My brother in law whose about 16 i think and sister in law whos about 13 are here to visit my wife for about 2 weeks....well so far they've been treating and making my house look like a pig stye.......and my wife is getting mad at me because i tell her to tell them something about it at least to clean up after themselves......should I just go along with it and suck it up for about 2 weeks or should I just tell them something??
2007-08-03 04:53:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell them to clean their mess
2007-08-03 04:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age that they are at, there is no excuse for them to treat anyone's house with that much lack of respect. Let them know first off that this is your home, not theirs. Second, it is very disrespectful to you and their sister to have to constantly pick up after them like 2yr. olds.Third of all, if they can't come over and take better care of themselves then they don't come over at all, regardless of what anyone says because you are the one who pays the bills, not them.
If family gets involved keep your foot down and don't budge.Your house deserves to be kept clean and presentable no matter who is staying over.You are no ones maid and that goes for your wife too.Family is family,but to constantly have to clean up after them is unacceptable.
When my kids go to someones house they know that they had better clean up after themselves or they get the royal treatment from mom and dad.What they do on the outside has a reflection of how well the parents raised their kids. Their mom might let them get away with it at their house but when they go to someone elses house they should have the decency to respect that persons house and not leave it like a bomb hit it.
Set forth rules and regulations for when they come down to visit.Let their parents know also how they have been treating your house and that there will not be anymore of it.Just because they are family doesn't mean you can't say something.What if the shoe was one the other foot and your siblings went to their house and did the same to them? I think they would say something to you, wouldn't you?
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-08-03 05:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you didn't set down house rules when they first arrived, it's partially YOUR fault too.
when we have visitors, especially children, they need to know that while they are very welcome, they need to follow our guidlines and respect our homse.
perhaps it's time to have a calm and rational talk with your wife about rules for these kids and then get together with the kids and ask them if they'd kindly help out around the house, and take some time every day to pick up after themselves.
it wouldn't hurt for them to help around there, anyway... dishes, vaccuming or a few little chores a week... after all, you're feeding them and keeping a roof over their heads for the time being...
take care.
2007-08-03 05:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your house too. Politely tell them that if they don;t respect your home to get the Hell out and if your wife doesn't agree tell her that too.
2007-08-03 04:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋