should either parents be omitted from a wedding invitation,based on who pays for the wedding?

Answer 1

We put both names on our invites simply so that people would be able to figure out Oh thats the son of Jack and Jane! His family also were the majority of people invited. I had (my parents) request the honor of your presence to the wedding of Bride and Groom, son of (his parents).

It is completely up to the couple. Frequently the brides parents are paying so they have the honor of hosting...but now in the days when the brides father and stepmother, mother and stepfather, and the grooms mother and stepfather are all chipping in--that just gets really confusing and a massive list of people on an invite.

A lot of couples are now opting to just say "together with their parents" or just an invite to the wedding of Bride and Groom regardless of who pays.

It's completely up to you and which style of invite you like best--few people assume that the names actually mean who paid for it anymore.

Answer 2

Traditionally, the "hosts" (people paying for the wedding) are the ones named, as they are the ones extending the invitation.

Since (again, traditionally) the bride's family paid for the wedding, the invitation read that the parents of the bride were inviting you to come to the wedding of their little girl to this guy (and might or might not mention he is the son of so and so).

In our case, I split the budgets into thirds, so I felt it was a good idea to put everybody's names on the invites. It had wording about "together with our parents," but both my parents and his parents were named. This is where I chose to keep to tradition and list myself first above my fiance's name, and my parents' names above his parents' names. Nobody could say anything about that, it's TRADITION.

That all said...check out some of the invitation websites. You can go traditional, or not. You can have the wording reflect a theme like cowboy/western, or golf, or that whole "perfect pair/pear" thing, or "today I marry my friend" thing.

The wedding invitations I received this summer were the same: the brides were on a budget and got the same white card stock with the two silver hearts on it and a silver border. They printed the invitations themselves. They used whatever wording, font and font size that they wanted.

Just make sure you have a date, time and place on there so people know what is going on! An early draft of mine that my maid of honor and wedding planner said "oh, that's pretty" didn't have the TIME ON IT!!! My mistake!

I just mailed out our invitations today and realized that I didn't give the address of the hotel for the overnight guests. But it says call this toll free number, mention this wedding and group number...I figure anyone who is booking a room will get help from the hotel chain, or can contact whoever invited them (us, his parents, my parents).

And I spent months looking online for invitations and couldn't find anything I liked (that didn't cost an arm and a leg). So I made my own at Kinko's. You can take a jpeg to them and they'll print it on cardstock.

Ours are very non-traditional, printing over a color photo of a hydrangea and printed on glossy card stock. I ordered customized postage on zazzle.com, as well as RSVP postcards. For the directions to the event center and hotel info for out of town guests, I used a picture of the event center and took a picture of the hotel to go along with the info.

The entire invitation packet is full color and should wow the guests and hopefully make them want to attend the wedding.

I designed all of this myself and got exactly what I wanted. I spent about $150 to have 120 invites and inserts printed (2 to a page), and another $200 on zazzle.com for the postcards and postage. I did have to luck in to finding envelopes elsewhere.

This is more than I originally wanted to spend, as I think people toss invitations. However it was worth it to get what I wanted and hopefully more folks might hang on to it as a keepsake or something.

Once I got started with all of it, it was hard to stop. :D

Answer 3

It is not traditional for the groom's parents to be listed on the wedding invitation. I have never received one where they were unless they were paying, in which case their name was at the top with the bride's parents. I had never even seen the groom's parents names on an invitation until the last 3 years or so. I think it's a new thing.

I am actually shocked by the other responses. I live in the northeast and weddings where I live are very traditional. Are you kidding me! The groom's parents are not included on the invitation.

Answer 4

A wedding is an event and whomever is throwing the event is the one inviting people. If the Groom's parents are paying for part of the ceremony above and beyond the usual rehearsal dinner and flowers then they should be included if not then no. The Bride's parents are throwing the party and therefore they are inviting people to attend. You wouldn't invite people to a party you aren't paying for.

Answer 5

oops i see you mean on the invitation.
that is up to the people getting married.
putting all the parents an stepparents on the invitation can get cumbersome. but it's not just based on who pays for wedding.

no, both parents should be invited regardless of who pays.

however, if you are being left out of a wedding because you're not paying, perhaps you should ask how you can contribute to be included. Refusing to contribute when asked then insisting on being treated as an equal parent is tacky.
it will not improve a relationship with your child.

Answer 6

No, that's totally disrespectful. The parents' names of both the bride and groom are put on the invitation, out of respect, and to show the relationship. It does NOT matter who is paying for the wedding.

Answer 7

Only if you want to alienate one set of in-laws. Not a good way to start the marriage. Whoever is paying might be listed first or you can do something super traditional and if the bride's parents are paying and have the invite say "Mr. and Mrs. parent's of the bride" invite you to the wedidng of their daughter to "so and so, son of Mr and Mrs so and so" . Or vice versa if the parents of the groom are paying.

Answer 8

Traditionally . . . . mostly, it used to be just the bride's parents were on the invitations, as they were the ones paying for the event.

Now, it can be different. Frequently, both sets of parents and bride and groom all chip in. Check out wordings at verseit.com. This site will show you all the options.

One way to include everyone is the phrase, "together with our parents."

Example:
When I look in your eyes
I delight in your being
and when you take my hand
I delight in our being together
Together with our parents, we
BRIDE
and
GROOM
request the honour of your presence
as we begin a lifetime of togetherness
on DAY
YEAR
at TIME
LOCATION
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE

http://verseit.com/VerseIt_VerseChoices.cfm

Answer 9

No they should not. The parents paying for the wedding might earn top spot in the listing of parents. As a show of gratitude. But no parents should be omitted, they are your parents.

Answer 10

I cant see why you would not invite both sets of parents. I think the brides parents if they are paying get a seat of honour closest to the bridal table, especially as the brides father usually makes a speech.