what can i do to my girlfriend and i's relationship more exciting
i want us BOTH to be happy
we had sex and after that everything got boring
she is not a thing or tool
everything just got boring after that
oh and i forgot to mention im 13...
i really regret doing it
i miss the memories of just having fun
i wish i didn't do it
it really is meant for older people
i am just a kid
i can't take back having sex though
i wish i could
i just want everything to be how it was , fun and exciting
i don't want any lectures i already feel bad enough as it is
2007-08-03 05:33:28 · 15 answers · asked by Bob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sorta do feel like i pressured her
no shes not pregnant
how do i keep going out with her
but not act like grown ups when we have already gone this far
honestly i wanna go back to doing kid things
like kiss , hold hands , hangout
but the problem is idk how to start it all over again
this is the last time i will post something like this
2007-08-03 05:48:21 · update #1
well lol idk where im even going to start...but first off...dont take this personal or think i think any less of you...
Alright...so you did have sex...lol well its easy when your so close to someone you LOVE to feel comfortable around them but im sorry to tell you that when you have sex at an early age and dont understand relationships as much as you would when your older, those are like your binding attachment strings....what i mean is, now that you have done that things are not going to seem as exciting anymore because its like ok,
i have watched this movie over and over its not interesting anymore and once you get a new one you realize how much cooler this new movie is and you dont want to ever watch the lame one again hahaha ok bad analogy but sorry i have a.d.d.
what im trying to say is that because you are younger it doesnt make much sense but what i think and this is my opinoin...but i think that you really were to young and were not in love with this person. If you were, you wouldnt regret it you would see it as ok i really did care a lot about this person and this was something you wanted to share with them...then after doing it you realized you made a mistake and you guys learn from it together...its hard to explain and probably doenst make much sense but i was 15 when i did it but i dated the guy for a year and this guy is a freaking horn dog so im suprised it didnt happen earlier....
when you do stuff like that at such an early age its either because of hormones that couldnt be controlled and it was not talked or properly planned out or, you really care about that person because you shared something so special but now if you break up with them, every single person you date, you will compare to that person...even if you dont try to you will and thats the worst thing...
your right you cant take it back but you have to turn it around to a good thing as weird as it sounds..what i mean is ya you realize you did this but what you learned from it was that when you have sex it takes away the purpose of why your dating and its something pleasurable. you also learned that your not ready to be doing stuff like that which is huge and you can use that later on in life to prevent yourself from doing it again...even though this all happened you learn from every mistake you make in life and sometimes i wish i never did do any of what i did but then i remeber how much pain it saved me in the future relationships and i set boundaries and i learned how to control how much feeling to put into something....im sorry about you and your gf but if you really did care and love the person then you would be happy just being with them and i guess untill you experience the true feeling of love lol you wont know what im talking about....
but best of luck!
2007-08-03 05:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what's done it's done and you can't go back and fix it. Yes you stared kind of early in life, but don't worry. What's going on is that you are not ready for a relationship at this early time in your life. Don't feel bad for having sex I mean it's not a bad thing, it's normal in the everyday life. But of course you r too young and what if you get a girl pregnant and then what, u will have to face the responsibilities whether your young or not. So be careful there is plenty of time for you to later on in your more mature years to have sex the right and loving way. It hap pend and why feel bad, explain to her how u feel stay good friends. Don't feel sorry sex is wonderful and u will learn how to appreciate it as u get older. Finish school and have a fun and great life.
Good luck
2007-08-03 05:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate you had sex when you weren't emotionally ready but like you said you can't change that. It seems that some times when you have had sex with someone the focus of your relationship changes, the sex becomes the focus. Try talking to you girlfriend, she may feel the same way. Tell her how you feel and that you are not ready to continue a sexual relationship with her but still want her as your girlfriend. Then start doing the things you enjoyed together before having sex.
You sound like a smart fellow and that you realize you made a mistake, forgive yourself. View this a life lesson and learn from it. Stop beating yourself up, we all make mistakes.
2007-08-03 05:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Choqs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well iloveamber115 it sounds like you are very remorseful for trying to act like an adult at your tender age. Now that you've had the experience there is nothing that either of you can do to turn it around. So now is the time to attempt to act your age of 13 and have some fun in your live, rather than worry about the possibility of getting a girl pregnant of contacting an STI. WIse words you have shared with other youth.
2007-08-03 05:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she feels the same way I know that is how I felt I made a huge mistake but unfortunately for me I didn't try and go back I kept going forward thank god I was lucky and never got pregnant but that is always a possibility. I would have loved for my BF to say hey lets not do this lets go back to the way things were.. But he didn't and I didn't and then it did become all about sex and we broke up. He was my first crush and he broke my heart. The best thing you can do is talk to her..
2007-08-03 06:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by bluefastblaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it's the sex that you regret;it's the way you and your' girl were with each other that you really miss.Well,why did it change?Did you start acting different?Did she?Both?Stop worrying about things you can't change.Think of something fun,and call her up and see if she wants to go do it.If she does,see how it goes.It might be just like it was.Or it might not.Sometimes that just happens,there's not always a reason.Talk to her,see what she thinks.Good luck.
2007-08-03 05:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your GF and tell her that you dont wanna have sex and give her your reasons. You acted in an adult manner by having sex so its to late to say "lets be kids again" you have to finish your problem like an adult and that means talking it out with your GF. She'll be fine...she may just feel the same way as you do.
2007-08-03 05:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by divers_godeeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you can't really call her your girl friend and by the way this is the third time you post this question
2007-08-03 05:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm... Find better positions...lol sorry I take that back. Umm. Maybe if you talk to her and connect with her emotionally, make things exciting in a different way... Idk, you probably don't wanna hear this but it might be over.
2016-01-22 10:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by carter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and i bet you pressured her, if your a guy and you feel this bad, think about how she must feel! way to go Einstein. you should have thought about your decision and what people have been telling you. and didn't you post this yesterday?
2007-08-03 05:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋