we started going out last September but he told me he was 26, I am 19 by the way.... two weeks before our birthdays (our birthdays are on the exactly same day) he tells me that he has something to tell me he says he wasn't born in 1980 but 1973, OK at first i felt sick but then again i loved him so i thought i shouldnt feel sick, he dont look or act 34. we love each other so much and its not like i was the only one he was saying he was 26 at he told his mates and his neighbours to.
But is it wrong for me to still love him the way i used to.
2007-08-03 08:38:47 · 39 answers · asked by London Chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. it's not;; the attraction is there no matter what.
Maybe he was afraid you would think he was too old if he told you at the beginning. At least he has told you his real age now. I have a friend who is 55; her husband is 70. they have been together for over 30 years. Her family were horrified that she was marrying a much older man; yet the years have proved them wrong.
He does not look his age either. What's your heart telling you?
you don't feel any differently about him, do you? He's still the man you fell in love with, still the same guy. I think when you fall for someone, you don't think about how they look, or anything; you just see the wonderful person you fell for!
If you had known his correct age from the beginning, your own natural inbuilt prejudice may have stopped you from going out with him; you may have instinctively thought "he's too old".
Isn't it better that his little white lie has given you both a chance to fall in love ?
2007-08-03 08:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absoulutely not!! It is not wrong to love him if he treats you good and does not try to control you.. However- it is a red flag that he had to lie about his age. You should ask him if there is anything else you should know.. I met my boyfriend when i was 19- he was 33 at the time. We've been together since then and he's very sweet to me. I am now 23..
See you have to keep a few things in mind-
Men mature a little slower than women. I'm not saying that to be funny- it's true.. So older men are actually a little better to be in relatioships with because they aren't as confused at what they want in life and they have already learned a lot while they were young- Things that are common sense for women.
Also- If you are in love with him- nothing you can do will change those emotions- so you should give him a chance if he hasn't proven to be a COMPLETE liar.
People are always going to give you crap about you being with someone a little older- but if he makes you happy- his age shouldn't matter...Just make sure you dump him if he start acting crazy or treating you bogus.. You are young- so don't let him waste your time if he's not making you happy- no matter how much you love him.
2007-08-03 08:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by smiley10036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
London Chick that is a pretty big age gap and the maturity level itself must be pretty different. I am not a relationship expert or anything but expect that his friends and yours may have a difficult time hanging around someone either so much younger or older than they are. In addition if he was decietful about his age to you who knows if he is being dishonest in other areas. The choice is yours but when considering this relationship also look to the future and do you want to be a 30 year old woman with a 45 year old man and so on. Best of luck to you and take your time before deciding on how far you want this relationship to go. This fella in reality is old enough to be your dad, if you did have any kids their friends may look at him as their granddad rather then the father. In addition if children were to come along how active would he be able to be in their upbringing and playing with them.
2007-08-03 08:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
love is never mind to big age but ist u sure trhat he loves u r other thing if he is 26 thats no problem u r 15 no matter but i think u ll wait 2 years after 2 or 3 years u look all thing ok now 3 yeras no need for marry
2007-08-03 21:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by raja a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not that he is 15 years older than you but that he lied about it. Now you have to ask yourself what else has he lied to you about. Age would not have been an important thing to lie about especially when just meeting. The worst that would have happened that day is that you said you werent interested in him because he is too old and he would have moved on to someone else. Dont love a liar because they never stop lying
2007-08-03 08:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by dave n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is certainly nothing wrong with the age gap- one of my friends at work has been with her husband for 11 years (only married for 4, but together long before they married) and he is 17 years her senior.
My concern would be over how much I would trust them knowing they have lied to me in the past.
2007-08-03 09:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by tinx25388 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 20, and my fiance is 12 years older....we have a baby, but his baggage is a little much. I would suggest moving on. I love my man and all, but it takes a LOT LOT LOT of patience and hard work that some one my age shouldnt have to do. Unless you are prepared for the worst, and to give up your "young" ideals (partying, shopping and music) I wouldnt do it.
2007-08-03 08:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, our society is so obsessed with age... if you're over 18 you're both consenting adults. You should be a little mad that he lied to you, but you can forgive him for that because he was afraid to tell you (and others) his real age... He did 'fess up and told you the truth on his own. Enjoy what you got girl, lots of people don't have it. Good luck!
~Bob
2007-08-03 08:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Headhunter 6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said he was 26 to begin with, then turned around and told you he was 34, it seems like he kind of lied to you.
2007-08-03 08:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cain Bloodfang 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a great start to a relationship,LIE after LIE, i wouldn't trust him an millimetre let alone an inch
Its the fact that he lied to you in the first place that would concern me! Not much of a basis to build a relationsip on.LIES
2007-08-03 09:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋