He said he was going to the store and never came back. 5years later he shows up, I've been hanging out with him, he said he was sorry and a changed man. That he's grown up now and wants to make up for the past. I said ok. So we've been talking for 3 weeks and all of a sudden I think he dissappeared again. What do I do? Call him, ask what happen. Or just let him be...help
2007-08-03 17:44:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why in the world did you take him back after 5 yrs???? anyway?? that was weird ? you should of known he could leave again!!! forget him and get over him, he's a looser and most likely just needed a place to stay while in your town !!! he knew he could sucker you up ! thats what this type of guy does and they do it to other women too !! no telling how many kids he has out there ???? and women too !!! i've had a boyfriend to just one day be gone too and came back sorry to so your not alone and yes i took him back and then later on kicked him to the curve !! But he wasn't gone for that long when he came back or i wouldn't took him back!! a real man don't just get up one day and disappear like that ! and if they do it once and get by with it they will do it again !! sorry for you both really ! just forget about this guy !!
2007-08-03 17:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm just a teenager, so don't value my idealistic advice too much.
That said, I think you have a right to know what he's doing and whether he's disappeared again. It's not being clingy or irrational. He must realize he's lost a certain amount of trust from you in those five years he's been gone, and if he doesn't, let him know he can't walk in and out of the life you and your son have. If you've given him one too many chances already, letting him be sounds like a fair option. But if it's only been this once after the five year gap, I'd say call him and figure out what he's thinking.
2007-08-03 17:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by onceuponanairplane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. I would remove my feelings from the situation and allow him to get to know his son ONLY. I know its hard trust me . Call him and remind him of his changed men bull and let him know when he is ready to be that changed man he can see his son only then If he shows back up you let him know you are not a revolving door . You and your son deserve better. This is hard because after 5 years and you talked to him again. I know your emotions are on a roller coaster. Do what you have been doing for the past five without him Be strong Pray
2007-08-03 17:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatestilettovixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! i can't believe you're even asking that. If i left and went to the store and was gone for a day, I would have a lot of explaining to do. What did he do, and Where did he go? He must not care for you or his son if he left without saying anything. I would let him go and never let him back in your life again!
2007-08-03 17:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by kirk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be. If he wasn't man enough to begin with to help you raise your son, then why would he be now. Honestly it sounds like you both are better off with out him. He's already missed his chance once, and for a second time. I wouldn't add any problems to you or your son's life. It's his loss and your gain. at least you are able to see your beautiful miracle grow, learn, and enjoy every moment with him. Don't let it bother you, he's already let that chance go.
2007-08-03 17:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you should have done 5 years ago, not be bother, if he
not a man to handle his responsibitity then, why on earth would
you think that he would step up now. you are better off without
this looser. this not not good for your son. and that really should have been what you thought of before allow him back
in his life..
2007-08-03 17:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for your son you need to talk to him at least one last time. Then if it does not work, don't look back and just move on. In that case better to have someone as a friend, not husband.
2007-08-03 17:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sharp Shooter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's leaving like this obviously he isn't as interested in you and your son as he says he is. Just forget him because he doesn't deserve you and focus on the more important thing at hand: you son.
2007-08-03 17:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by BreezeGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be... he probably came back to be nosy and poke and prod.. If you know what I mean. Move on girlfriend, you've done just fine without him up to this point.
2007-08-03 17:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by French 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. DOnt take him back. Dont believe him ither. If he did it before what makes you think hes not gonna do that again?
2007-08-03 18:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Inessik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋