What is the best ways to disipline a 1 year olds who can be very mean?

Question

when she bites, yells, pinches, hits and throws things.

Answer 1

secure, but safe confinement. Attention is what they want, lack of an audience is what they hate. check on her frequently without picking her up. After a while, "conditioning" will teach her that this is just not what she wants.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, youv'e just described a normal one-year-old. She's not mean. She's a toddler.

Grab her hand and tell her clearly and firmly, looking her in the eyes, that there will be NO HITTING, that hitting hurts. Use time outs. Distract her. Put toys away when she throws them.

But don't look at your one-year-old as a "very mean" child. They start out doing those things, and it's our job as parents to correct them. It's not the other way around, where a child is naturally kind and sweet and never hits, and learns to be bad. You're the grownup, she's the baby, what she's doing is natural even if it isn't okay, so try to keep your cool and keep from thinking negative thoughts about her being a "bad baby".

Answer 3

It is hard to say since we do not see the interaction in your family. This child could be demanding attention the only way she knows how. She could also be reacting from being already agitated.

First evaluate your environment.

Any yelling, hitting between you and someone else? If so, she is expressing stress.

Has this child had a tremendous amount of coddling from you and others in the household from birth? If not, she can be developing de-tachment disorder. If so, then you need to take this child to be evaluated so someone can talk to you about how to handle her. This is actually normal.

Regardless, this child is uncomfortable either physically or mentally. She is expressing herself the only way she knows how so do not get frustrated or show your frustration. Kids pick that up and it effects them in a negative way.

You can't punish a child at her age. She just will not get it and continue to act out like she is and it will get worse.

Answer 4

I think it's time to implement a time-out chair. The rule of thumb is making them sit there one minute for each year of their age. I have to wonder why she is so frustrated/angry, does she go to a daycare or something where she gets picked on or learns this behavior? It's not really typical for a one year old to be this angry. If you can, I would talk to her pediatrician too. I'm sure she is fine but, it's best to nip this stuff in the bud. Good luck.

Answer 5

My honey will be 1 in two weeks!
We notice that he repeats bad behavior like biting when we respond with a laugh or a stern NO!
So now we make an effort to ignore it as much as possible and I do see this helping.
Instead of being entertained by my reaction, he goes elsewhere to find fun.

Answer 6

just be firm and explain every time that these things hurt people and its not nice, she will eventually get the picture and also you can try making a timeout spot and start incorporating timeouts with the bad behavior she may not get it right away but just stay steady in what you do and she will! good luck the terrible 2's are next

Answer 7

ok i dont have a child yet but i know lot about children. if your toddler is being mean to you or anybody else have a timeout corner put her in the corner then take away everything that she likes to play with like toys, then keep the room dark for 1 hour with loked windows and doors. wen she stars crying, wich she will take her out of the room feed her play with her make her in good mood then start by telling her to repaet words like thank you and then the meaning o them if that doesnt work then you have to take HARSH action .

Answer 8

First you need to try to ignore if they are not hurting anyone or themselves, then if that doesn't work or the behavior keeps up, try redirection.
Get down to their level, and then a firm "NO", but not yelling.
If all else fails, i would put them in their crib (or other "naughty" space) for one minute per year of age until they can calm down.

Answer 9

and she's only 1??? I was taking things easy untill i was at least 5. Try the walking away... She only does it to get attention. Do you have another son/daughter??? Maybe she just feels neglected so she shouts and screems... Just walk away for a few minutes then when she stops go back to see her..

Answer 10

hmm, good question. Almost every book I read says to not pay much attention to the mean actions but try to play a game where she gets rewarded if she doesn't do them! Not so much punishing, be calm and firm, don't lose it or scream. Children at that age compare if you do it then why can't they.