If you knew your child was going to be born with special needs, would you have an abortion?

Question

special needs- as in the child would be in a wheelchair for the rest of their life, has to be fed, can hardly talk.... serious 'special needs' - would you get an abortion, or would you raise this child?

Answer 1

I would raise the child, there is obviously a reason that, that child was chosen for me and I would take that opportunity and give that child everything i had.

Answer 2

No, I don't think I would. Any special-needs person I know would not say "You know, this wheelchair sucks, I really wish my mom had killed me before birth."

It's still a child, special needs or not. If your three-year-old were in a horrible accident that left him with special needs, would you finish him off because the rest of his life will really be hard for him? No you would not, because you love him.

I don't know how it is with other mothers, but the moment I saw those two pink lines on the EPT test, I loved my kids. The argument that it would hurt YOU less to abort a baby you've never met as opposed to doing away with a handicapped child you've had time to love is null and void: just ask any woman who has had a miscarriage or a stillbirth.

Honestly, though, I thank God every day that I've never had to make that choice, so my answer is purely hypothetical. I could not imagine ever getting to a point where I would abort a baby rather than bring a "special needs" baby into the world. But I don't imagine any parent who made that decision came to it easily, so I can't very well say I wouldn't struggle with it, never having been there before.

Answer 3

I would only have in abortion if the child was so handicapped that he would suffer in pain his whole life or if he could not live without life support. There is alot of familys with children with disabilities that live happy lives. If you choose you can't take care of a special child you can always put him up for adoption. Some familys go out of there way to adopt special needs children because they are trained to do so. Special kids need love to and iam sure once you look a your child it wouldnt matter if he had problems or not. good luck

Answer 4

NO. I would raise the child. My wife and I do not feel that abortion is the answer.

If the baby or the mother is in a seriously life threatening state and one or both will die without abortion, then one may be justified, but only in such extreme cases.

If you are not able to raise the baby, there are plenty of people who have the lovbe and patience needed who will gladly adopt it.

And my wife has a "special needs" cousin, who she visits regularly, so we do know the hardships involved by choosing to keep the baby.

Answer 5

I wouldn't have an abortion. To me, that is like saying that all the special needs people in the world 1) did not deserve to be here and/or 2) do not contribute anything positive to the world. Having special needs is better than not having a life at all. I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a special-needs person who wishes they had never been born, or a mother of a special-needs person who honestly wishes she had had the abortion.

Answer 6

No I won't. Abortion is just a lousy excuse of being a person of irresponsibility, decent morals, and lack of caring ability for some. It would be hard on my conscience to know that I've aborted a child of mine because of some form of disability, that would just be something that I'd have to live with everyday. I have a good friend whose son has C.P. and she loves and cares for him just as she does her other child. To her he's not that different, and neither have I ever heard her complain or stress that his disability is taking a toll on her. It sounds easier said than done, and too, I'm not currently facing that situation but children are a gift from God, whether handicapped or not and should be treated as such, regardless of what deformities they may have been born with. Though it may be costly/expensive and very demanding there are other options that a parent can see to, such as having a live in nanny that assists in taking care of the child solely, or adoption...which I'm sure there may be many other better options than adoption.

Answer 7

Honestly honey... I wouldn't wish your situation on anyone. That is a tough one... and I can't say I would do it or woulnd't. How far along are you and will beable to afford the financial and medical needs this child will have? I probably couldn't get an abortion because I would be attached to that child and if you have religous beliefs or follow a faith you would know that everything happens for a reason... so maybe this child is this way for a reason! whatever you deceide I wish you the best... it takes a strong person to make the right decision! hope all works out for ya!

Answer 8

This is a very ethical question. I'm am totally pro chioce, but IMO i dont think i would like it if my gf aborted a child with out consulting me. But you have to look at this from the childs view, how will his quality of life be, confined to a wheel chair or having down syndrome isnt the same as being born with out limbs or something like that. Your best bet would be to talk to a few doctors see what they have to say. b/c you dont want to get an abortion and then say "could my child have lived a fruitful life" if i didnt abort it.

Answer 9

I would raise my child. Just because the child might be different does not mean you should kill it. They deserve a life just like we do....its not like they chose how they are or anything so why judge them? If you can not handle it, you can always give her up for adoption....tons of people would love that child no matter what. Plus sometimes docs say the child will have special needs and they come out just fine...what if they misjudge your childs diagnosis? No matter what wouldnt you feel guilty that you denied this child life special needs or not?

Answer 10

It's hard to say. Well if the baby was not more than 14 week in the womb it might be a possibility. And some mothers do not have the support from family or the baby's dad so they would have a hard time raising the baby. But as for me it would have to be a decision for me and that baby's father but personally I would if it was before the 14 weeks. I know this is selfish but its better for the baby as well. For example would you want to be a person who would never be able to do anything without supervision no, that child will never have a normal life.

Answer 11

No!!! Would you of wanted to be aborted because you weren't what people think is normal? I would raise my child NO DOUBT!! You know it's funny how people can talk about having abortions because they're already here, they've been born. But they want to stop someone elses life from happening ...how sad!