Why is it SO HARD for men to be honest with their emotions? I know guys must feel pain, sorrow, sadness, and other things, but I just don't understand why they don't show it.
2007-08-03 07:42:53 · 17 answers · asked by Liss 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's all about male and female hormones and their effect on the brain. Diffrences in the sexes have nothing to do with conditioning or how one is raised. It is all biological. The supporters of the feminism movement would like to make everyone believe that men and women have the same brain but it isnt true. Scientest have proven it. The female brain has a bigger nerve center that connects the right and left hemisphere of the brain ( the corpus collosum ) wich gives women better access to their emotions. Men's brains have a smaller corpus collosum ,thus our right and left brains dont communicate with each other as well = less acess to emotions. Also men have on average 20 times more testostrone than women and women have much more estrogen than men. These male and female hormones have the ability to affect emotions and thinking. We need to stop trying to make men and women think the same because it is a waste of effort. Let women be emotional and men be stoic. Thats the way it is supposed to be. Read a book called " Brain Sex" if you think Im wrong. It explains everything and is backed up by neurosurgeons and socialogists.
2007-08-03 10:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biologically, men's brains are not wired as well as women's (for emotions). Which is why you often see those news reports where the neighbors say "he was such a quiet, polite boy" who goes nuts and kills a bunch of people.
Men are also brought up in society which tells us to conceal our emotions, to not argue with emotion, but rather logic.
Its a combination of several factors, what may surprise you is that some men are comfortable talking about their emotions, however we need to be direct, we don't like the headgames what so ever.
2007-08-03 07:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to read the book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." It explains everything. It's biology.
+++++++++ If it's "societal conditioning" I'd love to hear the explanation of how societies that developed totally independent of each, over eons, other all ended up the same. Don't tell me it's a coincidence that northern European Norse society and Australian Aboriginal society produced similar male cultures.
We're paying a terrible price today for our efforts to feminize boys.
2007-08-03 07:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's in our genes (not jeans, lol). Although it's changing, we've historically been the 'bread-winner' and 'protector'. (VS the Woman's 'Nurturer' role).
We were taught not to show our emotions because other men would then view us as 'weak'. This made us less able as a 'protector'.
Some of us are slowly crawling out of that mould.
(I cried watching the Disney cartoon 'Hercules' when Megara dies.)
(and I'm over 35)
2007-08-03 07:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we have all been conditioned since the very beginning to behave certain ways. The man was always the protector, provider and the strong one. The woman was always the comforter and the one that kept it together in the home. I know roles have changed over time, but instinctively it is still there.
2007-08-03 07:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as far back as childhood, females are allowed to display whatever feelings they have but males are generally told to grow up, act tough, and be a man. They're especially told this by their fathers.
I'm not trying to generalize when I say this- it's just what I've witnessed and also it is the answer I've gotten whenever I've raised the issue in the past.
2007-08-03 07:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lily Iris 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the military we are trained not to let our emotions show. More often than not in that environment showing your emotions is a sign of weakness.
2007-08-03 07:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by scout2116 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't get it, do you?
Societal conditioning--Stomach in, chest out, shoulders back, stand tall, walk proud
Biology--XY's
Ability--mental capacity to be able to put emotions aside, and act independently
2007-08-03 14:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by Cardinal Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people prefer to display their emotions openly, others prefer to keep them private. What works for you doesn't necessarily work for someone else.
2007-08-03 07:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason women have such a hard time putting aside emotion and addressing things logically.
It's who we are, as dictated by biology and culture.
2007-08-03 07:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋