Well, first of all... my dad always thinks hes in charge. My mom always thinks I'm so stupid because I somehow don't "fit" in with the family. I'm only 11 years old and I'm a boy, but my family keeps giving me to much to deal with. As usual, my dad will always think im doing something wrong and literally will kick me and lock me in my room for hours without food. He thinks im really rude because im not answering him when hes yelling and thinks im such a big crybaby. My mom always wants thinks her ways like she doesnt want to do it. She breaks my things for no reason and threatens me. She also throws things in my face which will end up with a black eye which i have to end up lieing about it at school. I also got my lip almost split due to HER hitting me in the mouth with a stick. My dad always thinks im stupid and so does my mom. Im usually at my friends house but i would have to walk there. Im usually at my friends house but i would have to walk there instead of my dad driving.Help...
2007-08-03 08:53:31 · 11 answers · asked by I am Myself 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sisters and brother are really far away and they never visit. All of them live one state away from me. They call me once in a while but i never get a chance to pick up. My parents usually say im a bad kid and is always rude. The only reason they think im rude is because i try to not listen what they are saying and usually try to make my way towards my room.
2007-08-03 08:56:55 · update #1
I'm sorry for the problems you are experiencing right now. Adults tend to forget that being a kid isn't always easy. :) My only advice would be to find a responsible adult you trust and tell them what is going on at home. This could be a councelor, a teacher, a coach, another parent who is a good parent, a preacher or Sunday school teacher... just find someone who will hear what you are saying and do everything they can to help you overcome your circumstances. Just remember that even when it seems no one cares - there is always someone who does. You may have to look a little harder for them, but they are there!
2007-08-03 09:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Spera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm VERY sorry to hear of your situation. This is something that the police, or at least your teachers, need to know about. To be all honest with you, chances are that your teachers have been suspecting abuse for a while if you've been constantly showing physical signs of abuse at school (black eyes, etc). It's understandable why you lied...you're down right scared on what your parents were going to do if you told the truth.
However, the teacher needs actual proof--you--telling them that this has been happening. If you feel uncomfortable telling them, then may try telling your school counselor, principal, secretary, coach....you just have to tell someone yourself what's been going on. If you feel up to it, maybe take a close friend with you for support.
By law, the school officials are REQUIRED to contact authorities (police, Department of Child and Family Services) about this so that an investigation can be done. This is for YOUR safety. These can make arrangements for you stay somewhere (or possibly with a friend or relatives) that is safe, have proper food, shelter, be able to attend school, talk with a counselor about your situation, or anything else that you may immediately need. They may also be able to arrange what's a called an advocate, which is a person who tells the judge and jury what has happened to you. From there, the judge and jury (people who are picked to listen to cases in the court room) can determine what punishment your parents should recieve. If your parents were to disobey and go against the judge's word, then they would have to face SERIOUS consequences...not just for their abuse, but for breaking the judge's rules as well.
Kudos to you starting the process by reaching out in here. You are a VERY strong person in putting up with this and for wanting to seek help.
2007-08-03 19:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by jfluterpicc_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother and sister are far away and won't visit, most likely because they too were abused, I would highly suggest you take action and when you go back to school, the next fat lip or black eye you get, DONT LIE- this needs to stop- this is mental and physical abuse and they can be charged with assult.
It is bad enough to have one abusive parent, but two? I will adopt you, we don't hit our daughter, she is 12 and we never hit her we take things away for punishment but never lay a hand on her. This is WRONG. {{hugs}} I would tell someone before something more serious happens.
I would not normally post something like this, instead I like to see issues resolved, but this one is where I draw the line.
2007-08-03 09:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by brandy2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so very bad for you. It is not your fault. You are not a bad kid. Remember that always! You definitely need help. Is there someone you can talk to about it? A friend, a teacher, a relative? Anyone? Until you reach out for help, you will be alone. Do make that effort to reach out. Writing here was a first step. Keep going now. Find someone up close to talk to. If they don't work out, find someone else. Even the principal at school would want to help. Good luck, and remember to pray. Jesus is always there. I will pray for you too. Perhaps you could start going to church.
Love to you always!
Jann
2007-08-03 09:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help sweet. You have to get away from your abusive parents so you have to report them for what they are doing. It's hard even though they treat you so bad, because part of you still loves them because they are your parents, and doesn't want to be disloyal to them, but they don't deserve your loyalty. They are using you as a scapegoat for all their frustrations, and if you don't get out of this situation you may end up scarred for life, and you may also become an abusive parent. The main thing you need to know is that you are not at fault here, it is their lack of parenting skills that is the problem.
2007-08-03 09:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The family you described is a dangerous one. Your question can be answered by understanding that your parents do not know how to communicate or cope with angry feelings. They probably grew up in a home with parents just like yours. They don't know how to behave differently. It isn't that they don't love you, they just don't know how to show you.
The family you describe is also one of abuse. Your not safe in that home. It would be best to talk to a school councilor or teacher that you trust. Tell them what is going on just like you did in your question.
They are able to provide you with help.
It is not okay for someone to hurt you. It is not your fault. They need help. But you can't do that for them. You can get help for YOU and that ,I hope, is something you will do.
2007-08-03 09:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my family hates me too. although i admit im not in a situation like urs. im a girl so they arent supposed to hit me.....at least not places where it will be visible to other people. they are crap and they deserve to die. if god was really here then u wouldnt have to go through abuse. its u against the world man. u shouldnt take their crap anymore. pack ur stuff and stay at ur friend's place for a while until u find somewhere else u fit in.
2007-08-03 09:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by xSELENEx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call 911... or tell someone you can trust.. a friends parent, a teacher, you need help, not you, your parents do. they have no right to treat you like sh!t. dont ever be afraid of them being mad at you for telling on them, you should be afraid of the day when it hits you that your life is wasting away and you coiuld have depresion when ur older. they should be in jail
2007-08-03 08:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop telling lies to the teacher and tell them the truth.. you should not have to live like that... get help now..
2007-08-03 09:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your teachers. its unfair to you to be in that abusive situation.
2007-08-03 09:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrina Devareoux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋