how would you handle it?

Question

my parents bought the house I live in and I pay them rent and they have used that fact to control my life, I am afraid that if I don't do what they say they will kick me and my girls out, my sister on the other hand who also pays rent to them gets to do whatever she wants just because she is married and I am not, usualy I just let it pass, my sister and her husband have had dogs since they got married 12 years ago and my parents are fine with it, my girls know that they, our neighbors and their friends all have dogs and have asked if we could get one, which I would like to do but when I asked my parents if I could get a one they said that I was not allowed to have one cause apparently to them I am to stupid take care of one, that is total B.S, I don't know what I should do, part of me says I should just get one ( not to spite them but cause we want one) but another part of me is worried about what they will do if I "disobey" them, what would you people do?

my sister says I should just stand up to them and do what I want like she does but it is not that easy, she has always been able to do that, I on the other hand have spent my life trying to be the perfect daughter and not make them mad so it is hard for me to go against them.

I am on a fixed income and can not afford my own home right now. one of you said that since they are my landlords I have to do what they say when it comes to the house, like I said they are also my sisters landlords, how come she dos'nt have to listen to them?

Answer 1

Get One, if they do get mad and want you out tell them to evict you. They probably won't want to

Answer 2

Well you are a person who god granted free agency.. so letting your parents control you is a bad idea. My sister in-laws are notorious for letting thier mother make thier decisions for them... You are an adult, a mother, a person.. Just because they help you doesn't mean they own you.. about the house make it a strickly landlord tennant issue. forget they are your parents. treat the house as you would if you rented from anyone else.. if that is hard then play hard ball... send the grandkids over with sad puppy eyes that they cannot have a puppy... see what grandma says then.. or go get one and send the kids over to grandma that they found this puppy and he is so cute can they keep him.. that way they feel like they are the one in charge... but for goodness sakes.. get a back bone and let them know you are a grown up and smart enough to act like one and make a decision without them...

Answer 3

Like it or not, your parents are your landlords for as long as you live in their house and pay them rent. That means that they get to make the rules for that house in any way they want to. If you really want to stand up to them, find a new place to live.

Unless you're willing to do that, you'll always live with the fear that they will evict you unless you follow the rules.

Answer 4

Act like an adult and move out on your own. While your parents still control your purse-strings, you are still their dependent daughter.

Go rent from somebody else where they allow dogs or buy your own place. Stop relying on your parents to save you every time you get in a jam.

Then, they'll see you as an independent woman, rather than the child that you're acting like right now.

BTW, please learn how to use capital letters, punctuation and paragraphs. Do you realize you just wrote one big huge run-on sentence? I can only assume that if you write like a nine-year-old, then you probably act like one in front of your parents as well.

Answer 5

Why don't you look for a new place to live where you can have a dog. Obviously your parents have double standards and as long as you stay living there you will let them affect your life.