guy called me a sl*t?

Question

so, my best guy friend called me a sl*t and told me to just go **** myself after he found out I was dating a guy he didnt particularly like. THe guy I'm dating is really nice to me, and has gotten me to realize I didnt have to take stuff like that. I am only 14, and never really realized it was all that bad before when he called me fat, and asked me awkward questions (which i told him i didnt like). I ignored him after he sent me harsh messages and emails. And asked my close friends if they thought I was a sl*t as well. Of course, they said no. But he even asked my sisters best friend. Now the guy is writing me emails, months later, wishing we could talk again. Saying he just has really bad luck. What should I say to him? I want to be harsh, and tell him it isnt right for him to say things like that to anyone (especially his friends!).
By the way, I'm sorry for the mild language

Answer 1

Don't pay attention,the guy is a loser and you're a winner. Be happy and get rid of the guy as soon as you can.

Answer 2

It sounds to me as if your best guy friend had a big old fashioned crush on you and when he found out that you were dating a guy that he didn't like, he lashed out at you when he was really only mad at himself for not telling you that he liked you to begin with. Guys are dumb like that sometimes, however, that doesn't excuse his blatant disrespect.

It's normal to want to be harsh right back to him but you know what, it won't make what happened disappear. Be the bigger person and tell him that what he said was disrespectful, rude and hurtful. With friends like that, you certainly don't need enemies. You may also ask him how he would feel if a guy talked to his sister or mother like that.

You could also forgive him for what he did and take him at his word. He definitely should apologize though. It's the right thing to do.

Answer 3

Just tell him that you were really hurt and I wouldnt talk to him or start a friendship with him again. It is just like being in a physically abusive relationship. He abused you, he hurt your feelings and destroyed your self respect. You deserve to have better friends who dont tear you down like that. I am sure you are a wonderful person and deserve friends who know you are. Now dont be harsh because if you are harsh he is going to be the same back. Then you guys are going to get into it bad again. So just tell him that you were hurt. Good luck and I hope things go better for you.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like your best guy friend was jealous of the guy you were or are dating. That's why he was so upset and that's why he said those cruel things to you. He had been hoping to date you himself.

When people call you names, just laugh it off. The only one who can and should judge your character and behavior is you. So, look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? Are there any things that you would change? If there are things you would change, start working on them. Don't listen to either the flattery or criticism of people around you. Their opinions are colored by all their own emotional baggage that they carry around.

Now that this friend wants to talk again, it is totally up to you. Was there anything about him that you liked? Is there any reason to talk to him or call him a friend again? Is there something he can learn from you if you talk to him again? If the answer is yes, talk to him, but make it perfectly clear you won't tolerate his abusive, nasty language. Tell him he needs to respect you as much as you respect yourself. If the answer is no, tell him exactly that; that there is no reason to continue your friendship and you would appreciate it if he didn't contact you again.

Answer 5

The meaning of sl*t is someone who sleeps around. Are you having sex with multiple partners and having one night stands on a regular basis? If yes, then sorry but you are. If you're not, then f** him. I don't know why people call themselves our friends but are mean to us and put us down. I am 24 years old and I am still dealing with this. Our neighbor and my husband are good friends. She puts both of us down constantly but says she would die for us in a heartbeat. Don't get it. You're young, I'm sure you have lots of friends. Screw the guy who puts you down. Tell him to jump off a cliff. Tell him exactly how you feel and to never contact you again. Don't worry about his feelings and being too harsh to him, obviously he doesn't care about your's. Watch out for yourself. Do what makes you happy. Don't feel pressured to be his friend. Learn to stand up to people now and it will be easier when you get older. Good luck. Ever need advise, feel free to drop me an email (beamersunshyne@yahoo)

Answer 6

Wow, that guy is a real asshole. I'd tell him something like this.

"Dear (His name),
It's pretty pathetic spreading rumors and calling me childish labels that do not reflect who I really am, and know you want me to talk to you again? You should have thought of that before you said those things to me. Try using that thing in your skull for once and stop being so jealous. I'm gonna go hangout with MY boyfriend now. See you later"

Something like that, that'll be a kick in the face for him. Or you can just write your own.

Answer 7

I would tell him how hurt you are by the things he said about you and remind him true friends do not say things like that to their friends. In time maybe you can forgive him. Have you ever considered that maybe he only said those things to you because maybe he was jealous because he liked you and had hoped you felt the same but you ended up liking someone else instead.

Answer 8

Be honest with him and let him know that what he said to you was very childish and uncalled for. It was ridiculous for him to say those things to you because you were dating a guy he didn't like.

The thing is, he is supposed to be your friend...even when he doesn't agree with a decision you've made. Friends stand by you and support you even when they disagree with you or think you are making a wrong decision.

Do you really want to have a friend like that?? Would you be able to trust him again??

Don't be afraid to let him know how much he hurt you and broke your trust in him. I would also let him know that you don't need friends like him, because they are "convienent friends". That means when it's convienent for them they want to be your friend....if he wanted to be your friend, he should have been your friend all the time!!

Answer 9

a real friend is a friend who is always there for you in good times and bad. They also never say anything bad about you but stick up for you and cheer you on. I can't tell you what to do but i can give you advise. call him a that. Tell him how you feel and that is not what a friend does so therefore he is not a True friend

Answer 10

The best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour. Since he's been a jealous idiot in the past you don't want him around for round two in the future. Too bad so sad.