Mad, nutter, crackers, loony, freak,etc-why is it so wrong to describe yourself with those sorts of words?

Question

I know they are 'negative' ways of describing ones self but that's what i am, so why shouldn't i call myself those names even in fun having an occasional laugh about myself! If you can't take the proverbials outta yourself then.....well that's even more depressing!! (Isn't it?) My mates call me the 'mad valley queen' cause i take vallium (diazepam) and live in a valley, i don't get offended they're only having a laugh. I must admit i didn't like the way my ex called me a freak because it was said with so much venom but otherwise.....why not?

Answer 1

I have depression and anxiety. I have some episodes where I kind of space out and don't seem to be aware of my surroundings.

I call myself "crazy" and "spacey." It doesn't bother me at all, I'm very comfortable with myself.

However, I work in mental health, and some other people I work with and socialize with have mental illness. I just don't think it's that big of a deal; and I see nothing wrong with making fun of ourselves a little.

I do understand how other people might not be as comfortable with the subject, but maybe we can break down some social barriers with humor.

"I've always been crazy, but it keeps me from going insane." (Waylon Jennings)

Answer 2

Hi:

I understand what youre saying. Once every so often in jest I think is fine. I think we all do it mental health issues or not. But the concern and effects of thos hurtfull, painfull words will begin to pierce your skin and do the damage.

When you were little, did anyone ever say anything mean to you l dont know maybe said you had really big teeth or something or something even meaner and that sentence stuck with you even up until now and you are self concious now when you smile because you have believed whether true or not that since that statement was made to you you now believe it, self concious, uncomfortable etc. Well continuing to speak about yourself that way will eventually cause you to believe that is true, even if it is not.

Also with all that negative talk even if it is about yourself aroundf others will make them feel uncomfortable, maybe feel pressured into sending all kinds of compliments to help you to feel better about yourself and eventually they are not going to want to be around you any more because of the negativity you give not only to yourself but a negative person sends out negative vibes so to speak that spread the negativity to others and and important last thing I need to say is that negativ, needy people all the time, not just once in a blue moon are completely emotionally draining. Frankly, I need all my emotional energy to be used on me and not to be sucked dry by a constant negative friend. I would eventually bak out of the friendship and I have done that in the past and also just recently with someone I have been friends with for years. The negativity is just too much and it needs to stop.

Answer 3

If you (and only you) make light of your situation, it can relieve some of your negative feelings about it. Others should never try to poke fun at you, though, you never really want to know that anyone thinks less of you just because you have had problems. But I think that if you do it yourself, it shows that you accept the way you are and feel comfortable with yourself. And I'm sure others can relate to you joking too.
Just know that you should keep it light, don't get harsh or cruel in your fun making.

Answer 4

The more you call yourselves names it shows others that you don't have a very high sense of yourself or have a good self-esteem. If you are only saying this with your friends and it's a joke, then there's no big deal.
I think people take offense to the word FREAK. I have heard that word used on sex offenders...
When you go for a job interview, see how far you go if you tell them "I'm a freak and I take Valiums."
Time to grow up

Answer 5

Have some self respect. look if people hear you dissing yourself and you act cool when they call you names like that.... then people will start disrespecting you even more. The older you get and the more you let it go on then the harder it will be for you to take up for yourself and gain respect about other more important issues. Look its good to be laid back but you must draw the line. Tough n up and demand respect. You will thank your self later. Reputation is everything. Make a tough one now so u r not bullied l8ter.

Answer 6

making light of your problem is one of the methods of coping. Everyone has to cope however they can. But when a "friend" makes light of your problems they may also be minimizing you. Don't let levity turn to torment, and set boundaries.

Answer 7

A simple answer----if you continue to make negative comments about yourself, you will start believing them, and so will other people.

Answer 8

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