girlfriend wont let go of ex, and has actually told me she still likes him. wtf do i do?

Question

they talked on the phone today, and he asked her out again but she said no, and now she feels bad about talkin to him.

Answer 1

Not much you can do. She wasn't ready for a new relationship. She hasn't set down the baggage from the past.

Answer 2

as someone who still talks to their "exes"- it all depends on how they talk. we are just friends and act as such. we hug and may even share a friendly peck- but I'm with my guy. if you feel uncomfortable tell her-- don't accuse! don't over react! tell her "when you talk to ___ it makes me feel disrespected because i know he still has feelings for you. I trust you to either be in the relationship with me, or we can start dating other people. i know you are friends, but it would make me feel better if you distanced yourself from him for a while."

that way you are not attacking, you show trust that she hasn't already done something (and guilt her into not doing anything!), and you have come out looking and acting like a mature MAN who is ready to be in a relationship. if she pulls some crap like "i don't know how i feel" then you need to step away and when she is ready she can come back and IF you are still available you'll think about hooking up again.

above all, maintain control over yourself and you will control the situation. if he flips out- he looks like the putz not you.

i had a similar situation- i maintained control and gently and discreetly looked into how he really felt about her- well, we are still together going on 7 months (knock on wood)!!

Answer 3

I think you should get out of this relationship with her.

You shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who has feelings for someone else. It's just...wrong. GIVE HER SOME SPACE. Tell her.. "When you've made up your mind, you know where to find me."

Make sure you tell her.. that you're not going to waste time with someone who still cares about their ex. It's nice that she talks to him and stuff... but the fact that she feels bad about it, and still likes him, is wrong. She should be devoted to YOU GUYS's relationship.....

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Answer 4

Pull out mate, if you tell her to stop talking to him you will be accused of a lack of trust and immaturity and if you let it carry on it will end up twisting your head. At the end of the day it seems as if she has not completely let go and will probably end up shagging him anyway.

Answer 5

If she won't let go of her ex, and still likes him, you should let go of her because if she likes her ex, she's more likely to let go of you to get back with him. She may feel bad about talking to him but she will eventually go back to him.

Answer 6

If she admitted that she still has feelings for him and is talking on the phone to him, let her go. She is obviously not ready to move on.

Answer 7

Why would she tell her boyfriend she likes somebody else? What the heck!?
Anyways...I suggest you tell her you don't want her talking about him to you. And if she still talks about him, dump her. She obviously likes someone else. And doesn't mind telling her own boyfriend that.

Answer 8

she shouldnt talk to him if she wants to be with u cause basically ur just getting stringed along u have to make her choose if u really wanna be with her if not just let her go but if u really like this girl make her choose or tell her its over because its not fair to u

Answer 9

Tell her not to talk to him anymore.

If she doesn't listen, you may have to break up with her. Because it's not fair to you.

Or...tell her to choose between him or you.

Answer 10

Just let her go and find someone who is hopefully better.