be mono in a realationship! What must i do to stop desiring other girls! Its like an exsplosion in my stomach happens and I cant stop thinking about it. Am I a sex addict? How do I control these overpowering urges? I feel hat the urges control me in all aspects of life.
2007-08-03 20:20:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your behavior is out of control.
And you definition of "Love and Care" could use some tweeking as for certain that is not how the women on the recieving end feel about your style of operation.
You are "USING these women, looking at them like a piece of meat" That's what we women call it, with great disgust for having been used in such a manner.
Time to look again at your attitudes toward women, at your desires, and at your urges. Yes, I believe you are describing an addiction to sex. These urges can and should be controlled - or you're in for a short miserable life.
If you are really serious about self-control. If you want to change your thought patterns and behaviors, there is a website and a 24-hour phone number to an organization that has specific programs called "every man's battle" workshops. look-up newlife.com or call 1-800-NEWLIFE
This program and the books have helped thousands of men with their behaviors, thoughts, and relationships.
2007-08-03 21:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the behavior is interfering with your ability to function on a daily basis then its a problem. One who has a sexual addiction never reaches a point of sexual satisfaction. There is usually an underlying reason for the addiction but if you feel your appetite for sex is over the top and you suspect it may be a sexual addiction then I suggest you seek out therapy to ascertain the underlying reason for the lack of control. Once you identify the problem and the reason a therapist can give you the tools to help control it. Good luck.
2007-08-03 20:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex like anything else can be an addiction, you may have what they call an addictive personality and are prone to other additions as well. You would be best to seek serious counseling. It is one thing to be single and sew your wild oats, it is quite another when an addiction takes over your life and it becomes unbalanced. Get help.
2007-08-03 20:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by sara r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, do I feel your pain.
Seriously, I KNOW what you MEAN.
And.... the person you cheat on will always think that you're selfish, you're thoughtless, you care nothing about them, you never loved them, etc etc.....
Maybe this is a horrible way to commiserate, but. Let me say. It is nice to see someone who UNDERSTANDS and is in the same hole-filled boat.
I'm not a wh*re.
I respect myself.
It's none of those usual accusations people who don't get it will fling your way, you know??
I do love. Immensely.
But what's love got to do with it?
The last time around, I started seeing this guy, moved in with him. We lived together for a number of months.....and out of the blue, one day....an ex contacted me. We started trading emails and phonecalls, etc. I got caught before I did anything physical, but the guy I was living with was heartbroken.
I told him I needed a certain kind of attention I wasn't getting from him. I needed to feel adored and I wasn't feeling that way. I told him what to do about it.....
....he didn't do it.....
So....yeah. It happened again. And again. And again. And again. And it's a surefire way to make someone miserable.
I tend to get involved with steadfastly loyal people.
I've often wondered if people like you and I should just not be in committed relationships. If we should just drift and seek out other people like us, or find open relationship situations.
But I do enjoy being in a relationship....there are many things about it that satisfy me and content my heart, you know??
It is so frustrating..... and I know an outsider who doesn't understand would say, "FRUSTRATING?! For WHO?! The person you're cheating on?!"..... they don't get it. It is SO frustrating......
I just......I don't know. Something I want comes my way and I'm unable to not pursue it..... and it's not about "the thrill of the chase" or anything stupid like that, either. I've found myself in love - yes, real love - (and I know the poster of this will understand me) - but I've found myself in love with more than one person. On several occasions.
I tend to do what feels good at the time. The consequences always come. And I'm responsible. I own up to what I did wrong and I face them.
.....
I know I probably haven't been of much help. But. I saw your post and I HAD TO RESPOND.....because I'm in the very same position......
When you find the miracle solution, please let me know. ;)
2007-08-03 21:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by tappetytap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be okay if the women you are with are fine with you being polyamorous. However, it's important for you and them that you get tested for STDs often.
It may take something drastic happening to make you even truly want to change your ways.
2007-08-03 20:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if the main person you are dating were to cheat on you? You want to have trust in your primary relationship and you need to try harder to be trustworthy.
2007-08-04 02:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like professional help might be a good idea. these women deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, and honesty. good luck.
2007-08-03 20:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool
2007-08-03 20:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by big j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur a guy....how do u expect to act?
2007-08-03 20:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋