I have met a great older guy. I am 23 and he is 45. I really like him and think that he likes me too. We attend school together and whenever we have our breaks I catch him staring at me alot, he'll come up to talk to me, and I think that he wanted me to go to lunch with him today because I was by my car on my phone and he was in his car, which was right next to mine and he waited for a good few minutes before leaving. I feel a little juvenile for asking this question, but what is your opinion? Should I make a move or just get over it? Thanks for your advice!
2007-08-03 12:55:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think if you feel a real connection ask him to coffee after class- see if he wants to study (somewhere public so your physical needs dont have a chance to manifest!!!) - if you feel a connection mentally and spiritually, go out on a date. take it slow as with any new relationship. you may discover something great or may realize it was just a fun fantasy.
2007-08-03 13:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by orange blossom honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON! My b/f is 44 and I'm 27, while we love each other very much it has been a very tough relationship for both of us. I obviously don't know your parents but based on how my parents are about my relationship, I'm sure yours wouldn't approve either. Older guys are great because they are typically more mature but they also tend to have a lot of baggage. And if this guy doesn't have the baggage of an ex wife and kids that should also be a red flag as to why he's 45 and never been married! Good luck but I would find someone closer to your age if I was you.
Also, if you've never dated someone that much older it may seem like a fun thing to do at first. When I first started dating my b/f we both agreed that it would be nothing more than friends because of the age difference and the fact that my family would never accept it. That all sounded like a good plan but 16months later we are still together and have become inseparable much to my parents continued disapproval. They have expressed multiple times that they will NEVER approve of our relationship. Save yourself a lot of hardship and run the other way quick!!
2007-08-03 20:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by catwoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, start a conversation and see where it leads. You have nothing to lose and much to gain. It is fine to have friends who are different ages, it can be very interesting. The age thing is only an issue if either of you sees it as a problem. Going out to see how you like him is not that big a step, it is not like you are getting married or anything. I would definitely give it a try, you may like the extra maturity of an older guy, or you may find that it bothers you.
2007-08-03 20:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's too old for you. You could go out with him and have a great time for awhile but then your attention will turn to guys your own age inevitably. You'll have more in common with guys your own age! Dating someone who's old enough to be your dad has the problem that he starts treating you like a kid because frankly, you don't have as much life experience and it can't be helped!
Then HE will get his feelings hurt because you will move on.
For these reasons, I advise against it.
2007-08-03 19:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a 47 year old man who chases 18 year olds(literally, they run so fast) i have to thank you for giving me hope, although i am getting used to the pepper spray.
your chances of getting a great boyfriend, or just being used by some old pervert, are about the same no matter what the age of the guy. you will have trouble with friends and parents, but it can be done.
i would be careful, move slow.
watch out for sex. make him wait if you want a boyfriend. you are a trophy to him. you make him feel young. he will want the sex first, then dump you, if you let him.
2007-08-03 20:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know Y U ppl get everything sooooooo seriously, yeah he could be ur father and he has to look for a lady his age but come on that's fine if u get along with him...he's not gonna eat u up or something...just make a move and if it didn work u can get over him...to me that sounds pretty fine IF YOU LIKE HIM
good luck
2007-08-03 20:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by нƐ∂ıɣƐн 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 45 years old and I am sure he knows how the dating game is played out. I would just wait out and see what happens. If He asks you out and you want to go. I don't see any harm. However since you really don't know that much about him. Please meet in a public place and be sure to have your own car. Just place it safe until you get to know him enough to trust him.
2007-08-03 20:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 32, it doesn't feel like he's 32 though, just because I don't think about the age difference. As long as you two click I would say go for it.
2007-08-03 19:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ari's Mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out, ask him out, for a drink or coffee after school. He'll let you know. Nothing ventured... The age difference doesn't have to be a big deal, and you will know early whether it is or not.
2007-08-03 19:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a move..sure he is a lot older but who cares have some fun..and you never know he could be the one.. Age is nothing but a number. Go for it!!
2007-08-03 19:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋