A pet peeve of mine has always been people that I don't know making physical contact with me, like tapping you with their hand when they had a question or something. I personally consider it a violation of my personal space, rude and disrespectful.
Yesterday a guy tapped me on the arm when he wanted to know the time, and I just snapped at him. Some of my friends feel the same way I do, where as other friends of mine don't see a issue with it.
What are your guys take on it?
2007-08-03 05:17:24 · 25 answers · asked by Turbofan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Whoops, when I initially asked the question, I forgot to mention I don't have a problem with females touching me, but if it's a guy, they better keep their hands off!
2007-08-03 05:25:02 · update #1
To "me e"
re your answer: I actually have some friends that are in the other orientation, but they respect my boundaries! :) It actually hit me after I put that update in that some might think I was being phobic.
2007-08-03 06:01:23 · update #2
If a chick is hot, she can touch me in appropriate ways all day long. It doesn't hurt anything and it is kinda groovy.
2007-08-03 05:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Eric W 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Obviously u are from U.S.A. Touching like u mention is really common lots of places other than U.S.A.
But there are more polite ways to let a person know that u are uncomfortable with touching. The best is just tell em straight out that u feel uncomfortable with it.
And it isn't being rude or disrespectful when people do this...just a different custom. U shouldn't be angry or rude to a person for this reason.
U are VERY lucky u don't live in Italy or France or u would be VERY uncomfortable ALL THE TIME.
As for my personal take on it...I really don't give a rat's bum either way. I can usually tell a person's intentions by their demeanour anyhow, and I go by that.
2007-08-03 05:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in an extremely close, big Greek family in which hugs and kisses were a greeting no matter when the last time you saw the person was, little cousins just lay right on top of you if they're tired and people will touch your shirt if they like it or just brush your bangs out of your face (my grandmother does that to me, haha)
Now, this is family and while it is extensive, we're European! They were raised like that and so I'm used to it.
HOWEVER, when complete strangers tap me, touch my shirt if they like it, or even brush up against me on the train, in a store, etc, I have a fit, as well.
I do not know them and I guess I just get my fill of physical closeness at home. Besides, there is plenty of room, I don't need to be crowded... I especially hate when a woman is right behind me when I'm looking at clothes on a rack. Why can't she just wait one second until I'm done grabbing my size? Crowding me makes me uncomfortable and I'm not going to just move since you obviously want to be here so badly. I can't stand those people! They think if they crowd you, you'll get nervous and move. Instead, they just get a rude look, a rude comment and have to move the heck out of my way so I can move on to the next rack.
Geez...sorry. I guess it all makes me more upset than I realize.
2007-08-03 05:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by sofia 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 03:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like when people i do not know come up to me and play punch me or you know give me a nice slap on the shoulder. When that happens i normally get quiet, because i don't want to say anything rude to them and try to figure out what they want. Even though it annoys me its a fact of life some people act that way.
2007-08-03 05:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by whitehawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mind a simple tap oor touch, but if it turns into a pinch or slap in an inappropriate area, then I get a little edgy!! But that is really the only way to get someones attention if you dont know their name.......
2007-08-03 05:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont get upset at little things like this. If I tapped someone to ask them the time and they snapped, I would probably snap also. Thats ridiculous.
2007-08-03 05:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't bother me when people tap me on the shoulder to ask something. However it made me angry when complete strangers thought it was okay to touch my pregnant belly.
2007-08-03 05:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you on this for he reasons you just mentioned. course it's especially bad if the person has bad personal hygiene. grr. if it's a little old lady though 'scuse me dear...' i tend to let it pass with a smile rather than a look of hatred. :)
just noticed ur update! do you somehow think the guys are trynna come on to you? if that's what it is you've just gotta chill!
2007-08-03 05:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, take it easy. There's definitely a line that shouldnt be crossed, but tapping you on the arm is pretty harmless.
I guess it depends on how he did it though...it might be inappropriate.
But if you dont like it, you dont have to tolerate it.
Personally I wouldnt mind complete strangers ruffling my hair or giving me wedgies.
2007-08-03 05:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like to be touched at all, even by people I know, with a few exceptions. I go so far as to tell people I work with not to hug me.
Add: Ummm, why the thumbs down?
2007-08-03 05:19:52 · answer #11 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋