I need advice Jehovah's Witnesses?

Question

There is a guy who is interested in me, but I am not. He wants my number, and wants to know if I'll go out w/him. Being raised a JW I made the choice of not getting married (I am 22) and wait until paradise. Seeing how the world is and that marriage is not a happy union in this place, I would rather wait until Jehovah has brought his paradise to actually enjoy the sanctity of marriage. What should I tell him? I've thought about telling him that I am seeing someone within my congregation just to keep him out, but I'd be lying to him. By the way, this is phone conversations from work. I met him only once last year. What can I tell him? I have never had a boyfriend, and don't plan on it. Due to my choices, there is another problem. People at work are saying I am a lesbian, not full out but their intentions and behavior makes me believe that they think that. I know I am not, I've already expressed my intentions. Any suggestions on how to handly both situations?

And I am happy being single.

I haven't been going to meetings in a long time, but I am starting to now. The years that I didn't go to meetings it wasn't due to because I didn't believe or because I was doing bad things. Really, I spend most of my time at home or doing errands. But seeing how Armageddon is so close I want to make my priority to start attending meetings, and start talking to Jehovah. There was no real good reason to stop attending.

Okay, I told him already that I am not intereted and I want to follow my path for Jehovah! I feel so relieved. He apologized for bothering me.

I understand this is not the place to post such question, and either way people still slander the name of Jehovah. I needed advice as soon as possible, an it couldn't wait until I talked to an elder or a sister or even my mother. I choose to remain single for my own being, but it is hard to make people understand why without them slandering my integrity. Thanks to everyone's good advice here I was able to resolve this problem that I needed to fix. Whenever a case where a man (who's not Jehovah's Witness) is interested in me, I know now what to respond. Thank you for your sincere advice.

Answer 1

Getting marry or remain single is a choice. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. In fact, you can do more for Jehovah if you are single. I agree with you that in this system, being married is hard work (because we are imperfect). Though, you choose to remain single, circumstances might change in the future so be flexible with yourself then. I commend you for your choice of staying single.

Here are few verses I could think of for you:

1 Corinthians 7:36-38, “But if anyone thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virginity, if that is past the bloom of youth, and this is the way it should take place, let him do what he wants; he does not sin. Let them marry. 37 But if anyone stands settled in his heart, having no necessity, but has authority over his own will and has made this decision in his own heart, to keep his own virginity, he will do well. 38 Consequently he also that gives his virginity in marriage does well, but he that does not give it in marriage will do better.”

About your co-workers, don’t let them get to you. Just remember that if anyone persecutes you for being integrity keepers, be happy because you are actually making your Father’s heart rejoice. (Proverbs 27:11) You should be glad that you have high moral standards and being favor by Jehovah than for you to get tangle up with gossip just to stress out yourself. I know it’s easy said than done. Like the bros/sis said, wt mags will do the trick.

Answer 2

Honey, as a JW myself I can tell you that you will not receive much advice here. Just mentioning JW will make people post immature answers. I would suggest first taking the matter to Jehovah in prayer. You mentioned that you were raised as a JW; well, are you still one? If so, why not talk to the mature older sisters in the congregation that can give you good advice. Also, being that I am the same age as you, I contemplate dating and marriage myself, but keeping focused on spiritual goals will do us better. Why not read the Family Happiness book and the chapters in the Young People Ask book that deal with dating and marriage? They help me a lot! And since u stated that you're happy being single, just continue to rely on Jehovah for strength to stay chaste while single. Being single isn't a bad thing!

But, above all, take it to Jehovah and ignore what others say about you; especially the people at work.

Answer 3

that's good..I'm 25 and i think the same has you..why settle for know when the future in near...and you will live a life with out the problems of this horrible violent deadly world and why cope with pain and suffering when in the new world you will be perfect...sister you go back to the meetings and grow strong again and if it comes in this world or in Paradise ... its your choice has long has both serve Jehovah...maybe he was not the one who got your eye..nor in 5 or 6 years but mean well serve God...and don't let go of him, and he will send you want you need to be happy mean well we get to your goal...paradise..and read this Proverb 30:31 and you will be happy...also yes many guys in the congregation may find you attractive bye your act like Ruth 2:10"At that she fell upon her face and bowed down to the earth and said to him: “How is it I have found favor in your eyes so that I am taken notice of, when I am a foreigner" but keep your faith and goals and mind and just tell them what they are and they should respect you sister...and work well gossip can be bad but just take the Awake and the Watchtower and they will get the message...

Answer 4

this is not the place to be asking this question. many on here will slander us because we are Jehovah Witnesses. as far as the fellow, just keep telling him that you are not interested in dating anyone. as far as marriage, I was married for 35 years before my husband passed away three and half years ago. he became a brother on the same day that I did. yes no marriage is perfect in this world. marriage is hard work. yes many do decide not to marry that is your choice. I would speak to an elder and tell him what is going on. also pray to Jehovah God. as far as your job saying such awful things. you and Jehovah know that truth, don't let it bother you. take this from a mother and a sister.

Answer 5

I am divorced and have been for 5 years now. I'm a lot older than you, but I hear that too or am asked "Whats wrong with you?"
Truth is, I'm not looking and I haven't met anyone yet that I think that can put up with me or that I can put up with. Until that day, I'm staying single.
I have a python for company, and my brothers and sisters too.
My daughter was baptized this summer and I have hopes of my son in law joining her soon.

Answer 6

I'm not a JW but my ex-wife was.If you really are a JW than you might ask your elders about how to deal with questions like this. Legally, this seems to be more like discrimination and sexual harassment. You might also consider speaking to your supervisor as well. Life is full of tests.This sounds like one about your own free will. You shouldn't allow yourself to be pulled down to their level of thinking and logic. It sounds like you're using your own logic regardless of any religion or temptation.
Some people usually just say that they're not ready for a relationship right now.

Answer 7

You don''t owe anyone an explanation for the way you live your life. Just tell him that you don't date, and as for the people at work, gossip is so tacky. I guess they have nothing better to do. Ignore them.

Answer 8

1st. Don't give him your phone number. Don't go out with him.

2nd. If this guy is at work, warn him once that if he continues this line of conversation you are going to your boss and his.

3rd. At work with your co workers, leave copies of the WT or Awake that deals with the topic of Dating / Lesbians / Marriage, or any other subject you want to discuss.

When a co worker walks by, mention the article and what you appreciated about it.

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Answer 9

Hey just tell him that you are seriously committed to living out your faith as a Jehovah's Witness and that you would want to take him on a door knocking campaign. Then tell him all about your beliefs and don't stop talking and don't let him get in a word edgewise. He will never call you again.

Or you can say that you don't date people outside of your faith. Which is true and be done with it.

Answer 10

Just tell him what you told us (it will scare him away)

And about the lesbian issue- Who cares what people think, the truth is what matters...