this is gonna sound silly, but i met this really tall, attractive, charming guy at borders two weeks ago. after making eye contact for a good forty five minutes, he ends up coming up and talking to me. i tell him im only a sophmore in high school, and he says he is a freshman in college, which i thought meant he just graduated. so i go out with him (not without a lot of thought), and we get coffee, and end up going into the city, and after a really fun night, we end up making out in his car. then he tells me he just FINISHED his freshman year in college. and he says he would like to see me again. so i meet with him, and somehow end up going to his place, and i didnt have sex, but we spent 3 hours making out and doing more than just kissing, which seemed right at the time. but the next few days, i felt dirty, seeing as it was the first time i had ever done ANYTHING, i had never even had a kiss before. the thing is he is insanely smart, charming, an artist and musician. what should i do?
2007-08-03 15:00:02 · 13 answers · asked by xxjess07xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys. i guess i just needed some support. because he is so charming and smart, and it kinda just shocked me that he was interested. and i'm a lot smarter than you probably think, and made sure that someone always knew where i was. also, this guy seems pretty nice, i told him once that sex was not an option, and i ended up telling him again, and he seemed insulted and said "i know you might not think so, but i do have some class." also, i get offered the alcoholic menu, so i think he originally came up to me, becuase i look older. so thanks for your help, it was more like support for an almost made up mind.
2007-08-03 15:34:19 · update #1
you are underage and both know it so be careful, as he could get done for rape or sex with a juvenile.
otherwise the age gap is really not much in the whole scheme of things.
it sounds like he is pretty sophisticated and it depends what you both want from this relationship.
it sounds like he is after sex, and if in college then you may be one of many.
you could date him for a little while but make it clear you wont be having sex until you are at least 16, if he wants to hang around then you know he is for real.
when he tries to go further with you say you have a heavy period to put him off lol
2007-08-03 15:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to slow down a bit and get to know each other more. If you guys get caught doing anything he can go to jail. Just by what you have done so far he could get in trouble. Fours years at your ages is a big difference. Obviously he has done stuff like this before because I don't think he really thought twice about what he was doing with you. Like you said, it was your first time EVER. There is a big difference between 15 and 19 in a mental aspect and so much more in the physical aspect. Be careful...you don't want anyone getting hurt here.
2007-08-03 22:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that you are so caught up in the fact that you really like him, and he's the first person that you have done stuff with, that you don't see the real thing. No offense but he is almost 20 and you are 15. Doesnt that raise a few questions?! like How desperate could he be to go for a 15 year old??
Lets say he really did like you and hes not desperate. It doesnt matter, you are jail bait. You shouldnt mess around with guys that much older, it could go badly.
It's just not smart of you to do that. Not to mention if you keep going at the rate your are, you could end up pregnant.
2007-08-03 22:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were my daughter (mine is about your age), this is what i would say......you are a beautiful smart young lady leave this guy alone or i will make sure he enjoys jail. there is a world of differance between a 15 year old and 19. at 15 i was teaching preschool summer bible school. at 19 i was trying to start my own family with my husband (at that time) and active duty military. just wait. if it is meet to be i am sure you will run into him again when YOUR 19.
2007-08-05 22:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 19 ?!!lol,but seriously you might want to take this slow because he is so much older than you.Try just being his friend for now and explore other options when you turn older.
2007-08-03 22:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BAAAD NEWS!! If he is insanely smart, then he could easily con the pants off you. Have fun while your young with people around your age.
2007-08-03 22:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Shelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, if you are 15, it is bad news. it would be rape for him. but i wont say. i never had a guy like me when i was 15. so go for it if you want but i would warn you tht he will wnat to have sex with you.
2007-08-03 22:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, then you could just date him and do "innocent" stuff with him till you're 18.
2007-08-03 22:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your parents think? Remember to honor your parents and heed their advice at all times.
2007-08-03 22:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes obviously trying to get more outta you. Don't do it, get out! collage guys all want sum a**, even if its satatory rape!
2007-08-03 22:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋