this guy from another country (usa for me) is saying he "needs" me. he already asked me to be his girl. he asked me to forget my friends and i can't do that. i won't lose friendships for any man. if a man wants me he has to accept me having friends. i feel that it's selfish of him to ask me that. and yet he still says he "needs" me. he also called a good friend of mine selfish and she is far from that. he accused my friends and me of being all a like because we share what other people say about us. the question i want answered here is why does he say he "needs" me and if he does why does he "need" me. i have no interest in long distance.
2007-08-03 12:54:36 · 20 answers · asked by Princess LovAngel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is soft apparently and needy. He sounds psycho and controlling to me and honestly, he sounds like he has female tendencies.
2007-08-03 12:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would recommend not getting into a relationship with this guy. Long distance with someone you don't know, isn't a very good idea anyway. Also, If he truly "needed" you or was intrested in you, he would not tell you to forget your friends. He's calling your friend selfish, but he should take a good look at himself. He sounds very selfish to me to tell you to forget your friends. He's only saying he "needs" you for his own personal reasons and it sounds like he wants to be controlling. If any girl goes along with a guy who's like this, then they're letting him get his way and he enjoys it. Putting him off will probably make him more desperate. Not good, but he'll eventually move on and try and get someone else to listen to him.
2007-08-03 13:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ebony Dalia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit desperate and clingy - and wants you all to himself. I'm glad you've got the maturity to see that a man like that is not worth losing friends over. If you did go out with him I could see him getting more controlling, more "needy" and cutting you off from friends and family.
If he "needs" you so much then he doesn't have a lot of confidence or independence. I think that a healthy relationship is one where people want to be together, but can still be themselves too. You want someone who can take care of himself. Oh, and long distance, I've done it and it's really hard. You've got the right idea about that one.
2007-08-03 13:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Janey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys say the "need" you because they really like/love you and want to be with you. But in your case it sounds like he "need" you for himself. He is talking about your friends and telling you to cut them off. Your right that's selfish of him to say that. So that just shows you what kind of a man he really is. And that kind of person you usually don't want in your life. So tell him you put your friends first before him. (Which I totally agree with! =) and that you don't want to be in a long distance relationship. Well good luck! Hope I helped.
2007-08-03 13:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you "need" to be "very" careful of guys that say they need you..especially if you haven't met them. That would be red flags going up everywhere. I am assuming your in your teens or early adulthood. When a man says he needs you he wants to completely or at least try to control you. I am not a expert at relationships...but please...this is not a good sign. I would think you would appreciate a man that is more self confident than that.
2007-08-03 13:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by smyl_makr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this always happens with me on yahoo in the chatrooms, lots of foreign guys think we're weak and say what we want to hear like "i love you" "you are special" then you immediately fall to your knees in love.
i dont know why they do that and i have no interest in long distance either. just dont give in they are lying, how can they love you after 5 minutes of just meeting each other?????
2007-08-03 13:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We say things like that so we wont be lonely and touching our selves every night, instead of being with a female creature. I have heard the strangest things my friends have told girls from being rich, owning businesses, connections to fake jewlery just so they wont be alone any amount of time.
2007-08-03 12:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by NICK A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then just tell him that! Long distance is not good! Well, it depends on the people I suppose. I know that I couldn't do it. Good luck.
2007-08-03 13:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... because he is immature and is looking for YOU to fulfill his needs. It's along the same lines as saying, "I can't live without you". It is an attempt to manipulate you by making you feel guilty or obligated to him. You know who your true friends are! Someone who is so self-centered as to ask you to deny your friends is incapable of love. Move on!
Too many people in this world are emotionally needy; they look to someone or something outside of themselves to make them feel "complete". They never feel fulfilled, and move from one relationship to another, or look to make themselves happy with material possessions or adrenaline rushes or alcohol/drugs.
2007-08-03 12:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have no interest in a long distance relationship then just say that & cease all contact.
2007-08-03 12:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Aimee♥™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋