I'm just wondering, as I've been in one for about 10 months and we don't have sex nearly as much as we did before. I've also been sick and I went off the pill so I think that may have an affect on it, but it's normal to have peaks and valleys in the sex department, right? We still cuddle, say I love you, are intimate, just not intercourse....
2007-08-03 10:30:04 · 18 answers · asked by LFE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 weeks... but that's one week on my period... and there was a lot of oral (for him) during that time...
2007-08-03 10:38:07 · update #1
Yeah, those happen. No worries. Plus you were sick and the pill isn't being used, so those are kind of both a turnoff and something to consider before hand.
Everyone has a different amount, some do it very often (to the point where you see her walking oddly the next day, poor thing...or is she lucky?) and some not often at all. The changes in that amount happen to everyone, so relax.
Best of luck
2007-08-03 10:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Somebody Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often was it after, say, 5 months? And how often is it now? It's normal for it to taper off a bit... but not A LOT after only 10 months. I'd say normal would be at LEAST 4 or 5 times a week.... even after a few years. Unless, of course, like you said, one of you is sick. But the cuddling and intimacy is still there. That's the important part. Once you're feeling better, it'll probably pick back up. Maybe he's uncertain too, because you're off the pill and he doesn't want any babies right now. ??
2007-08-03 17:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the honest answer, I don't think you have to have sex at all. There is nothing "normal" about being forced to have sex, if you have ANY concerns about it whatsoever. So, listen to yourself and stop forcing yourself to any kind of things or actions your mind, soul or body doesn't accept. Think about being well, not just "normal".
You must know, that moderation is very important. You have to "tune up" yourself practically all the time in order to stay healthy. But the most important point is that you must work to improve life as a whole. Nothing will help you more than your own efforts to make somebody happy. This is the only way a person can conquer the art of life.
So, go ahead! Look for the happiness of someone other than yourself. Let your own deeds bless you. You deserve the best of a life!
2007-08-03 17:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Viktor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really is no norm. it's whatever u feel comfortable with. for me and my woman it's about 4 or 5 times a week. and we have been together for 3 yrs. it would prolly be more but i have a very hard job that's tough and i'm usually worn out by night. but on most days i still muster up the strength. but as long as ur still intimate in other ways and u love each other then it's just a personal preference on how often u do it. lots of times me and my girl may just be oral for a week or so at a time. it doesn't matter cuz it's still being intimate.
2007-08-03 17:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by john m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. My husband and I used to have sex several times a day when we first got together, it only lasted about a year. Yeah, we only have sex maybe once or twice a month( I know this isn't exactly normal, but it isn't uncommon either). But we always say I love you, cuddle, give each other little pecks on the cheek. I am thankful I get all of the little things (it is nice to be reminded they love you through out the day). Rather than sex all of the time, even though it would be nice.
2007-08-03 17:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how long you've been together. Now, while some people who have been together for 10 years might have great sex every day... a lot of peoples sex drive tends to decline as the relationship lasts longer. In my 4 year relationship - its about once every week or every other week. Sadly. But - thats by my choice, I just dont get in the mood anymore. But, him staying on the computer playing World of Warcraft all day while I take care of our 8 month old daughter does not help.
2007-08-03 17:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has their peeks and flows. at first you do it like rabbits and after awhile it slows down. As long as you sill love each other it's OK to take a break. He maybe afraid to have sex right now because you have been sick and went off the pill. Hang in there it will get better.
2007-08-03 17:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal for the "intimacy" to decline as you move forward into relationships. There are always ways to "spice it up" Discussing your sexual needs, desires and even fantasies with you significant other will help... I have been married for 7 years now and in the 1st year sex was GREAT! year 2 not so great.. year 3... :( I thought things were going to fall off... We talked about how we were feeling.. and well needless to say we are working like bunnies now!!!!
2007-08-03 17:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by MistrMann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and i use to have sex everyday or every other day when he lived near me, he moved 2 hours away and we still have sex at least 2 or 3 times a week!! So I think everyone is just different..it just depends..it doesnt mean he loves you less if your not doing it!
2007-08-03 17:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by boricuamami_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have these up's and down's. However if the down last for awhile I definetly would have a talk with your other half. NO damage in talking things out
2007-08-03 17:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by lawhonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋