I had asked questions and got some rude responses. I know that I have sinned just like everyone else, but I'm trying to do the right things. I haven't had my confirmation just yet, I've been through two divorces, I'm trying to get my life on track especially with my own Church, but every time I ask another Catholic a question, I get a couple of people who answer honestly, but the other Catholics act so high and mighty, "Oh you shouldn't have had kids before marriage, the church doesn't recognize your marriage" "You shouldn't do this or that..."
I know I have done some stupid things, but that's why I came to you guys, so I can find the right direction, not be ridiculed because I've messed up in the past. Who hasn't messed up? Who of you hasn't sinned? Why do you want people coming into this religion and then bash them because of their past?
I love God, Holy Spirit, & Jesus. Why then do you treat me like I'm a total out cast? I'm trying to do the right things & you push me away.
2007-08-03 08:05:03 · 22 answers · asked by Kiki's Treasure 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My advice would be this: try to ignore those who "push you away" and are judgmental toward you.
I can relate to you, because I'm 42 years old but did not take my Catholic faith very seriously at all for the first 37. During that time, I did some pretty "un-Catholic" things.
You and I are both "prodigal daughters" who have left our prior ways in order to embrace and live by a better way. We're still sinners and we don't always succeed, but striving for the better way is always the key.
God bless you and hang in there with Jesus.
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2007-08-03 09:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Catholic, you'll find we have a long list of "Shouldn't"s, and many Catholics spend most of their lives trying to learn them all.
People like to share the things they learn. Though not always with the tact and grace that Christ had.
It's a long hard road to get things back on track, and I'm sorry the reception has been less than warm. I've dealt with that too, and can empathize.
Sometimes, Catholics only remember they're Christian when they are challenged on their Christian status. It's easy to get caught up in Canon and forget the basic principles of Christianity: love, kindness, generousity. Faith, hope and love, right?
We all have things in our lives we "shouldn't have" done. But they are done. We can only learn from them, not repeat them, and seek to make things right when we've made them wrong. but do not ever let anyone tell you that your children are mistakes. They are beautiful, as you well know, and the most perfect and precious gift you could be given.
If your marriage was outside of the Church, you should talk to a good priest. Counselling, prayer and reconcilliation are the steps of the "internal forum" that can bring you back into Communion with your church.
There is a Christian side to Catholicism, I'm sorry it's been hard for you to see lately.
2007-08-03 08:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by lystrayel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not just Catholics, it's human. But I do know about those particular types, and Catholicism has more than their share. Some people would rather determine blame than solve problems. That way, they never have to assume responsibility for anything because they "follow the rules". Jesus condemned the Pharisees for just such an attitude, scrupulously observing the tiniest "rules" while refusing to lift a finger to ease a burden.
There are Catholics who actually care. You may have to look around for them, maybe even in a different neighborhood, but hopefully you will find some who live in the present, like Jesus did.
2007-08-03 09:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by skepsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause you got rude responses from people who claim to be catholics doesnt mean everyone who is catholic is rude and act like they are all that. in any religion there is aways gonna be someone that is gonna say that you did something bad and are gonna think they are better than you. and if you really want a good answer to a question you should go ask someone from the church or a priest. not here where some retard is gonna tell you something stupid that they dont know sh**t about what they are talking about. im catholic and im not like that.
2007-08-03 08:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your decision and your efforts to get your life back on track. Not everyone has the courage to do so, though many would like to. The Church is just as eager as you are to help you make things right. That's why we have the Church. There is an old saying, "the Church is a hospital for sinners, not a club for saints". I'll remember you in my prayers.
2007-08-03 08:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kiki, I'm sorry to hear about these unpleasant and misguided people who have criticised you. They are blinkered and as you say should take the log out of their own eyes before telling you to take the speck out of yours. I'm not Catholic but am a Christian.. I would avoid these types and go where you feel welcomed, wanted, loved and at ease but still get a powerful message from Our Father. I come across people who I don't like being around I'm afraid to say. Maybe we should pray for them. I hope you find a welcoming Church-I'm sure you will. Don't give up because of these few twits. x
2007-08-03 08:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Birdman 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Kiki,
please do not let this situation push you away from God. You are his child and he DOES love you. People here on earth do have a tendency to be sinful, and that is a result of our free choice, and unfortunately that results in hurt and confusion.
Please take heed of Jesus's words:
Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age."
Matthew 28: 16-20
Jesus wants us to be baptized and to follow all his teachings of love. The amazing thing is: although you have committed sins in the past (as have i) baptism is your saving gift from God. With baptism, when you confess that Jesus is your lord, and commit yourself to him, you are truly forgiven of your sins. How wonderful a gift is this that we've been given?
Trust in God's forgiveness and his mercy, not other peoples'.
God Bless,
Paul
2007-08-03 08:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by p.diggity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am delighted that you are trying to sort out your life. Do not worry too much about other people's opinions...remember that much more than you love God, HE LOVES YOU.
Read 1 JOHN 1: 9. Trust it. He means it. And you can do THAT confessing in privacy, in your own room
(PS Verse 8 applies to your critics, as well as yourself.
God bless you, from a protestant friend.
2007-08-03 08:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholics are no different to any body else.
There are good and bad, like other human beings,
.you just happen to speak to the wrong crowd,.
Imagine posing the same question to a group of people in the office.
some are for you'' some against
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2007-08-03 08:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by denis9705 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't condemn the whole Church because of the behavior of a few ignorant people.
You will find unchristian-like behavior in every christian Church.
God loves you and let not the devils within the church get you down.
2007-08-03 08:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋