7 months pregnant...starting to get SCARED!?

Question

I'm pregnant with a boy and I am just convinced he's going to turn into a brat who just wants to play video games all day and dye his hair black and ignore me, then go on to marry some b*tch who will hate me and turn him against me forever! I come from a Christian home and am in a stable marriage, so there's no inherent dysfunction. I'm just so scared about the way the world is going and how kids can get so messed up. How can I calm myself down?

Answer 1

You are the mom---you are in charge. If you don't want him to be "plugged in" don't buy the video games.

As far as the "dying the hair black" thing---hair color is temporary and hair grows. Phases are temporary too.

Life has it's challenges. You just do the best you can to meet those challenges, set a good foundation in the early years and remember--children are of the world and not of us. Meaning---they are who they are. They will learn things that you have no control over. What you can do is to give them the skills to sort all of the external information out. Set realistic expectations--no person or child are perfect. Many children go through rebellious phases--but that's what they are -PHASES!

Also---if you think your child will be a brat--he will be. Show him the respect you'd show anyone else. Never refer to him as a brat. Teach him with love, patience and understanding.

Who he marries should be the last of your concerns right now. Your job is to parent--and if you do the job well he will find a wife who will respect you and who you will love--your parenting will give him the tools to make the right choices. Parenting is something that you will do solely out of love. I know it's hard to put yourself out there---but loving anyone has it's risks. You will love your son like you have never loved anyone before--and that love will be selfless. If you do your job right, your son will not need you --but he will want you to be a huge part of his life. Nothing will change that.

Answer 2

Think about all the fun time you will have with your little baby. How much joy you will feel when her first smiles and laughs at you, how proud you will feel when he will be able to walk and talk. He will not become a brat unless you push him to do things he does not like, and just let him do things early on that you will regret later. I'm sure that since you have a Christian family and stable marrige, your beautiful son will grow up just fine. Good luck!

Answer 3

Your son will be raised by parents who love him and will set limits early on in his life. Starting to become a disciplinarian when the boy is 14 or so is not going to work.

Stop projecting! You're carrying on so much that you are scaring yourself. You've already have pictured him married to some hoochie girl. Stop!

If you want to project, think of good things for this child. Give him all the love you can and remember that limits are important in order for him to grow up with responsibilities. Think positive!

Answer 4

All you can do is teach him to make good decisions from an early age. Keep an open line of communication with him and love and support him. He will love you for it, and be a better person for it as well. I will pray for you.

Look at it this way, There are a lot more decent, good people out there than what you've described above, so the numbers are in your favor!

Answer 5

It sounds like you will be a great mum. Ok, we are all going to make mistakes as parents but if you love your child and teach them what is right, what is wrong and how to manage all the choices that will be presented to them, then the odds are all will be good.

Be peaceful girl. The world is not so bad, it is just TV news has a vested interested in making it seem that way.

Answer 6

well if u think he may turn out 2 be like that then u stop looking at other peoples family and start constrating on what u can do 2 prevent that like keeping ur family close with not lettin him away with murder and keep rules down but enjoy ur life with ur baby i guess thats a fear everyone has but 2 get straight 2 the point u try and prevent it and learn 2 understand ur child when he is here
congratulations

Answer 7

Hi, Having a child is one of the scariest moments for any new mum. But saying that, the child will grow and learn and become his own person. I would say that it is the way you and your parentner brings the lad up which will predicts the way he see himself as an adult. It sounds to me that your going to be a good mother, as you are thinking about the future of the child. Teresa

Answer 8

I think thats a normal fear...even though it sounds crazy, its a normal fear.

Take a deep breath, relax and love your baby with everything you have. Deal with the first year of life before you even start thinking of all the what ifs.

The first year is rough....the first 6-8 weeks is rough. Try to survive that before jumping to conclusions that your son will be a brat.

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Answer 10

as far as being afraid that he'll marry a b*tch, remember that the first love of a boys' life is HIS MOTHER. So be a good one, teach him what a good girl SHOULD BE and he'll pick great ones and you'll end up (years and years and years from now!) with a daughter-in-law that you'll love!
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