Heres the situation.for the past 2 month I have been carting my brother to football practicealong with my kids

Question

well this week my husbanda car broke down so we only have the use of one car...I informed my mom and she suggested I use their extra car..aye heres the rub...she wants me to walk 1-2 miles with my 3 kids to her house..pick up her car, pickup my brothers and his friends (carpool) and then drive the care straight back to their house and walk back home with my kids...now this is the problem while I was doing this my father called often syaing he knew how many miles to and from the school and to make sure I fill up the car and not drive it anywhere else! by the way Im 27 years old.....so when I dropped off my brother I took some meat from my parents storage freezer outside..now they are calling the whole family saying Im a thief and I cant afford to feed my kids cuz of my boob job..(what a fallacy) I simply didnt have transportation...was I worng for that or was it simply fair trade? I fully believe that as my kids get older they are welcome to food and drink of any kind in my house

I have never once been offered gas money and I wouldnt have taken it...I think that its just a little selfish on my parents part...when someone does you a favor you dont inconveinence them

just for the record..I have money to feed my kids...it was just a tranportation and convenience issue..which I now totally regret

Answer 1

i can't see why your mother couldn't drive the car to your place, and then you could take her home before going to football practice with the kids.. a mile or two walk never hurt anyone, but every time you have to go to practice? that's extreme.

taking the meat from her freezer without permission was probably a bad idea.. but your mom's broadcasting it to everyone is a little childish. the issue is between YOU and HER not everyone in town.

i think it's perfectly OK to give things to our kids when they get older, but i don't think i'd appreciate my sons (who are 31 and 21) rifling through my cupboards and freezer taking things... if they ask, i'd be pleased to give them anything they'd like.

take care.

Answer 2

Sounds like your parents don't see it that way. Since they lended you their car, they felt as though you owed them. I'm surprised they didn't charge you wear and tear on the car. If you took some meat home with you, was there a problem in telling them, or asking them first? Even though you as the child should be able to come home and pick things out as you please, it's still common courtesy to ask. Even if you feel as though they owe it to you. But, they shouldn't be calling the rest of the family saying you were a thief. That isn't true. This is summer time, and they expected you to WALK with your kids to their house?? And then WALK back? Ugh...Didn't they have a second car? I feel for you. Your parents shouldn't have been so anal about this whole thing. What was wrong in bringing you the car and then you dropping them back off at home? Sounds like you really can't depend on your parents. They expected way too much out of you for this small favor you asked of them. Instead of gossiping to other family members about how you can't afford to feed your children, they should have offered to help you. Any GOOD parent would do that. I'm sorry your parents are such butts. No child/adult should have to go through that with their parents. Shame on them.