Narcissism or not?

Question

I pretty much fit all the symptoms, but not entirely. I like to think i am a good person, but a lot of the times I just dont care about other people's feelings and find them boring. I am planning on becoming a model soon(as soon as im done with my portfolio). I think I am unique, very good looking, and very intelligent(my test scores prove that). I am not very shallow, yet I crave designer clothes, and pretty much the best of everything. I am a white male. I love looking in the mirror constantly just to make sure tha I look perfect. When I help out the homeless people or give money to charity I expect to be thanked/complimented/applauded for my generosity. I dream big, kinda living in my own world. I also need to be constantly complimented and have to be the best at everything. I feel that I am superior to everyone else, and can always find flaws in others.

I am a nice person though, once you get to know me. What do you think?

Answer 1

Sounds like you have some of the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality disorder(NPD).
NPD is characterized by four major things:
1. Need to be special
2. Fear of Intimacy
3. Fear of abandonment
4. Tendency to idealize and devalue

It's a form of arrested development. Every child is born narcissistic, it cannot see the boundaries between itself and the outside world. If I'm hungry the world's hungry. If I have a need the world just knows it and should respond to it. The child also has a need to feel loved, special and protected by its parents. During the 2's and beyond a child grows out of this and learns that it is an individual and its thoughts, needs, beliefs, likes and dislikes may be different, and are separate from others. And also learns that it has to take care of its own needs sometimes.
Sometimes a narcissistic injury occurs, like abuse or neglect, and this normal growth process doesn't take place, or is incomplete. The child grows into adulthood with these same unresolved needs, the need to be special, the need to be protected and cared for, the tendency to idealize and devalue(a child idealizes its parents and sees them as the perfect providors).
Most adults have these needs but in the person with NPD these needs are gross and permeate almost everything they do. Of course, nobody perfectly fits the NPD profile. Just some better than others. Everyone walking the planet has some narcissistic traits.
Image is also very important to the person with NPD. Their image(usually a super-human false one) is a substitute for self-esteem(the deep feeling that one is a valuable, lovable person), and must be constantly maintained. Their self-esteem is based almost entirely on what others think of them(really what they imagine others think of them), and are constantly searching for validation. Either they're better than or worse than, never just a person amongst people(idealize and devalue).
For more on NPD you can Google it. Dr. Sam Vankin has written much on the subject and is available for free.

Answer 2

I know a boy who I work with called Alex in an office, he was well educated he told me I think a world of him, it is very really Alex ever helped me, but when my boss was off and the director was off I was working with him in the office with Alex, he was keep braking the bones in his fingers, I told him that I don't like the sound of that, he told me I know Richard it is very annoying. I found that I remember one argument on the steers with Alex of something but this was going back over 20 years ago, Alex who was 17 at the time in charge of me, I thought it was normal behaver, I can see some Narcissist treats in Alex, I built a good friendship with Alex he thought the world of me but in some way always had this feeling of a self inside of him, he told me a story of a girl friend that he dislike and all the bad things about her but at the same time he showed empathy to me as he thinks his the best, but now and again if I asked for help Alex will always help but he can be very funny personality inside of him, at the same time he must have known that he had a personality and he also understand that I am a work college, it is just like I am which a friend who is a Narcissist that he welcomes me more than anybody else. It is possible what I don't know back then maybe an answer to a cure for Narcissism? Can a Narcissi Really Commit Suicide. Richard Exeter UK

Answer 3

Hi there.
At this point in time you are only and clearly interested in yourself. This is OK as long as you are not intentionally and knowingly hurting people. Your personality sounds perfect indicative of the modelling world. This is not a narcissistic personality. It is normal to want to be thanked for the good you do such as giving to charity. One word of advice though, no one is superior to anybody.Also you are admitting you are vain and that is as shallow as it sounds is a vital part of surviving in the competitive industry you are involved in. You also sound to me like you may be young given your personality traits and in time you Will find that you will find other peoples feelings important . Yes you might be a nice person once people get to know you but for those who dont know you may come off the wrong way.
and sad but true you will be very lonely which is not what you would want in the short or long term..
good luck

Answer 4

You are shallow, needing recognition. Very unattractive quality in anybody, but especially you, because you are so attractive, you will only attract others just like you. Well maybe not, cause you will want the other to do all the work in the relationship to ensure that you will stay in it. Your charity does not really count if your heart is not in the right place. Your looks will fade then you will equal nothing to anybody.

About this "once you get to know me" bit. How does somebody get to know somebody like you? You are hiding behind your looks, and will only let people see what you want them to see. Maybe you don't even know. ????????????

Stay out of the mirror more often and into your heart more often, you will see things turn around for you.

Answer 5

You need a hobby...that doesn't include reflective surfaces. I think it is brave for you to ask this question so bluntly....but - Why do you need designer clothes, constant thanks/gratitude and to be complimented all of the time? You sound insecure. Focus on things that have nothing to do with you. There are a lot of great things in this world that have nothing to do with looking good and seeming perfect to others. Get over it. There's more important things out there. If you stay this way you may be good looking and rich...but very very lonely.

Answer 6

Sounds like low self esteem with a touch of narcissism. Try not to be so self-absorbed all the time - or at least try not to appear so self-absorbed. Remember for everyone else it's not all about you.

You should help people because you want to help and find satisfaction in it, not because you need kudos and a pat on the back.

Answer 7

yeah, i think it is. but not that much because i think it's just that you are a very confident person and that really great. you plan out your life and have this outlook in life. but thinking great about yourself and finding flaws in others doesn't really become good anymore. expect nothing in return.

try to think of others also. not only yourself. because when you reach the point of not caring..then..that's ultimately narcissism. =)

goooood luck with that!

Answer 8

Until you shed all those insecure problems you have with yourself you might be a good person. But right now all I hear is a bunch of BS....

Answer 9

Didn't you ask this question before? You still need to go to English 101 and Get over youself.....

Answer 10

if i decided I love you too, you would have to love me as well. if the cycle kept going, you'd soon become irrelelvent

look what happened to jesus...