after my dad died i found it so hard to talk with the rest of my family. i exspecally dont want them to be close to me ... i dont want them to know what is going on im my life. i used to be very close to them and was able to share anything and everything with them. i dont understand why this would happen i thought it would pass but he died Nov. 06. i would think that it would make me want to be even closer to them but i dont. why would i do this and is there a way to get over it? i was the closest to my dad. he was my dad and best friend. i dont know if this would have anything to do with it. anything is appreatiated. thanks
2007-08-03 17:53:52 · 4 answers · asked by unratedbabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
these are all good answers thank you.
2007-08-03 18:58:58 · update #1
I lost my father14 years ago and he was also my best friend. Your story sounds just like me. I will tell you that after all this time I still can't open up to anyone in my family. I don't think you ever get over it but I promise it will get a little easier in time. It is so hard to lose someone that is so close to you,and I think that you are afraid if you let someone else in you might get hurt again or you feel like you are replacing your father which in your mind could never happen.Try talking to someone do not keep it all bottled up inside this will only make it worse for you. Ask god for help he is always listening, so is your father he would not want you to be unhappy. I talk to my father every day and think about all of the good times somehow this always makes me feel better.I hope this helps you,just know that you are never alone God Bless You !!!
2007-08-03 18:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Toni C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for the loss of your best friend/dad. my best guess would be that you are still grieving. even tho you think you arent. you are still getting used to the idea of him no longer being there. it has only been 9 months. in your own time, you will want to talk to, and be close to the rest of your family again. some things just cant be rushed. maby get a journal, and write down how you feel. especially if you want to talk, but just dont want to talk to a person about how you are feeling. if you write it in a journal, you might feel a little better being able to get things off your chest. im sorry, i really dont know of anything else to suggest.
2007-08-04 01:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by della 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adding to what della said, you may also be afraid of losing another person you get close to. We all must someday die, and leave the ones that love us. But there is a hope of being reunited with them oneday. That hope is Jesus Christ. I'm sorry for your loss. Della had a great answer.
2007-08-04 01:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you, by any chance, angry at them for still being here when your Dad is not?
Your feelings are your own, and you should recognize them,
but you also should recognize when they may be unfair to others.
2007-08-04 01:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋