what do i do?

Question

i have a 14 yr old daughter that i got custody of because of her mothers drug abuse. i gave her the world, i wanted to show her the good life. i recieved a call from her teacher one day, informing me that he was kicking her out of his class due to disrespect. so i grounded her. she had big plans to go to a party on new years, i told her no. that night she left with her mother at 2am while i was asleep and went to the police and put child abuse charges on me. so the following week i went to court to get sole custody papers, only to be served with a protection from abuse order. she crossed from missouri into ks so my hands were tied. all the charges were thrown out due to the bruise color chart but the worthles mother now has custody of her. this woman has lost her other daughter, put one kid up for adoption and has another on the way. the kcks court granted her custody, she quit her job, draws welfare and is now going for child support. what do i do?

Answer 1

You could get a lawyer but they usually let kids that age choose which parent they want to live with. You gave her the world thereby spoiling her rotten and instead of respecting you she turned on you. Thats how spoiled kids act. All you can do now is talk to a lawyer.

Answer 2

First, why are you asking such a serious question here? That leads me to wonder how serious you are--and obviously this is incredibly important.

That said, I suppose I'd ask about the bruise(s)--this is something for you to think about--did you do anything abusive, or is the charge nonsense?

If it is nonsense, get a good lawyer. If you really love your daugther, it's worth the cost (time, money, broken heart) to pay for the best lawyer in the world.

If you want her back for the wrong reasons, consider doing the right thing and letting her go. I have a father who was abusive and left when I was 18. I haven't seen him in almost 10 years. I think the best thing he has done in my life is to leave me alone. I hope that isn't the case for you as well--but obviously you should do some soul searching.

Answer 3

The courts suck, don't they? I don't know what you can legally do but if you can prove your daughter's mother is a lowlife, maybe you have a better chance of getting your daughter back? If not, at least try to prove that any child support you would be obligated to give come in the form of you paying expenses directly to ensure your daughter is benefitting from the support. Good luck...I'll say a prayer for ya!

Answer 4

Get a really good attorney and go after her! I know it's expensive, but you're gonna have to have a good attorney. Sounds like your daughter over-reacted to the discipline. If her mom's that irresponsible, it shouldn't be that hard to prove that you should regain custody. I wish you the best of luck. Maybe, since the mom is such a waste, your daughter will figure that out and be ready to come back willingly. Again, good luck to you!

Answer 5

Fight it, prove the mother is a drug addict and you will get custody back. But get the proof, first. Then take her back to court. If that doesn't work, then you might have daughter who life is going to be really hard on her and she will have to learn the hard way if she wants to be grown. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 6

Pay the child support. Stay out of their drama. It wont be long til she comes back to you. Then if she acts up in your custody, file unruly charges against her and she will be answering to a probation officer about curfew & other things. But she will still be in your custody. Stick to your rules, she will soon enough understand them & one day thank you. Good luck.

Answer 7

Get a lawyer and see what your rights are, but my guess is you'll pay child support and have to be happy with visitation rights.

Answer 8

Get a lawyer and fight

Answer 9

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