Is it mean to send your child to boarding school AND summer camp?

Question

My husband and I are rich, he is always away, but I don't work so I spend most of the day with our 12 year old daughter. She spends her summers at camp, so while she's away I have been thinking about sending her to boarding school for the entire school year. Would it be mean to send her to boarding school and then send her off to summer camp too?

Answer 1

yes it makes them think that you want time without them. they will feel secluded.

Answer 2

EDITED After looking at profile -
Look - you're a kid - if you don't want to go - tell them. Your parents love you - most do - it kinda comes with the territory. Why are they sending you to boarding school? When parents make a decision like this it's not normally because they want to get rid of you. My parents sent me away at 11 - they lived and moved all over the world and they wanted me to have a good education.
Talk to your mom and dad about your concerns.
And edit your profile so noone can email you - not safe. (mom of 2)

Original answer:

The real question here is why?

Why do you want to send your child away?
Is she disruptive? out of control? and you feel you cannot deal with her?

Does she enjoy the adventure of being away? and you feel you cannot offer her as much stimulation as she needs?

Can she get a 'quality' education where you live or will she get a better one away? And how far away - seeing her every weekend is alot different than every couple of months.

As someone that went to boarding school - you have less of a relationship with your parents than you want or in my case needed. My parents missed out on a large chunk of my life and experiences. My parents felt they had no choice and that was a sacrifice they made to give me a better education.

Your daughter still needs you at 12 - I did. Search out your motivations and make a decision based on what is right for her. You only get one chance to raise this child. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Gosh, I can't decide how to properly answer this. It's mean in the sense that you don't work and yet feel the need to send your daughter away from you. Then again, if that's the type of person you are, maybe it's best that she spends time with someone else. Can you see where my dilemma is?

Answer 4

Why do you want to send her to boarding school and summer camp? When are you planning on spending time with her? Is this what she wants? And how does your husband feel about it? I wouldn't make any decisions like that unless I talked to my hubby first.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say that it's mean.

Send or not send....No answer is correct....but I wouldn't say it's mean unless you are trying to be mean.

Some parents are more detached than other...and some suffocate their children. Kids don't need to be far away to be left alone. Some stay at home but are lonely...

I think it has to do with the relationship you have with your child. . As long as you and her are clear about your feelings and she's OK with it and so are you....than great.

(Just don't try to compensate parental absense with money....that never works and always worsens the relationship).

P

Answer 6

why did you even bother to have a child if you don't intend to raise her. Who cares if you are rich. That does not make you a good parent


EDIT: Okay you are an 11 year old. If you do not want to go to boarding school then tell your parents. And stop mentioning how rich you are. No one cares

Answer 7

Why did you and your husband have a child if you have no intentions of raising her! Boarding school and summer camp are not parents you are. Do your job!

Answer 8

Yes it is and if you are as rich as you state you have no excuses not to spend time with her. You have no idea how much all of us other people would love to have the time you choose to give away or should I say send away.

Answer 9

Wow that is really mean...What you dont want to see your child...Ask your child what she thinks about it. Make it seem as if she has an option and not that she is just thrown away some where. Your rich well, pass some money over here...lol...but for real ask her, that sounds like the best thing you can do.

Answer 10

It depends on what kind of parent you are. If you're not a very good one, maybe the best place for her is boarding school. If you think you are, or can be, then maybe the best place is at home. Truthfully, some kids are better raised away from their parents if the parents are not a good influence or create a loving home.

Answer 11

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