my boyfriend tells me how to dress, he doesnt like when I wear make-up or look good because he's jealous..he doesnt want other guys to look at me. He tells me i cant go out, he questions me and accuses me of cheating when I do go out...and lately he calls me names all the time. he calls me a B*tch, S*ut, he even called me fat the other night...which may be true but I just had his baby 3 months ago..i need to know if there is a way to make him realize that hes hurting me and get him to stop...or should I just walk away from the situation?
2007-08-03 10:17:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't walk away. RUN
2007-08-03 10:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away.
I have dated few boys in my life (I prefer girls), but after growing up with 3 older sisters, I've seen all kind of relationship troubles. I know it's a hard choice, especially since you have a child with him, so you do have to look at the every aspect of the relationship. Considering the circumstances it's probably for the best if you guys split up and you go on, be strong and find someone who knows how to treat you with respect, help you raise your child, and who will truly love you and help take care of you.
Because if there's one thing I've learned about boys in my entire life's existence is this: They don't change, even if they say they will.
You stay with him and your relationship will most likely stay this way forever.
Best wishes.
2007-08-03 17:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is first, leave. You wanna know how to change his attitude, make him pay the child support for all 3 babies. Then he will have regretted calling you those names and making you leave, cause it will leave a dent in his pocket. Men like that never change, I men boys. They are so caught up on doing it themselves that they accuse you because they think you are doing the same. So leave the idiot. Why do you want to put your kids through all that talk and attitude. You kids will see this growing up and think its ok, then they will turn around and do it too. Do you think its ok? Its a cycle. I know because I lived it for 3 years. You'll find someone that will treat you like the women you needed to treated as. So forget this guy your with, he sounds like all the words that he calls you.
2007-08-03 17:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser (and more), you may even be in danger. He calls you "B*tch, S*ut", and you have to give your baby the best environment I guess. Does he even care about his baby ?
Leave him, nobody has to decide the way you want to live. Just say him you want to live like you want, you're not treating him this way, he just don't RESPECT you.
Leave him. If you are asking this question, you already know this is what you need to do.
2007-08-03 17:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by InFlames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling b/f's will never change..
I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news..
but if he is abusing you emotionally
it may at any time become physical
abuse...this sounds like a toxic
relationship that you need to get out of..
Try talking to him about it && if he
doesn't wanna listen && starts calling you
names you need to get out of this relationship..
good luck hun!!
2007-08-03 17:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by manda102285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay in the relationship, don't come crying to us when something really bad happens. You can't change a guy. Just end it quickly and definately, or you may get hurt.
2007-08-03 17:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. But Please belive me that you can not change him yourself. He calls you ugly names because he hates himself and gains gratifacation from cutting down someone who loves him. He is jealous, because he is guilty. Please don't take this one more day. Leav him. I went through a relationship just like this and all it did for me was dammage my self-esteem. Be strong, there are good ones out there. You can e-mail me if you need to talk. Good Luck and God Bless You.
2007-08-03 17:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by jkn143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump this loser mother ****** he is full of **** and you just need to flush him away how can you let someone degrade you like that hes supposed tto love you and be you best freind there are way more hotter and better guys for you thats all i have t say
2007-08-03 17:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change guys like that...I would leave before the baby see's all that!
2007-08-03 17:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by seximami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't change people. They are what they are. If you cant accept it dump his ***. If you decide to stay you deserve to be treated that way. Any one that lives like that and doesn't do anything about it deserves everything they get.
2007-08-03 17:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by gagirl01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him I never understand why ladies think they can change someone sometimes people are @ss holes and all the trying and hoping will never change that.
2007-08-03 17:23:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋