I am going to a Wedding. Here is the problem. I have known this kid for roughly 7 yrs in grade school. Then before 1st yr of high school he moved and we lost touch. It has now been roughly 7 yrs since I have seen this guy. His mom invited us. How much should I give for a wedding gift if I am bringing a date?
(on a side note): His bachelor party was on my 21st birth. They told me and a few other guys (who have not seen him for 7 years also) to meet up at the casino but they would call us at about 2pm after they go fishing . Since I have kept touch with all the other guys every1 decided to meet up at my house. Unfortunately, some guys could not get to my house until 5. So we waited until all of us were at my house and we called the groom and the bach. party people and they ended up telling us to sit tight at my house because they decided 2 go play 9 holes of golf. So we ended up meeting up at 9pm and I almost did not even get to celebrate my 21st. We talked only a half hour n they left!
2007-08-03 03:33:16 · 13 answers · asked by MB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sorry, I thought I had a 1000 word limit. Anyhow, me and the friends I did stay in touch with were all upset because the bachelor party made us wait 7 hours because they decided to play golf!
2007-08-03 03:35:25 · update #1
And yeah, the first time I have seen this kid in seven years is for the bachelor party that he pretty much hoed us out in. As I stated his mom invited us to the wedding thinking it would be nice to have a litle reunion. I do think this is a small wedding though.
2007-08-03 03:38:02 · update #2
35 bucks is plenty considering
2007-08-04 12:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many years you knew the groom in gradeschool or how many hours he made you wait for the bachelor party to begin are not calculated into the amount/price of the wedding gift you choose. Whether or not you bring a date is not part of the calculation, either. You also don't consider how much the happy couple spent on your dinner, since a polite guest wouldn't dream of even attempting to figure that out.
What should be calculated is how much money you have available to spend vs how much of it you feel like spending on the groom. $5 or $500, it's up to you. Wedding gifts, while traditional and certainly very welcome, are not even actually required by etiquette.
From the fact that you haven't actually been in contact with the groom for some time and his change of plans allowed you to spend a whopping half hour with him at his bachelor party, I'd say you're not too close. I'd back you if you decided to forgo a gift and send a congratulatory note instead...and I'd back you if you decided to send him a lavish gift for old time's sake.
Just make sure you base your decision on what you have and what you want to spend rather than on some arcane calculation or impertinant assumptions about how much has been spent on entertaining you.
2007-08-03 11:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good price for a gift as a nice gesture would be a price range of $20 to $50,especially since he's not a good friend anymore and somewhat disregarded you on your birthday to hang out. If it were me I would not go to his wedding not so much as revenge but why bother in puttin effort in a guy who's disregarded you and not really show any interest in getting a friendship back on track,dont worry about it really,if you go take a gift,if you dont go you can send him a gift or dont gift him at all. Dont try to "win" his friendship by going out of your way to get an awesome gift,then you'll just seem desperate for friends,especially since you haven't seen him in 7+ years. Just be decent and go on with your life.
2007-08-03 14:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by happyhive7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a 50 dollar gift sounds about right. I usually try to stay between 50 and hundred depending on how well I know the person. Anything less than that I find sort of cheap. If they have a registry get them something off of that, if not, then get them a gift card somewhere or just give them cash with a card. All the cash we got we used to pay off our honeymoon. I am sure they would love to be able to do that.
2007-08-03 10:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If u want to go to the wedding, by a nice card and enclose a 20-40.00 gift card from a nice restaurant. If u dont want to go to the wedding then send them a nice card saying congrats on the nuptials and move on ...
2007-08-03 11:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blame him for you sitting around for 7 hours on your birthday. Personally I would've waited for an hour and then gone out, telling him you couldn't make it because of the delay. It shouldn't affect what kind of gift you buy him. No need to spend more than $35 if you can't afford it.
2007-08-03 10:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by tink 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
WOW I wouldn't even go he aounds like an a$$. As far as a wedding gift goes you really don't have to bring one but if you want to bring one, I would say aroung $35-50. I really wouldn't spend anymore with the way he treated you.
2007-08-03 10:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by mhireangel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
cause your a young fella i don't imagine you have tonnes of cash to spend on a gift (i'm only assuming)
so i'd probably spend about 25-50$
but thats just me.. check out to see if they have a registery..
i usually just buy some glasses or something thats un expensive but on the registery
2007-08-03 11:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something off of the registry and a nice card.
2007-08-03 10:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you're not all that close to the guy anymore and probably have never met the girl, $100 is fine.
2007-08-03 10:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋