I've been broke up with my ex for a little over 4 years now. I'm in a new relationship and engaged. But there are times when I still think about my first love. Is this normal to be thinking about him?
2007-08-03 05:38:24 · 22 answers · asked by farmergyrl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still talk to him every now and then he'll call me up. But we live in the same town so I run into him occassionally. But I just can't seem to really get over him.
2007-08-03 05:40:33 · update #1
Yes, you will always care about your first true unless it ended really bad. In time your feelings will become less & less until you will just have fond memories. But if you really loved this guy, you will always care for him and wish him the best. Good luck with your marrige & remember just because you think back on the good times you had with your ex doesn't mean you don't love your fiance.
2007-08-03 05:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by none 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be more about what you are thinking vs. the fact that you are engaged.
Yes, you usually get over your first love. But if you are dwelling on him and are engaged, you need to stop moving forward with the engagement and assess what you really want. It might not even be the old boyfriend. It might be you are having second thoughts about marriage and the outlet is the first love.
2007-08-03 05:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal. When you spend a long time with someone you have feelings about them. Those feelings don't always go away. I think about one of my x's every now and then and wonder how she's doing and what's she's up to. That doesn't mean I don't love the person I'm with or that I want to be with my ex. It just means I spent a lot of time with them and that I'm curious about how they are now. You'll think of them less and less as time goes on.
2007-08-03 05:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. If you have gotten intimate with him that is a very big bond. That is like being married and you became one. When you broke up it is like divorce in a sense and can feel like it and a death . That would feel very bad . I know because I dated a man when I was young for that lonjg as well. I think Not keeping in contact would be best . Ask God to help you focus on the man you are engaged to . So you can be faithful in mind as well as body.This is what i believe.
Anna
2007-08-03 05:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and focus on your new love. what would happen if your first love came back and said he still loves you and you'r the one for him. Would u consider him? if so..i think you dont love your fiance enough to stay with him because you run the risk of hurting him later on. If you keep thinking about your first love and letting the idea of you two linger in your head..the more chances u have of developing strong feelings for him all over again and acting out on them. It all starts with the mind.
So...stop thinking about him. just focuz on all the reasons he was not good for you. You did afterall end the relationship for a reason.
2007-08-03 05:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by PrettyBright 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you ever get over your first love. If you are young and you experience love that doesn't last but have fond memories of the person you usually wonder what things would have been like if you all were still together.
2007-08-03 05:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by REDHOPE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over your first love I don't think. I am still hooked on my first love & that was 2 years ago. You can still be happy with someone else though. Good luck
2007-08-03 05:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope, you'll never stop loving them. Once you feel committed to love someone at one time, it'll always be there, unless that person became psychotic or turned out to be evil and wanted to hurt you to the point you actually feel hatred/disgust for them. Otherwise, no. You'll always love them. Like how love of everything else always stays. Like unconditional love between parents and children, or love between two good friends, etc... I know it stinks. You can't do anything about it, it's like an imprint on your brain.
2007-08-03 05:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Findout Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutely is normal. I've been broken up with my first love for 6 years and I think about him a lot still. It sucks, but I absolutely understand
2007-08-03 05:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Glitters15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl it is normal, i had my first love when i was 14 and i am now 27 and i still think about him and pretty often too. this will probably be life long because it is true you always have your first love in your heart. you don't just forget the first person to ever stir those feelings inside you even if you find the "one" even if you get someone else i haven't talk to mine since i was 16 years old and still he is on mind don't worry about it
2007-08-03 05:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋