My mom has been in an abusive relationship for the past 7 yrs. She also has an alcohol problem and has even just not come home from the bar leavin me to care 4 my 2 young sisters. She is also in and out of jail a lot. I love my lil sisters to death and i want them to be safe. I worry that when school starts and I go back to my fathers house they will be in danger. I spend weeks at my fathers house and only visit my mother every other weekend; while my lil sisters spend every other week w/ my mother and the oppisit week w/ their father. I am thinkin of moving to my mothers to protect my lil sisters but i dont know if i should. I have a great life w. my father and would be giving up so much! Does anyone have any opinion on if i should do this or wat else i could do.
P.S. I have tried talking to my mom and it doesnt help and my sisters father will not take full cusditity.
2007-08-03 15:46:36 · 11 answers · asked by sweet_stuff_0989 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My heart goes out to you, and bless your heart for looking out for your sisters.
Try and find an alternative for your sister’s situation if you can.
Have you called child services? If not I would call them and talk to someone about the situation and the fact that you feel you need to leave a safe secure and happy home with your Dad to take care of your sisters, tell them you feel your sisters could be in danger, you may need to be persistent as sometimes child services do not act when they should... they will need to asses the situation as well.
I feel for you, and I understand why you feel the way you do, but is it wise to move in with your mother in an abusive situation? You should not move in and potentially put yourself in danger rather your sisters should be placed elsewhere, with a stable member of the family or other alternative.
Can you talk to your Dad about this?? I'm sure he would not want to see you move back in either. He maybe able to help you with your feelings and with your sisters. I hope that something can be done for your sisters they are being neglected by your mother... understand that it is not your fault this is happening and you should not suffer the consequences either.
Talk to your Dad and other family members, let them know what your feelings are, they may be able to help you find a good solution for your sisters. Talk to family services and also maybe even the authorities.
Keep yourself safe and happy so that you can be there for your sisters. Communicate with the people who love and care you.
2007-08-03 16:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by napaneefc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to your sisters that maybe the best place for them would be at their father's house. If that doesnt work or they are too young to convince or make a decision themselves then I would move home. They are your sisters, you can still go to se eyour father and spend time with him whether you spend a week or a weekend, just be there most of the time for your sisters. I am assuming they are probably very young and cant fend for themselves yet. It is your decision in the end but think over it and good luck!
2007-08-03 15:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little sisters are in a very dangerous situation. Unfortunately, it looks as if the responsibility to take care of them has fallen into your hands. If their dad will not take full custody of them, maybe your dad could? If he is not willing or able, then you need to call Social Services and have them get involved. Understand that this would probably create a huge problem between you and your mom, but you need to put your little sister's welfare above that of a self-indulgent mother. Chances are good that your sisters would be put in foster care until your mom can prove that she can take care of them...but I am sure that you would still be able to see them often. I don't think the answer is for you to move to your mom's because you will be enabling your mom to continue her self-destructive behavior. She'll know she can depend on you to take care of your sisters and she'll never be the mother that you and they deserve. I encourage you to talk with your dad or maybe a counselor at school or church to go over your options. I am so sorry that this tough decision is yours, but you are right to worry about them.
2007-08-03 16:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Stuff that is very thoughtful of you to give up or even to consider giving up a pretty good life with your dad in order to protect you little siblings. There is a group called Alateen and perhaps you should investigate it as it may have some help for you living with this awful disease of alcoholism. There you will meet other kids who are experiencing the same things as you and you can learn from one and other and share your life's stories. If necessary you may have to call the child welfare in your area if you believe it would be in your sister's best interest. They may not remove the kids immediately but come over and check up on your mom and make sure the young ones are safe. But if your mom proves to be unfit as a parent then it may become necessary for them to remove the kids and find suitable living arrangements for them until such a time as your mom straightens her life out and proves she can provide a safe and nurturing environment for the kids. Best of luck to you and your siblings, and your mom as well.
2007-08-03 15:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are 2 fathers right your with whom you are living comfortable and there is this abusive dad of your half sisters right your mom is an alcoholic and must be a very selffish person not a very good influnce for you all so why not all live with your dad or at least with your dad try to look for outsiders /fosterparents, a nice family or couple that want and financially can effort to give your sisters all what they need for some time , call it time out for your mom , their dad and you more important let your sisters have a say in this too.Its important to let the sisters stay together at all times not punish them to seperate them assuming they are close and they must be afterwhat they ae going trough.I pray for a good outcome and they are very fortunate to have you as their sister, I admire you already so much.
2007-08-03 15:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know the ages of any one but - Chilled services in most states don't work and they will try to take them and displace them. Did you ask you father advice if not you should. He needs to know way you are thinking of moving. Kan you reason with her when she is sober try an get her to go into rehab. You don mention much the one abusing your mother. How about calling the caps on him when he is out of control and then you and sisters file report of abuse agents him if its true and so bad he is abusive toward you three as well as your mom.
2007-08-03 16:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 04:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into codependency because you are teetering on the edge. I can really understand your concern for your little sisters. However, you must take care of yourself and do what is best for you. Whatever that may be.
2007-08-03 15:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the girls should be together .. try to get Dad to get them with him. If mom has been in jail it should be easy to do. Tell dad you shouldn't have to worry about this ....he should....
2007-08-03 15:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-08-03 15:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by xXx-CrAzYsMuRf911-xXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋