If the father is saying the kids not his to begin with do you think tht later on in court that will play into effect that the only time he said it was his is after I have a DNA test done and b/4 hand he wants nothing to do with the baby
2007-08-03 07:58:09 · 9 answers · asked by mommyof3 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i have emails, and text messages and such that show that he does not claim the baby he says that he will take responsibilty but to get custody of the child i think hes trying to scare me into not saying the babies his
2007-08-03 08:07:28 · update #1
My sons dad is claiming the same thing.... Telling me that my baby isnt his son & I must have slept around, and all this crap... So I filed for child support & requested a DNA test upfront.... That way, he'll have the test before we ever go to court....
I talked to a friend of mine who is a paralegal, and she said that none of that really makes much difference in court. They look at the bigger things... Like: does either parent have any felonies? Either parent a drug addict? Which parent is more financially stable.... ETC...
In my case- the father has only spoken to me once since September 2006 ( when i told him i was pregnant) and my friend said that the judge looks at things like that- She said that he'll see that the father hasnt been around the entire pregnancy or 3 months of his sons life, and that will play a big part in their decisions....
I dont see where a judge would give a man custody of a child hes never been around....
I suggest getting a phone book, and looking up lawyers.... Call a family law lawyer & see if they have free consultations.... If they do, set one up.... You can sit with a lawyer & tell them the situation, and they can tell you what they think... Your not obligated to hire the lawyer after that consultation.... Some states even have legal advice offices where they'll give you free legal advice ...
If you message me, I can help you find one of those offices!
2007-08-03 09:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by HotMamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father is stating that he is not the father, A DNA will show otherwise, In today's world, most men, say it's not there's, AS for - will it have an effect in court later on, I would say no, He will still have to pay a set child support based on his income, As for visitation ( if you are separated, My experience has been - visitation is based on the welfare of the child, Should have no effect if he denied the child or not before a DNA was done, Hope this helps and good luck,
Mike
2007-08-03 15:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by m&r s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the letters when he wrote to you saying that he would only want custody because it would hurt you, I think you are in pretty good shape. Any good judge will take one look at this sorry excuse for a human being and tell him that he has a long way to go before he can be a father.
I wouldn't worry about it. Being a father requires work and it sounds like he isn't ready for anything that doesn't have to do with himself. Besides, the courts have to have a really good reason to take a baby away from her mother.
2007-08-03 15:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the DNA test shows that he is the father. It doesn't matter what he said. Also as long as you can show that you are stable and can provide a good, wholesome life for the baby you should be okay. In my state, Ohio, the mother has custody of the baby if you're not married, so you might want to look into your states laws as well.
2007-08-03 15:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by SBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why should he want a child that is not his.
All that is relevant is whether it is or is not his. Then get the DNA test done immediately.
Then next time, have these types of discussions before you get pregnant.
2007-08-03 15:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will only have an affect on custody, if he wants nothing to do with the child. If it is his, he WILL have to pay child support. However, you can, and probably will get sole custody if he does not want to be in the childs life. If he WANTS to however, you will probably NOT be able to get sole custody, unless he is a drug abuser, or abusive in general.
2007-08-03 15:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that will matter..if even after the fact, he proves to WANT this child, the court will take that into acct and at least allow him visitation...which you shouldnt keep from him unless hes harmful or abusive anyway...
2007-08-03 15:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by MeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the court will see that if they are his kids he has a legal right to see them as much as you.
2007-08-03 15:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cash, Gage and Jax's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have proof?
2007-08-03 15:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋