Is suicide the best way out?

Question

I can't take anymore of the hell I have in my life, and I can't see a way out, surely it's best to end it all and save the worry, I just wish I had a gun then it would be quick. Anyone else feel the same?

This is not a fly by night whim. And yes I have had lots of bad experiences which have scarred me, rape being one only. I get your comments about the side effects of an unsuccessful suicide which is why I would prefer to shoot myself - it's pretty certain and quick. Thanks for all your answers, I've cried reading all of them and it's nice to know that someone cares. I don't know how to get out of this mess though, it's deep

Answer 1

Hey hun,

In a word - No. I've felt the same. In fact, I've gone to the extent of coming VERY close to not coming back... When I split with my ex I was suicidal pretty much 24/7 and eventually decided to take my own life. I've been in hospital twice because of it in the past (quite some time ago might I add) and it really opens your eyes.

I felt alone, unloved, unattractive and basically useless. There is no other time in my life where I'd felt so low. Once I'd been released from the hospital I realised that I am loved, etc... All my family and friends were waiting for me at home and they were so upset when they saw me. I imagined how much worse it would have been if I'd succeeded... My best friend (who is your typically macho bloke) broke down and couldn't stop crying. He actually hugger me, which was a huge shock.

Even talking about it now gets me upset. It was a horrible experience, really horrible.

Trust me on this: It's far better to sit down with someone and talk about exactly how you feel. It doesn't matter who it is, just make sure they listen. When you've got a problem (even if it seems like nothing to you) you'll be surprised how warm, loving and wonderful people can be.

I look back now and wonder why I didn't just talk to someone in the first place. I imagine you're probably thinking it's not worth bothering anybody with and that nobody cares. They do care and they probably already know something is wrong, but are afraid to ask.

Talk to whoever you can, but please don't end your life, you are worth so much more than that *hugs*

If you want to talk, message me and I'll send you my MSN address :)

Also, if you can find a song called "Tell Me There's A Heaven" by Chris Rea, have a listen to it. It's not religious in the shoving-it-down-your-throat kind of way (I don't like that kind of thing myself) but it is a very good song and it'll help you cry - which is the first step to feeling better.

Hope you're ok xxx

Answer 2

Amber suicide is certainly not a very nice way of ending ones time on earth as it is obviously the FINAL solution. There are times in many people's life when they think that their lives are the worst in the world. But sad reality is there are many people who have things a lot worse then we could ever imagine. Try and be grateful for whatever you have in your life, your mental and physical health, the ability to read and write, a roof over your head, parents and/or family that are there for you. Whatever you have that is positive, and there certainly has to be at least one thing, in your life look for and try to be happy. If these feelings continue then seek profession help and discuss these things that are presently upsetting you so in your life. Who knows somewhere in your journey of life you may end up helping someone else who is experiencing these feeling you currently have and help them from taking their lives. Suicide is actually pretty selfish and the people left behind who love the person are left to try and answer all the guilty questions of what they could have done to help this person out better. Two years ago my son and I found a middle aged man who had been renting our basement apartment after he had taken too many pills intentionally and drank alcohol and it effects us to this day, and we were not even that close to this fella. He must have been very confused when he left this world and I also remember his daughter coming and collecting his belongings and her feelings of guilt and grieve. Best of luck to you and please try and seek help rather then ending your life.

Answer 3

Stop talking that way. You're not gonna do anyone any good by that kinda talk. Think about how your friends and family would feel if you did something stupid like that. Nothing is that bad in life that you can't get over it and move on. Maybe you just need some changes in your life that's all. There's plenty of people in the world that have it far worse than you do I'm sure. If you need to talk to someone write. Maybe I can give you more advise. Glad to help if I can friend.

Answer 4

Shall I tell you something? If you were going to commit suicide you wouldn't have posted this question on here. You would have done it already. This is your cry for help; recognise that you don't really want to take your life - you want to get help to improve it.

Think of all the people you would hurt if you ended your life. Think of your loved ones. It doesn't matter where the 'hell' is in your life, your friends and family will miss you more than words can say, and nothing they can do will bring you back. It would be a tragedy for them and their lives will never be the same.

You need to seek help. People you can confide in. Counsellors, social workers, friends, family. You've recognised you have a problem - you're halfway there.

good luck. x

Answer 5

it will stop ur pain...but the pain of those that love u it will b unending. Suicide is a very selfish solution, which i have wished 2 do 4 more years than i have wanted 2 live. 2 continue existing in this world is the hardest thing 2 do...suicide is an easy way out. there is always a reason not 2 do it..u have 2 find yours.

Answer 6

Why would you ever think that Death is the best way out of anything, do you have family or close friends? If you do then why would you want them to suffer, yes you would be ending your pain but you would be creating a lifetime of pain, guilt and suffering for those who care about you.
Nothing is ever bad enough to die over by your own hand. Hard times in life make you the person you are and it makes you stong and able to handle the next hard situtaion that comes along. Go see a counsleor or a doctor, please

Answer 7

No, Suicide is not the easy way out. Suicide is selfish! Not to mention that it is a cowards way out. If you can't deal with your problems on your own then you need to get some help or you need to find someone to talk to. People have problems everyday and they make it without killing themselves. And there is always someone else out there that has it worse than you do, so instead of being a wuss.......buck up and grow some balls. Do what you have to do.........God never gives you more than you can handle........so that must mean you can do this!!!

Answer 8

Suicide isn't an answer; it's just an end. Everyone has highs and lows in their lives. Sometimes it sucks. But it doesn't suck forever! Things change.

The best way "out" is to get help. If not for yourself, do it for the people who love you.

Add: The only way to get out of a "deep" mess is to take one step at a time. You probably didn't get into it quickly so you can't expect to get out of it quickly. You really need to find someone who can help keep you on your toes.

Answer 9

No. Suicide is the worse way. It may seem like it's the only way out but trust me its not. Think about all your family and friends and the effect it would have on them? Don't give up when the going gets tough. Be strong. Everything happens for a reason.
There are millions of people who would love to be in your position. You are lucky, don't ever for a second think your not.
You can change your life and make it better. There are other people who don't have that luxury

Answer 10

This one needs flagging up.


but hold on a sec girl... why not explain what this hell is? why does it hurt so much.


Pleas please dont OD it actually takes days and hurts like hell.


unless you do it right hanging can take several minutes of torture and agony.


Things in realty are often messy and horrific.

Many who jump in front of trains have limbs amputated and many who fall from hight are not killed outright but horribly injured or cripples for life.

if somoens bullying or abusing you would it not be better to kill them instead...


Whats hurting so much and may help to open email. plus how old are you.

in some cases it is the right way but see no evidence in your case it is?

ie have you been genitally mutilated?

Are you paraplegic, horribly scared, been raped what?
Whats all this about and all details