what is your opinion to the unwed mothers?
2007-08-03 19:29:49 · 12 answers · asked by 89 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I feel you will get a big debate of different answers on this subject. Here's my take-
People look down on unwed mothers becasue society thinks it is wrong but how many people get married and have kids that end in divorce today. I feel marriage isn't something that you should do because your pregnant.
It is harder on the single parent but it depends on that persons ambitions on how their life goes. I agree that some kids have a hard time with growing up without two parentss but why marry and ended up in divorce that cause problems for the kids as well.
I think kids need two parents and just because the parents didn't marry doesnt mean they cant have 2 parents.
The real questions should be why have kids if you dont want to be a parent. Because having kids is a lot of work and if you aren't willing to make sacrifces in your life then don't have them.
So I feel it isn't a fact for unwed mothers that they have low education, poverty ect. it is simply a problem that exsists for unwed mothers, divorced mothers, divorced fathers, unwed fathers., and many wed parents as well.
Society doesn't accept because we all have a white picket fence view of life and it doesn't exsist . we can believe that it does but we are only lying to ourselves. There are bigger problems in our world than a single unwed mother.
2007-08-04 02:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want my opinion OF the unwed mother or advice FOR the unwed mother? I was unwed for my first baby whos 3 now but I married him later and am now preggo with my 2nd. I dont have an opinion but sure have some advice. Let me know
2007-08-03 19:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by mrs05moore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to me married and another thing to be not married. It just depends on you... and your religon...beliefs...family upbringing etc. If your not married and have no man in your life, you life will be more harder I think. On the same token there is nothing wrong with it, its up to you. Marriage is a huge commitment. Not only do you have to think about your self and child, you have to think about your spouse...
Unwed mothers are usually finical burdened and it's a hug problem in society today... There are more mother finical burdened then the ones that are successful and make it on there own without any kind of assistance or help form there family....etc...
It also effects the children in different ways, like a role model, etc... but if the role model is not what the kids needs, you first priority is to protect them first and then you.
Good Luck...
2007-08-03 19:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by orangie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an unwed mother. I'm the happiest I've ever been. Im still with my kids father though. Marriage doesn't always have to come first, sometimes we have an opps! before marriage or if your like me you just don't believe in the the whole marriage thing anyways! You are just as respectable as any other woman. Good luck with whatever your going through!
2007-08-03 19:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by pink_october29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's healthier for a child to have two parents, provided that the parents indeed love each other. However, that does not mean a woman should remain married to a person she does not love for the sake of the child, as I believe that to be more harmful than a single mother raising the child.
2007-08-03 19:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Terras 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh. I think it's a mistake. Children need two parents. Women raising children alone have a tougher time: they don't have the resources -- money or energy -- and their children lack a male role model. Single women raising children are more likely to live in poverty, have less education, and have more problems raising their children, especially boys. I know it's unpopular to say these things, but a lot of studies have proven these things. I wish more women would wait to have children until they get married first.
2007-08-03 19:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are very strong women. Some women decide to have a child by their selfs to keep away from all of the confusion with child support, another persons input on how to raise their child and custody.
2007-08-03 19:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Armygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what you are asking for. Maybe you could add some detail.
If it's in general, there is nothing wrong with it. Families come in every shape and size. Just love your babies and make them feel safe and comfy.
2007-08-03 19:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by pchickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a terribly vague question, but I will say getting married because you're pregnant is one of the worst reasons there is.
2007-08-03 19:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that.
They love their kids just the same... They could have reasons of being single.. I really dont have a problem with it.
2007-08-03 19:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Colline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋