I never knew my real parents. i was adopted at birth.
I have been dating this girl for about a year now. We were talking the other night and come to find out we are 2nd cousins. Should we stop dating?
2007-08-03 08:52:27 · 21 answers · asked by Jeffrey S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First before I answer your question, I have a few questions for you? How do you know she's your REAL 2nd Cousin, if you never knew your REAL PARENTS? Do you have access to the Family Tree and its history? Do you know OF THEM, just never met them? Did she tell you or did your adoptive parents tell you that she's your cousin twice removed? In any case, I don't think that it's a good idea to date her IF she related. But on the other hand, the YOU ALL may not be related THAT CLOSE, and I wouldn't feel that there would be any harm done. But investigate before there is a child born, because if you are Related, you would not like to see the effects on a child of an incestous mating. Please find out before that happens. Good Luck!
2007-08-03 09:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dub-G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think many states ban marriage of 2nd cousins. You could check out the law in your state. From a "kids with 3 eyes" perspective I'm pretty sure the risks are fairly low by the time you get that far apart on the family tree.
2007-08-03 15:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, truthfully if you guys are 2nd cousins it matters but not quiet as cousins cousins..understand! As for me and my experiences w/ related issues w/ friends and/or family it shouldn't interfere if you guys really like each other! Thank God, you guys are not brother and sister,LOL...I read a story by the way on it but it's nothing more than 2nd cousins not immediate cousins blood tru cousins which your kids could come out diform but you shouldn't worry about! Many blessings and Good Luck!!
2007-08-03 15:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ana V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two first cousins who married each other. They were the son of a brother, and a daughter of a brother in the same family. They had the same family name. It worked out fine for them. They had two healthy children, thank goodness. But perhaps your question should be asked of a doctor. Other than the physicality of it, there should not be a problem.
2007-08-03 15:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your 2nd cousins? That seems it'd be hard to be sure of.
Genetically speaking, I think you're safe. The parents would have to be closer than that to worry about genetic problems in children.
Socially how many people even know their cousin's children into adulthood? If it doesn't bother you, I say go for it.
2007-08-03 16:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by seew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, The two of must are now more solid than a rock.
You almost know the whole of her, but something is being forbidden...Second Consanguinity rule it may have a foul results in the ends...
But for a relationship you must understand that to be in a perfect relationship, well you must undergo a lot of dating just like you do with your second cousin....
Go for it....
2007-08-03 16:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jesteramos07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily - are you talking about 2nd cousins through your adopted family? If yes - you are NOT blood relatives, she's a step cousin - it's fine
2007-08-03 15:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked this over with her? What are her feelings on the subject? Do other family members know?
I think I would keep the relationship pretty cool until you find out if you both are comfortable with the idea.
Good luck!
2007-08-03 15:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by MYSTICHROME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessarily wrong. If you feel awkward about it, then stop dating her.
2007-08-03 15:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by chelleigh1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-08-03 15:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋