Wanting no more contact?
Answer the question personally or hypotheticly.
2007-08-03 09:04:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My uncle cheated on and then left his wife, my aunt, for her best friend and ditched his 3 kids. Then he had a baby with his new whore! I can't stand him for hurting his entire family like that and I refuse to speak to him (as do his children who's ages range from 17-26) or even hear from him.
2007-08-03 09:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many things that could happen that would cause a person to hurt because of the action, or non-action of another. Sometimes the hurt is like a mountain. It's impossible to get over. The love may still be there, but the hurt remains, so the distance is kept. Without forgiveness there is not much that can be done. Seek to understand and sooth the person. Offer help, or sympathy. Help them to understand if there was a misunderstanding. Be a peace maker.
Good luck.
2007-08-03 16:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Families are complex structures and each one is different, so I'll answer from a personal viewpoint. In my extended family, there are people who I love dearly and will continue to do so until one of us passes from this earth. But some people are just not healthy for me or my immediate family to be around. These are extreme cases of people who have becomed ensnared by destructive and dangerous habits and not over the normal family spats. I will always do what I can to be there for them, but there has come a point where my help is no longer good for me nor does it help them. People who are destructive to you and themselves - sometimes you have to love them from a distance for a while.
2007-08-03 16:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Spera 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have very limited contact, if any, with my sister because she is so self-centered and has no regard or empathy for others. We have virtually nothing in common and when we are together, she makes snide comments about my clothes, my parenting style and my choice in my husband.
I finally gave up trying after her wedding. She spoke to me so rudely, I decided I didn't want my kids thinking that I thought it was okay for others to treat me that way. I don't want my kids thinking that they should have to take it when others verbally abuse them. I have to teach my daughters integrity, dignity and self-respect. I can't do that when interacting with my sister. She makes me want to show the worst parts of me, but I'm not a teenager anymore. I have to act like an adult.
And her attacks are so personal and so hurtful and she just doesn't see it. So, in order for me to avoid the temptation of falling into anger, vengance and pettiness, I avoid her completely if I can. I've seen her once in the last 5 years and, as far as I'm concerned, that was plenty.
2007-08-03 16:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by ann81969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Immaturity
2007-08-03 16:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well betrayel.....hate something could have came up a long time ago in the family that you didnt know about and some people just start to get really tired of other people.......family members or not family members.......
2007-08-03 16:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Chanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over Money, Lies and Betrayal
2007-08-03 16:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that person annoys/nags you so much u dont want to talk to them or love them ne more....but it takes a while to make someone that angry at u
2007-08-03 16:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by bananasNpeanuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋