My Father always said that he would kill us if we were gay.
2007-08-03 15:21:46 · 26 answers · asked by Curious Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no just let him do it himself when his ready. your just make it worse.
2007-08-03 16:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by lilemogirl17 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you certain that your brothe is gay? Even if you are it is not your business to tell your father. That is a decission for your brother to make. If your father is that closed minded and cold hearted to make such a statement it might be best for all concerned if you and your brother just keep this between the two of you and wait to tell dad when he has mellowed, or your brother has moved far away.
2007-08-03 15:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Coming out is a very significant, important moment for a gay person. If your brother wants to come out of the closet, he should be the one to say it. He needs your support, and is probably counting on your discretion. Besides, it's really not your place to be telling anyone at all.
And on a side note, I think it's really unfair and unkind for your father to say he would "kill you" if you were gay.
2007-08-03 15:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Its not your place to tell your father your brothers business. He will let people know when hes ready. You don't want to betray your brothers trust. Just be there for him when hes ready to come out.
2007-08-03 15:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should tell your father, it is not your place to tell your father that he is gay. would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot ? i think your brother would hate you for the rest of his life if you do tell your father. if i was your brother i would hate you if you done that to me.
keep the peace with your brother, let your brother tell your dad.
2007-08-03 15:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by stinger_4202 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell your father and he kills your brother as you expect, you will be an accessory.
Better to be a christian and turn the other cheek.
2007-08-03 15:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "out" your brother! Let him tell when he's ready & then support him. Why would you want to tell your dad when he has flat out told you all he would kill you if you were gay?!
2007-08-03 21:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! you should not. I think it should be up to him if he wants to come out. Sometimes parents as will as people take news like that pretty bad! Just let him know he has your love and support, and that its OK if he chooses that life style. because you are born gay you don't become gay
2007-08-03 15:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by karen n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its certainly not wrong to tell your Father unless he is crazy and would really damage "kill" brother. But i would let my brother tell who he wants when/if he wants to. Thats a topic most people do not want to have known.
2007-08-03 15:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it should come from you. That is between your brother and father. And when that time come that your father knows, i hope he will learn to accept it.
2007-08-03 15:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm thats a hard one. i say yes and no cause it might be better if he tells him but than if you do he can have time to cool down and think a bit before he talks to your brother. i guess i would tell him and be very calm and dont be a taddle tal to get him into trouble on purpose. i found out that when someone eles tells the person its easier than me telling my dad something and him flipen out on me and not thinking of what he is doing you know? so anyways good luck and dont get to stressed out
2007-08-03 15:28:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋