When I was younger, my parents especially my dad never made me do chores and didn't ask me about school or how my work was going.
I had an eating disorder and still my dad didn't even notice that I wasn't eating. I mean aren't parents supposed to care about how school is going?? And if you're making friends etc? And, it's not like my parents worked a lot.
My mum also gave me so many hobbies like ballet, I didn't really get a chance to develop my own interests.
Is that some kind of neglect?
2007-08-03 03:04:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, I continued not to eat because I had low self esteem and my family never ate meals together. My parents are separated now.
2007-08-03 03:12:01 · update #1
My parents are separated and my mum had a child before and she ended up a heroin addict so I guess those were some of the reasons also.
2007-08-03 03:15:35 · update #2
Yeah, you guys are right. I guess it really is time for me to let go of the past.
Thankyou for your advice. :)
2007-08-03 04:54:45 · update #3
I'm so sorry to hear about your eating disorder. And yes, you are right! Parents are supposed to care about what goes on in your life.
I to had the same problem, I didn't get a chance to be me because i was forced into doing things i didn't want to do so i know how you feel and i'm sorry to hear you had to go through this.
Yes, unfortunately this is neglect but what I've learnt to do now is to be my own parent and give myself all the attention and love I didn't get as a child. Treat the inner child and give it all the love and support it needs or didn't get before.
You should try this, it really helps alot. Also, the best thing about being an adult is that we choose what we do in life as oppose to when where young we don't get to choose so much.
So, whatever you want to do in life and whatever your dreams are NOW, GO FOR THEM and don't let them or anyone else stop you!!!
Hope this helps,
cheers!
2007-08-03 03:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Purple Vengeance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your parents are more self absorbed with themselves and yes that is a type of neglect (but they may not realize it). Some parents pile on the hobbies not thinking about what the kid wants or if the kid will get burnt out. I would have an open conversation with them. Don't yell neglect, but mention that it would be nice if they showed more concern towards your day and YOU, in general.
Good Luck.
2007-08-03 10:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by ~BluemoonAngel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't really matter, does it? Its in the past. Your life is in your hands, not your parents(from the sound of it). Get some help in learning to cope with the hand you were dealt and be a grown up. A grown up doesn't blame everyone else for their problems.
2007-08-03 10:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it neglect. They tried to give you a good life, parents don't always know how to be "hands on" they just do the best they can.
2007-08-03 10:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's difficult for adults who remain emotional children to have an raise their own kids.
your parents aren't grown ups
2007-08-03 10:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just not knowing ,we sometimes get into parenting before we are ready, you heard of babies having babies,
2007-08-03 10:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had your parents...
2007-08-03 10:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋