how do you cure a broken heart?

Question

I have been married to my husband for 13 years. He cheated about 2 years ago and I forgave him. However, he has gotton to be so mean to me but Im afraid to leave. Where can I get help to make sure my daughter and I will be safe?

Answer 1

If your close to your family, even though your an adult, Id move back home. If not,Leave him anyways.If hes violent, get a restraining order.

as for the broken heart...time is the only thing...Im glad you have a child to love you unconditionally. :)
good luck.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First, I'm sorry for this happen. The worst thing that one of the people in this long relationship did. Don't be afraid, Just try to think that If he loves You and ofcourse You're daughter, he may never did that. I think You and You're daughter may have some days with some bad thinks, But alwaye the Time was the Problem Solver. By Not thinking about this situation, You'll help Yourself and Your daughter. I know it's so hard after 13 Years, But it happend. Always look for Yourself in the Right way, Try and wait for better life, And foget the past, Because the past is past.

I hope You and You're daughter have better day after day!

Answer 4

of course u don't need a cardiologist to fix a heart thats broken. that was a dumb answer someone gave you...but if he's hitting you i can really understand your pain because abuse really hurts so bad. best you could do is not be at home so much if u can't move out. you and your daughter can go shopping or the park go to a friends house, somewhere that doesn't have him in the picture. you need to move or at least get him help because if not it will cause so much damage it's not funny. i been through so much more getting abused by my dad all of my life then a 42 year old lady getting cancer to the head, and I'm only 18 years old. i no there are people who have it worse then i do. it causing so much pain to the point your getting depression, because they downed you that bad having the feeling your worthless and didn't understand why you were born just to get treated like that. no man should disrespect a women thats uncalled for. if he's hurting you call the police if theres no phone u need to get a hold of a friend to let them no what's going on and to report it, because if you don't and if he's to the point hitting you either you or your daughter are going to be hurt really bad or end up laying in your own puddle of blood and you don't want that trust me you don't. if you want me to help you out more please message me on yahoo playas_girl01 or aim LilCa7X i can help you through this.

Answer 5

Wow, what a loaded question! First of all, asking for help/a listening ear is a strong, mature trait.

I'm deeply sorry for the pain you're experiencing. My experience is 2nd hand, yet a good start. Get some individual counseling. Many towns have free services. Ask a minister or doctor for a referral possibly. The counselor will have names/places/advice to fit your circumstances -- and it will be confidential.

Best of luck to you. There will be peace again, in time.

Answer 6

if he is abusing you, then i will try to find a safe house, or a friend/relative that will take you in. if he's just being a jerk, get a good lawyer and make sure he doesnt get custody. if you think your child is suffereing that should be what you need to leave him. honestly, i always considered losing a relationship is like a death of a loved one. you grieve the same way, but you still have to let them go. time will heal. just be string and dont waste another minute on somebody who deosnt love you

Answer 7

Family services. Or check out the resources at a local church or other organizations. You deserve to be with someone who commits to you and your child. Get a job and earn an income so you are less dependent on him. Then move out and take your daughter with you. after that file for divorce and give the dirt bag hell and make him pay for child support. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

im sure there are local support groups where you live- look them up in the phone book or ask a neighbor to help you find a place to stay- your top priority should be getting you and your daughter safe- you can worry about dealing with the heart break later-best of luck to you :)

Answer 9

first, you have to decide if this marriage can be saved.
NOTE-do not put up with physical/emotional abuse. if that's even in the equation, just leave. there are churches and shelters that will help you.
However, I'll play devil's advocate first-
how have you "forgiven" him? did you start having relations again? are you withholding? that would get me pretty mad.
also, he could just be feeling guilty and his remorse may manifest itself in anger towards you. he needs to see a therapist to find out how to deal with this.
is he still cheating? do you want to keep forgiving him?
Let's assume this marriage can be saved. you can talk to your clergy or numerous other agencies that will offer advice. you can go with him or by yourself at first then ease him in without making him feel like it's his fault. they can coach you on what to do/say.
again-if he's abusing you or your daughter, pack what you absolutely need to and go. even if you go to your church or police station. you'll be safer there.

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to get your daughter and leave him... he might be mean to you because he is unhappy in the relationship. When you talk to him about this, let him know that you have noticed he doesn't seem happy, and it might be better to try to go your seperate ways. If you talk to him without trying to fight or point the finger and act more concerned about his well being, you might be surprised at how responsive he will be.