Just a quick question to parents. If you responded rudely to a question I asked, or were disrespectful?

Question

Would you consider it a learning experience if I gave you a quick pop on the butt? It's padded, so it shouldn't hurt, and after all, your actions need to bring about consequences for you to learn from. Is that ok?

Disney chick-you hit the nail on the head. It wasn't meant to be veiled, lol, I am pointing out the ridiculousness of the argument that fervent 'pro-spankers' consistantly present.
As a matter of fact, I have never been 'against' spanking, but the ignorant and childish 'parents' who consistantly tell others they are wrong not to spank, are a different story!
It seems many people are so defensive. I wonder why, when you're so obviously doing the best thing for your child....

terratad: I'm so sorry, but your question made no sense. I tried to read it and give a response, but I wasn't able to understand what you were going on about.
To a couple of the others, who STILL try to imply that spanking a child is the only way, I will just say that as sorry as you appear to feel for me with my children, LOL, I feel ten times sorrier for you and yours! Best wishes!

Answer 1

Is it ok to ask retarded questions that are really just a cover for a deeper issue like a parent's right to discipline their children how ever they see legally fit? That's my take on this "question".

EDIT: Ok, I see what you did there, lol. I am pro spanking, for my family. Have I seen children that clearly needed a spanking and wished their parents did as such, YES. Do I have the right to demand others discipline their children as I discipline mine, NO. Are there families that make no spanking work and manage to raise well behaved children, yes but not as many as they would lead you to believe. I think though, about your argument, that pro spankers feel they have to be on the defensive about their discipline techniques because soooo many anti spankers bring up the ridiculous child abuse remarks. But it does go both ways, and if we could all be a little more tolerant of other people's choices, we would all be much happier. My thing is, just make your kids behave, people. Don't make the rest of us suffer because your child doesn't understand how to act in public, make them understand there are consequences for their actions.

Answer 2

Well, if you saw a kid running around his house naked digging at his butt & then went to another house & saw an adult doing the same thing is there a difference? You don't stick a kid in prison for accidently throwing their brother or sister down a flight of stairs but you would an adult. Obviously, that's not a good comparison. You need a little more practice before you try to start spinning stuff because right now all you've spun is a tard web.

Edit: In response to your additional details, I'm just tired of people butting their nose in my business of how I discipline my kids, how someone else disciplines their kids is their business & I want the same respect so again lay off the "Since your obviously doing the best thing for your kids crap" You are obviously not a good spin artist & would be a terrible lawyer. Please get some more practice, unless you're like some kind of 16 yr old smart butt that already thinks they know everything, which is what it sounds like. Just forget I said anything, because you obviously already know everything. :-)

Answer 3

The punishment should fit the crime and go along with the age. I think time outs are a waste of time. I swatted there padded buts and we got on with are day. As they got older and understood more of why she or he was getting into trouble you can still spank but also there is the t.v. computor, phone and other things to take away from Jr.

Answer 4

Mine was probably one of the rude answers you are referring to, and you will probably consider this one just as rude.

Your question is just ignorant. WHY?? Because there is a huge difference in the mentality of an adult and a child. An adult is able to use personal experiences and wisdom in their decisions. A child isn't. There are consequenses to an adults behavior, as well as to a childs. The consequenses to an adults behavior is different that those to a childs behavior. That is why at a certain age, spanking is not an appropriate consequense to a childs behavior. A person wouldn't spank their 17 yr. old for coming in late or talking back, however they would probably spank their 7 yr. old for talking back or drawing on their bedroom wall.

Punishments change as a person gets older, just as their understanding of consequenses and punishments changes. Spanking is not an acceptable punishment for an adult, however it is acceptable for a child, so that they can grow up to learn there is a consequense to their actions.

The reason you got such rude answers was because you are basically taking your personal feelings on spanking, and portraying those of us who do choose to spank our kids as being child abusers. You have every right to choose to disapline your children as you see fit, just as I have that same right. No one wants to hear a perfect stranger, and even a close friend, tell them they are parenting wrong.

The rude answers you recieved were your "learning experience". We were not trying to tell you that you are wrong not to spank your children when they do something wrong, however we are trying to teach you that you need to be more respectful and understand that their are numberous different ways that people parent their children, and it really isn't any of your concern how the rest of the country parents their kids. It doesn't personally affect you, therefore if you don't want hateful, rude answers, you should probably not post your equally rude questions on here.

Answer 5

I actually don't care whether you chose to spank your child or not. I will raise my kids however I feel fit and you do the same and stop asking these stupid questions..."Is it ok to spank" No one will ever agree and there are different variations of how people discipline, so get off it already.

Answer 6

Well, for one, I don't wear a diaper. And if a kid is doing something that warrants a spanking, THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO FEEL IT. Do you get that?? "A quick pop on the butt" is ridiculous. Don't be so damn afraid to discipline your kids. I can see who runs your house.

Answer 7

I'm sorry but I have 3 kids and anyone that says they keep their kids under control without an occasional smack on the butt is a lire. Time out doesn't work for my kids and if they get out of control yea i will give them a little swat. Nothing to hurt them just to let them know that im serious.

Answer 8

Everything in life is a learning experience. I might "learn" that you're a wacko, have no respect for or from you, and just keep answering more rudely, even if it did hurt.

Answer 9

no, you do not spank adults when they do something they shouldnt do, you do that to kids, if an adult does something wrong, you punch them in the face. :o)

Answer 10

how do you figure? maybe the "rude or disrespectful' answers were like a "pop on the butt to you"

we are all adults here, or supposed to be, and you for one seem very childish!


going to look at y our other questions, and leave "rude or disrespectful answers" if need be lol


EDIT * ROFL!!! your q/a are private, you don't want anyone to know what you are asking or answering lol. hahahahahhahahahhahahahhahahhahahahhahahahha thanks for the 2 pts!