after telling me it was too cold). I can't give them anything to eat because they have just had a bottle (she gave them come cake right after telling me no). I can't help her by changing a nappy or giving a bottle because I won't be able to do it right.
What is this woman's problem? I know it isn't just me she does this to so it isn't personal but I would really like to know what the deal is.
2007-08-03 20:49:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should add that she is a GREAT care giver to those girls. They are always clean, fed, cuddled & loved so there is absolutely noi reason for anyone to worry that she isn't taking care of them.
I am also pretty sure it isn't personal as she doesn't let her own daughter help out much either.
I have decided to not offer to help any more & see if it makes a difference. Maybe she will come to me if she needs a break!
2007-08-03 21:03:30 · update #1
Hi There -
That's very sweet of you to want to help so badly. Chances are, it is a security thing with her. She feels gratified and more useful with what she's doing, and although it's clear she deeply cares about those girls, her conduct suggests selfishness. Sit down and talk with her - try to think of things together to do that you can help out with. If she resists, then you may have to settle with just visiting. Ultimately it is her call - although it is wise to accept the help and be grateful she has such a sweet daughter - that may not be what she will do. You may have to accept that and move on.
Good luck!
Lauren
2007-08-03 20:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh MILs all the world over!
Suggest you do the opposite of what you really want to do.
Or just go about your own way ignoring the children. She will have to ask for help at one time. Till then stay away and behave they do not exist.
Tough and sad.
All the best.
2007-08-04 04:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she feels a little resonsible for what the parents of the kids did and we all are very protect of the 1s we love. she will come around sooner or later. then she will be grateful u was there.
2007-08-04 08:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by wendy*scotty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a control issue. Many people like to be in control and cannot even accept help from anyone.
2007-08-04 04:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she feels like you took her place with her son so she isnt to happy with it or she just doent like u anyway if shes that way it might be because she worrys 1 went bad and she wants the kids to do better then the last maybe blameing herself for it
2007-08-04 03:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by kenn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just remember one thing when you have children: don´t let your MIL take care of them or you´ll not be able to be their mother.
2007-08-06 02:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by helloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her connection to her brother she is being protective of them, however if she is a bad caregiver for these children, why don't you try and get custody of them?
2007-08-04 03:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think she doesn't like you... talk to your husband...
2007-08-04 03:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋