He went to visit her shortly after our baby was born (we stayed at home) and now he wants to go again. The only problem is, is that I am suffering with post partum depression and have no one else to help me. We both understand the others needs and we could all go together but we have another family member here at home who needs one of us to be home. I feel so guilty for asking my husband not to go. When she eventually does pass away and we are all going to have to go there for the funeral and I'm not even sure how we are going to manage that. Any advice is appreciated.
2007-08-03 06:37:00 · 8 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Both issues are very problematic...so you have to decide which will be worse, his grandmother dying and him not being there with her, or you having to stay by yourself for a little bit. Maybe you could have a family member of yours come stay with you to help you out, while he goes to be with his grandmother.
Then when the time comes to go to the funeral, you can all go together; baby, 2 other family member, yourself, and your husband.
2007-08-03 07:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway to take the other family member along? Is there anyway to get help from a friend or another relative? You could call your local hospital and explain your situation. They may be able to direct you to some programs that can help with the care of your other family member. You haven't mentioned the age here of the other family member but you might also try calling the division of aging and asking them what sort of help you can get. There are a lot of programs out there to help people who are caring for family members you just need to find one that can give you a hand. Another one is called Ombudsman, they can really be helpful to folks in need of long term care. One link is www.ltcombudsman.org. You might also talk to your own doctor, he/she may have some helpful advice as well. the last option I can think of is a hospice care provider. But since I'm unsure of your family members health condition I can't be sure they would be able to help you. Just start making some phone calls and you may get some relief. Congrats on the new baby! I hope some of these ideas will help you out.
Good luck to you
2007-08-03 07:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by CM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. ask him to go by his self the time apart may suck big time but it's only 8 hours! for a week.
2. both go take the baby! (may need to stay somewhere else hotel or someones house other then grams!
3. both stay and wait
4. bit the cost and go on a weekend and find a nanny and deal with your post partum depression!
I like # 1 best!
2007-08-03 07:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be someone who can help you while he is gone.
Friends? Neighbors? Anyone?
Post partum depression, how old is the baby? Can he take the child with him when he goes?
There has to ba an answer besides "don't go", this is after all, his Grandmother, and he may never have the opportunity to see her alive again
2007-08-03 15:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not being very fair if you ask your husband not to go i know my husband would be able to ask me not to go see my grandmother if she was dying these are her last days in her life allow him to go or try if shes in a house make plans to take you your child and your husband for a couple of days so you can all be together because your son has a whole life ahead of him dont deny him the time with his grandma would you want anyone to deny you your time with yours or what if it was you in her shoes what would you want your grandson to do about you stay at home with his wife or come see you i hope i helped in some way good luck
2007-08-03 06:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goldwing, what can be said? God does some things that we do not understand & we are not supposed to. Perhaps one day it will all make sense. Until then we have to believe & pray. Sorry just never seems enough when this happens. You & your partner will be in my prayers. SALAAM, everyone on here is correct. You do better than most people who were born here. You are also a good friend to Goldwing. Everyone should have a friend like you.
2016-05-17 08:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and get a friend to help you while he's gone. I'd rather visit with someone while I'm alive than know they came to my funeral.
2007-08-03 07:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by aggiegrad84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I attended 3 of my 4 grandparents' funerals(2-4 hrs away) (one died when I was 9),and I understand his desire to go, but your health is more important-he should stay now
2007-08-03 06:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋