Males Only.?

Question

why does every girl tell me i'm pretty, even a few guys, but everytime i'm out i dont seem to get any attention from guys? are they just saying that? i mean, most of my friends are ALOT prettier then me, model like...could that be it? its lowering my self esteem what should i do?

i'm really outgoing but i think theres always someone better then me so I kinda force myself to believe nobody can like me

Answer 1

Looks aren't everything. If you look just a little decent you can easily have a dude smiling at you and flirting with you. It's how you present your self personality wise. The thing is that your friends might be a little on the aggressive side with dudes. That's the worst part when going out with some friends. If you go to a store and their is a real attractive person around your age there and you're with your friends who are very aggressive socially they will always grab their attention first because they'll probably start the conversation off.

The best way to meet people of the opposite sex is by yourself. I'm not saying that you need to just stop hanging with your friends all together, but sometimes separate from them. Go into a store by yourself. If you see a hot dude, just start a conversation with him. If he responds the way you like, just continue flirting. If he doesn't, you know just to leave it alone.

Also try to be a little more aggressive when around your friends.

Hope that helps!!!

Answer 2

Hang out with some women less attractive than you. Ever notice how women tend to hang out in pairs where one is the attractive one and the other is beautiful on the inside (or so we hope)?

More seriously though, your rating your attractiveness based on how people act around you and your friends. They may seem to get more attention but it could just be your lowered self esteem not seeing the situation for what it really is.

Guys will approach and/or give attention to women for reasons other than just physical appearance. It's not just how you look but how you present yourself, your actions. There's verbal communication and body language. Someone who sounds like an arrogant ***** isn't going to get my attention no matter how good she looks.

Walking up to a group of girls isn't the easiest thing for a guy to do. Once he does do it, he's going to go for what he considers the most attractive he can get a positive response from. Does your body language invite or discourage?

I'm not saying to dress or act like a cheap tramp. I'm saying to do things that make you seem more approachable. Smile a lot. Make eye contact without being challenging. Face the person directly. These are all tricks a good sales person uses, but they're also the basics of body language. There's plenty of other things you can do as well.

My current girlfriend is a model. I'm a fat goliath that doesn't care about how he looks at all. How did that come about? Most guys were too scared to talk to her. She'd ask the same type of questions. She didn't get much attention because she's incredibly shy which people were taking as her avoiding them.

Answer 3

A big part of being approached is your attitude. If you're out at a bar or party or something, you have to do something that stands out from the crowd. The quietly pretty girl off in the corner ends up being a charity case at a lively event. But on the flip side, you would probably do great at events where people are a little more low key.

Answer 4

if you are beautiful intimidation could be a huge factor... Its hard enough for us guys to strike up a conversation and its even harder if your drop dead gorgeous. When most of us see a beautiful woman there's two things that run through our heads. Either she has to be taken, or we don't have a chance in hell. Maybe you should try striking up the conversation with a potential partner next time. Or maybe you should find a way to send out a signal saying hey its OK to approach me i wont bite.

Answer 5

Your worst emeine is yourself. Just because they look like models doesn't mean they are. They could have the same self esteem problems as you. You have two options, get new sets of friends,( You are prettier than them:) OR you can remodel yourself. Like go to gym or go on a diet, or try new things.

Answer 6

Your Avatar Revolutionary Female says something to me. Even if you are gorgeous.. if you are out of the ordinary many males will be a bit apprehensive around you. You are probably not as predictable as your female buddies. However, there are guys out there that will see through your facade and realize that you are unique and will fall for you hook line and sinker. I personally fancy ladies that are out of the ordinary as they are far more interesting. Be yourself ... do not pander to conformity and I hope that you find a worthy male soon. He will have a little gem in you. There is no hurry do not rush these things. "You cant hurry love".

Answer 7

dont worry about that just continue to dress nice and look good and the attention will come---once you get a good guy youll have more confidence which rubs off on others--if you believe you are hot others will 2

Answer 8

Do you dress conservatively compared to your friends. It's a lot easier to notice a woman that is dressed sexy, or even sleazy. I'm not suggesting you should change your style, I'm just saying that it may be attracting less immediate attention.

Answer 9

alright
heres the deal
dont try to get noticed
just go through life as you normally would
and eventually a guy will notice you
this is coming from a guy
okay
and it worked for me
i got noticed
after a while

Answer 10

It should not lower your self esteem. You self esteem should not at all be dependent on the attention you get