About 2 weeks ago my son came down with a virus... vomiting/fever (Dr just said bed rest)... while he was sick he was pooing in his pants and I thought it was just because he was sick and had a bit of diarhea. Well he got over it and everything was fine he was going to the toilet like normal... until this week!!
Everyday this week he's been pooing in his pants, he went to daycare tue,wed,thur and no accidents... but as soon as we were home he would poo in his pants... I ask him why he didn't go to the toilet and he just says "so I did it"... I say where do you go poo... he says "the toilet"... WHY is he not going though? he'll go and do a pee just fine though...
He has had a slight fever the last 2 days and a bit of a cough, could he still have a virus? today I've been taking to the toilet every hour (like training again) and nothing... I said i'm having a shower... came out 5 min and he had pooed in his pants... i'm about to bloody snap as I just don't know what else to do?? HELP!!
2007-08-03 16:42:15 · 22 answers · asked by JazzyKat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
sorry forgot to mention the poo...
it's not a firm stool... and it's not really really runny... it's in the middle... but it's very very foul smelling... not your normal poo smell...
2007-08-03 16:51:27 · update #1
Clearly he is not 100% yet...Sounds like it could be leakage of bowel movenmt..or maybe he things he has to pass gass..but this comes out instead..or maybe..it happens so fast in him....It could be he does it at home as that is the end of the day..and all the food he has had has not settled and digested propley..and his stomache can not hold it..so..he has uncontrolable loose movemnts.
I would take him back to the Dr..it sounds like he can not control what is happening.. I doubt very much he is doing it for attention as it was suggested.
2007-08-03 17:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys are hard to break my son didn't break until he was three and half i was working on it when he turned three and was almost broke when we moved to a new house and he wouldn't go on the potty in the new house so i started over again my son has a kidney problems so the kidney specialist said he couldn't be scolded or discplined at all not even to say try harder so the daycare he was going to couln't say that either we'd just say that's okay some kids are scared when they poo because they think there losing apart of their body or it could be it hurt's to go poo my daughter didn't break until she was three which is unusal for a girl she's perfectly healthy but she was scared of the big toilet for a long time when she was 2 1/2 i thought she was broke her dad started working nights and she didn't get to see him to much (daddy's girl) and she started pooing in her pants and peeing and a child therpist who goes to our church said she's rebeling about her dad being gone because she'd look right at me squat down and poo right her pants and so i put a diaper back on her and a couple months later she broke quick and the same for my son when he broke he broke quick does your son have rotta virus that could be why he's sick well i hope this helps we've all been their good luck
2007-08-03 17:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by roxyjinks38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I would like to say that I am sorry that you and your family are going through this awful situation but your son is what would commonly be known as a paedophile - and I am not saying that to be awful - I have read/researched this subject for years as a foster carer of sexually abused children and it is probably the start of what can become a cycle. Paedophiles usually start at around the age of 11 and usually prey on their brothers/sisters/cousins etc You need to all sit down as a family and discuss this very serious situation - it is brilliant that it has been brought out in the open but the issues still have to be dealt with. Your son has a problem and he needs appropriate counselling by professionals. He will probably continue to do this (in secret if he has to) as he has already done it - and as Dr Phil says "past behaviour is a predictor of future behaviour". As is the case with most sex offenders, when they are caught it is usually not the first time they have done it. If this was my son, I would bring the police into it as he is a sex offender and needs to recognise this - along with appropriate legal avenues he will get all the help that he needs and also you will be protecting future (god forbid) victims if he is already in the sights of authorities. This is such a sad situation, but if not addressed he will most probably re-offend and continue to do so throughout his adult years. Sorry, I had to be blunt. PS At 13 your son knew what he was doing was wrong (you didn't state if he had any psychological problems so I assume he is normal). Good luck. I hope you can get this issue resolved and your son the help he most obviously needs.
2016-05-17 21:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are very sorry that he has begun to poo in his pants again like a baby. think of something he really likes to do or somewhere he really likes to go and let him know that "tomorrow" you are going to do that thing or go to that place. let him know that you really wish that he could go also but that you cannot take a baby, only a big boy. then really do not let him participate if he doesn't stop the poo-ing in his pants. of course you don't have to really leave him , even a matter of a few minutes will seem like an eternity to him, but he will get the message. he has not styarted doing this because he was or is sick. he has just learned its a great way to get attention.if he continues just keep re-enforcing how much you would like to do that special someting with him again. tjere will not be any need to punish him additionally.
2007-08-03 17:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by pj p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it diarhea in his pants? if it is he prolly doesn't have control over it, he maybe trying to make it...however if it's hard or normal then i'd say he's doing it to get the attention,you like every other mama in the world were prolly worried as all hell when he was sick especially with the throwing up, so you babied him yeah? well he liked that...just explain to him that it's not ok and that it's gross and ppl don't do that. put him back into pullups and tell him that he's not ready for underwear if he poops in his pants and that he needs to go back into pullups til he can be a big boy, ya know what i mean? push his little buttons and let him know that he's taking a step back and encourage him going on the potty. Then whenever he does go to the potty be sooo happy, reward him, coo....high five whatever. he'll get it
2007-08-03 16:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now, now, darling, calm down, no need to hit the walls, it's JUST poop.
The foul smell and the consistancy is likely to be the infection leaving his body. I know when my son was ill with a cold, his bowel movements were incredibly fowl, and had mucus in it, really gross, huh? Yeah, it was.
The action though, honestly puzzles me, but here are a few theories. If he's sick and he can't control it, he may not realize that he's not getting to the pot fast enough. If he's sick and he can control it, he may realize that you are making a big deal out of it, and milking the attention. (yes, I know, bad theory, but it really happens.)((I came up with that one, based on the fact that he did not have accidents at daycare.)) He may have seen that mommy payed MUCH more attention (not that you don't dear, don't get me wrong) to him when he was ill and having accidents. Keep on with the training, don't snap, and Good luck.
2007-08-03 17:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Flamingpoptart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bloody snap. Don't holler at him. He was trained. It may be a result of the virus. Keep reminding him to use the toilet and make a big fuss when he does it properly...POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT. Also, is it a little bit of diarrhea? or a full bowel movement? If it's the former, give him a break. If it's the latter, do the positive reinforcement. I bought my daughter a special pair of underwear that she LOVED. She would never poo in her "bunny softs".
2007-08-03 16:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when children want more attention from their parents they will revert to pooing in their pants again. It is normal especially if for some reason your son feels insecure. If there are any changes at home sometimes that is why children do that. My son started doing this and I finally had to start disciplining him so that he would start going potty in the toilet again.
2007-08-03 16:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do POSITIVE RE_ENFORCEMENTS.
put some poop targets in the toilet, draw them on a square of tissue with a red marker. or put a few cherrios in the toilet and get him interested in pooping in the potty again. He may be doing it for attention. Tell him big boys dont poop their pants, give him a special poop reward, a star sticker, a piece of candy or anything. Teach him the poop in the potty dance, that can ONLY be done after pooping in the potty, make it up, but follow through!
Tell him you will take him to a special place if he poops in the potty, the zoo, mcdonalds, the park.
If he likes Spider Man for instance or Sponge Bob, get him special potty pants with that character and tell him not to poop on Spider Man or Sponge Bob that they wont enjoy it.
Dont let him see your frustration, because just think its equally as frustrating for him.
Make Potty pooping fun, be ingenius think smarter and be more creative than a 3 yr old!
2007-08-03 16:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by bex920 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aye pobresito, el nene esta malito :( He is still sick, I know you are frustrated but I am sure he can't help it. He probably doesn't feel like he has to poo and then before he knows it he did in his pants. Take him to the doctor and demand to have him checked more thoroughly and see if they can figure out why he is sick and make sure to give him plenty of liquids so he doesn't dehydrate,
2007-08-03 17:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋