My mom is a drinker and I just poured all of her wine down the sink. I am serious, this is not a joke.?

Question

Ok, so my mom drinks. Let me give you some background info. She always use to drink since I can remeber. Her dad was also a drinker. Her and my mom always use to get into fight. And she is more of the angry drunk, not the happy kind. I'd say alm ost exactly 4 years ago, she got really nasty. The fights were big! She got so bad that she almost stabbed my dad. That is when he went to the police. So, she got to sleep in jail for a day, and I am really confused about the rest. Soon after, my parents got a divorce. She went to this rehab like thing. She wasn't drinking after that. But during this year, I noticed suspicious stuff. Since she use to drink, I know what wine smells like. I would sniff her glass and I thought it smelled like wine. I discovered the actual wine bottle in late May. We have been having fights too and with my sister. One time, there was a fight where my sis took a knife and said she would do it. She didn't. I think se has depression. So I took

her wine ( she isn't here right now ) and put it down the sink. She doesn't know I know she drinks. She drinks every night, you can tell by the way she talks. I am getting fed up and am deciding to put an end to this. We'll probably have a big confrontation tonight maybe, idk. Any advice?

And I am serious!!!!!!!!!!!! I may ask dumb questions that have no point to them, but this one I actually mean it. THIS IS NOT MADE UP!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope me emphasizing it so much will show you I am not maing this up!!!!!!!!!!! Besides, why would I make this up?!?!?!

I;m afraid of telling other people because she always says that my dad is out to get me and if he knows anything then he will ruin her life. IDK if that is the truth or not.

OK, so I tried contacting my local Al Anon but they are closed right now. What now, annd I was going to send some of you an email but supposedly I exceeded my # of email quota thingy today. What now, so should I go with my dad tonight? If I do she could go back to the store and get wine when I'm not there.

wwefanatic, IMingwon't work, whenever I press a the thing that says to IM the person it says webpage has expired. sorry. this is so wierd because I tried three options so far and none have worked. Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!

Doodlestuff, I am 13, my sister is 15, but I have a feeling this is affecting my sis a lot more than it is me! Me and my sister have a good relationship and she told me that she was going through depression ( although there are times in which has a smile on her face often ).

Guys, Y!A says I have reached my daily quota for sending emails,

Answer 1

call the rehab folks or child services and say the mother is not suitable to raise you guys and take her away.

Answer 2

Eastcoast it is very sad to think that your mom was sober for a while then blew her sobriety. There is a group called Alanon and Alateen that is for friends and family of alcoholics and helps them learn how to live better with the person who drinks. Booze can and does affect the whole family and it sounds like you have experienced this already. It is not a cure all but you would meet people who are going through the same feelings and experiences that you and your sister are at present. If you were to attend then you could share your experiences and listen to how others deal with the problem drinker. If you were to look in the phonebook you could find the number of these programs in your area. Best of luck to you and hopefully the confrontation that you will be encountering later isn't too nasty.

Answer 3

My dad is an alcoholic too. As was his father. After many years of trying to influence him by telling him it was bad, or pouring his stuff down the sink, I realized that no matter what I did, he wouldn't change.

Sooner or later, you're going to have to come to that conclusion as well, as hard as it is to hear. Pouring the wine down the sink is not the way to go; nor is filling it with water, or the numerous other ways people logically think would help. What you need to do is get yourself out of the situation. My father went through rehab a half dozen times before he really let the program work for him. He still struggles with his alcoholism, but he's getting better.

I end this with the hope that you can find some solace in your situation, and that whatever happens, you take care of you. Message me if you ever need to talk.

Answer 4

My goodness this sounds just like my mom. She had the cops come and arrest my at the time 11 year old brother. I'll I can say is hang in there, that is all I can do at this point. Do you have a good relationship with your dad, or stay with him at all? I'm sorry I can't help more. But if you ever need to talk, I am in the same boat as you so just email me and I'd be more than happy to talk.
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I hope things get better. :]

Answer 5

You should get some help. Contact your dad and see if he can get her back into rehab. I am very sorry about all of this. My dad use to be a heavy drinker and drug abuser and it caused me major deppression so I know what your sister must be feeling like. It is tuff when the ones you love are hurting themselves and others around them. I think the only advice that I can give you is to keep dumping the wine down the drain when you find it and contact someone who can help you and help your mom. I hope everything turns out ok.

Answer 6

hmm thats somewhat interesting. i've got heard that pouring cola down the sink could reason injury, yet not wine. crimson wine could depart a stain? in case you have been a brewery/wine-maker and poured hundreds of litres down the drain that's an issue, yet in all probability not even then. in case you had a septic tank, a great quantity of wine could injury the effective plant life?? yet a unmarried bottle could be ok.

Answer 7

Your mom needs help. As soon as possible. But you need to carefully convince her to WANT the help. Good for you for putting your foot down, but you can't do this alone. Is there another close family member or trusted friend of hers that can help? You can also look into AA meetings in your area. I'm sure there is a website you can search for on google.

Stay strong. This is going to be a long and bumpy road.

Answer 8

dont tell her put her bottle in a shopping bag and if you have a dumpster or big trash can put the bag all the way at the bottom if not put the bag in three shopping bags and tie it tightly up and break the bottle by throwing it on the ground put the bags in a book bag or somthing just where she cant find it anfterwards if she comes in your room or any thing about her wine just say "oh my god what r u tlking about...and anyways i thought you stopped drinking!" and threaten to tell on her or even to leave act shocked like you cant believe you just found out she was drinking again.


it will work she'll probly leave

if not just threaten to leave and she'll leave if she hits u call 911 or if weapons r pulled out call the cops

Answer 9

Contact your local Al anon. It is a program for teenagers with an alcoholic parent. If you can't find it listed under Al anon just call the local AA. You are not alone, and this group can help guide you. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

Hey from experience please get you and your sister out of that house and away from her, she needs to go to rehab again, AA or whatever but please do it quick, it's also for your own good and hers too... it's not fun, I still go through it at times, but hey if your going to dump all the wine, leave the slightest amount of wine left in the bottle, and take her car keys, because that way she's pretty much safe from getting a DUI which you don't want to go through and/or getting in a accident, possibly hurting herself and another human being or family. just make sure she has no accessibility to a car. Also just relax, I know you are probably worrying, call a near relative who you can sleep with at the moment, just say your sleepign at a friend's house or something and go, not to forget that hide those knifes and forks, not to freak you out, but your mother may act suicidal when she is intoxicated and hide it anywhere you can but don't take them, but please I beg of you take yourself out of harms way and get yourself out, if anything email me. I will gladly help you

Answer 11

Get help for her immediately. If you can't right now, in the meantime, continue to pour her wine down the sink...anything that will help stop her from being as drunk or drunk. Hope this helps and good luck with your mom =)!!